Would you prefer to be the other gender?

Hi Karen, who knows, you may have had young colin on your friendship list all along deceiving you. He did make an excessive amount of discussions.

Hello....I read the discussion header question, scanned to quickly and missed the whole point!! No, I've never been tempted to do that. If I had found out someone had done it to me, I think I'd feel more betrayed/lied to than anything else.

i have never stated that i am a rabbit

no, but you did state you were a snowman....

Well I must say I didn't report it for ages as I was having such fun winding him/her up, but the excuses and vulgarities issued upon discovery have been pathetic. Does it count that Colin has now had a quick gender change on his profile page but is stuck with his female name?

well, it was how I met my 'lizbeth actually, lol, I say it worked out pretty well.

Oh I wasn't having a go about meeting on the internet and you were lucky that your woman was a woman but how many men has young colin deceived with his games here, who knows what he could have been saying in pm's?

Hi X, now how on earth could you get romantically inclined with a bit of blub on the internet. Maybe all the women here are really men or all the men are posing as women. i so tried to pass on caring advice as always to this poor deluded creature and then get hit with a volley of insults when she tells me she's a 'dude'.

Hi Hatley, when I first joined up I did think you were a man because of your name but I soon realised you weren't. You can use whatever name you want here but I do find it a bit sneaky when someone uses an obviously very pretty girls name, says they are female in their profile, then has a tantrum of vulgar language when they object to as being addressed as a woman. Obviously I knew for months but for them to start a discussion complaining about me giving them romantic advice was a bit much I felt. I think if you'd been in the know it would have amused you too Hatley.

Hello, Hatley. More things we've got in common! I'm a 'girlie' woman as well, and I hate anyone messing with my name. You call me 'Sandra' or you don't get a reply. In the 1960's, when Sandie Shaw was a poplular singer in the UK, everyone kept calling me 'Sandie' and couldn't understand why I got so rattled about it. I'm the only one who calls my children, David, Elizabeth and Adam, by their full names as well. Now, you wouldn't think anyone could shorten 'Adam,' but all his friends call him 'Add!' I despair, sometimes.

Hatley, from your comments in the other boxes I'm lead to believe that you may know which mylotter is a man who you thought was a young woman because of his pretty name. Could I be right? Possibly there is more than one.

Sounds like to me he has a problem he needs help with.

His/her life is a permanent problem, so many many problems to reveal here. Unfortunaley one of his problems was his ego and he wrongly assumed I wanted to date him, hilarious at the time as that was when I was playing along pretending he was a woman.

Quite agree Aunty, anyway you know me, things don't bother me so I've known for months about this, I just didn't like the rattle being thrown out of the pram when he decided to expose himself as male.

Hi Iriene, yes I know the ones you mean who use a womans photograph as their avatar when they are men, that is really annoying I find. But there's also the odd man on here who poses as an actual woman by stating female in their profile and using a girls name. Very suspect I find and no right to make a fuss when he gets caught out.

Goodness do People not learn their Lesson, what is wrong with him

Hi gabs, I don't get the impression this man has any real friends on here as one does need to have a little interaction for that to happen, but he's now opened another account with another womans name so I shall have fun calling him her some more.

Maybe he just likes girls names.

definately-i am so over it at this point.

slang is an art form in my area.

Random horndogs. Some of your expressions are classic. As it is patently obvious to anyone that I'm really a man (well someone did call me Mr Thea the other day) I'll leave you two to your girly chat.

All my favorite people under one roof of a box.. woohooo.. To summarize everything, I agree with you guys, including the cute little bunny. She needs a rest, and I hope she gets to settle her things quick and come join us all here yet again. And be active once more. Friends online are just awesome like friends outside. Thea, I think I don't know who that is..but to have someone telling you they are a man all of a sudden, I can imagine your shock and surprise! LOL.. I would too, if suddenly I chat with a female and knowing that she is a male all along. But there are also those avatars with gray areas, and if I can remember, the male/female portion is left unspecified. I don't know if it's here or in another site. We can omit the gender portion if we want to here, right? I can't remember.. been awhile since I check out that part. I don't know if some might be undecided about it and chooses to remain anonymous as to their gender, then that's entirely a different thing altogether. They must have their reasons... but then again, to suddenly being told like what you have, it must be quite a shock, really. Have you overcome it yet? Ha... take care, friends.

Three of my favourite people all in one box. Now fjaril here is under the pleasant illusion that I'm a Greek goddess, Zed is always changing his avatars but has yet to stick up a female one thank goodness, and I do suspect that the bunny has plans to return as an octopus being so fond of marine life and a bit fed up with carrots. However, lets just say that many months back my attention was drawn to a female mylotter who made many many discussions but ignored them all, then posted repeat discussions about not earning any money and disbelieving the advice that she should respond. I started to respond for my own amusement to this lovely young lady with such a pretty name who I had twigged immediately was a man. Naturally I made many suggestions that he /she find a nice man to marry which eventually lead to a tantrum and the words 'Mr Thea,I'm a dude man'. Which inspired my amusing discussion which was immediately deleted and replaced with this much duller one. I would have worded it better but the rabbit was in a rush to get back to her hutch.

I saw the name, might know who you're talking about. :-)

No names I'm afraid. The annoying thing is that my first discussion on this got deleted and I used a name I'd made up anyway. I think you'd have been amused by it though if you knew who it was.

Such a lovely girls name, not at all suitable for a manly man.

Hello Sandra, I was rushed with this one, the first one was better. And I didn't name the mylotter only with the made up male name I'd given her, which was no where near as glamorous as his female name. I can't remember though if I told you months ago or not that she was a man? Teenagers meeting people on chat rooms really isn't on and they should be warned to be much more suspicious. When we make friendships here it's pretty obvious who is genuine and who isn't, I've never for once thought you were some guy in a raincoat for example. You can usually tell straight off if someone is who they say they are unless of course they have temproary sanity like the troll we were talking about earlier. Oh I just saw your last line saying you know who it is. I'm so going to miss my little chats with dear.....

Dear made a discussion about me being mean to him, as he had apparently been reading my advice sometimes and didn't like it. He's also had a quick flip over of gender in his profile. His rather rude remarks accusing me of being unable to read have been deleted. I think he's lying low till after the end of the month in case he's banned. Very strange to send me a F/R though at the same time as insulting me. Didn't you see the discussion he made? Oh by the way I could not find Sweden in my started list.

Yes, you did pass that on. Has dear ... been banned now, then? Or is he/ she totally hacked off with you and so not talking to you?

Well I know you aren't really a rabbit as I've spoken to you and you burbled in human speak not rabbit speak. But I feel I've been hoodwinked thinking this was a vulnerable young woman needing sound advice with her many many many problems.

Well he was obviously romantically disturbed as wanted a nice young woman, always in debt and overspending, desperate to make money, and the terrible problems with that expensive car of his/hers whilst I kept advising on using the bus to save on repairs. And why if he was a man was he in such a quandry that day he got stuck in the car and needed to wash his hands in a hurry?

i may have seen some of the advice you passed on and very sensible it was too.

Hi Bill, well of course this one was started in great appreciation of the dear young lady on here, with such a pretty name, who is a man. Sometimes. Ususally when he forgets he's a nice young lady. He wasn't very keen on being outed this way so made a new account as another delightful young woman, but lost a good decade as well. He's a typical woman lying about her age.

I am still not sure who this person is Thea, but I know that I will live regardless of whether I am aware of the gender of the person that I am conversing with here.

Hi artistry, the original discussion about this was much better but it got deleted after about five minutes. I didn't see James Woods dressing up in womens clothes when he played Guilaini in the film. I think if mylotters start such a deception though they should expect to be seen through especially when they are very active. I knew for months this person was a man but amused myself with it all. He's come up with an excuse for it now but the actual excuse may get him banned.

Oh the discussion you suggested wouldn't appeal to me at all,it would get all the loonies who think they are having a second life.

I know,that women serves in Police and even in the Army in the west & the same thing is in my country Pakistan we have women in Almost every profession.but i was talking about the majority of man does such jobs successfully without interrupting there family life and they also have more physical strength...however women better perform's at home and man can't do this at all Generally..... Women should obey her husband in order to keep her family well.and when the husband is doing his job fine and respecting the relation,otherwise she have a right to protest or even get separation in the extreme case,thats what i was meant.but unlike western culture is causing devastating and making it hard for them to raising a healthy family.......!

Hi farazkh, well I'm glad that you feel no need to pose as a woman and that you are a protective male. In many western countries though women actually serve on the police force and the idea of obeying husbands is an outdated idea. Also many women do have to worry about the responsibility of earning.

Ah! I know who it is. She's a he now on their profile.

Hi Marti, yes apologies for the dull approach to this one, my previous discussion was more fun but got deleted quicker than anything I've ever seen. Good grief you know of whom I speak, that was fast work indeed. I've known for months but had a bit of fun with it. I honestly think they forgot which gender they were meant to be as some days it was most definitely female and others he was out bar hopping with his buddies. Oh well it amused me.

Hi Cynthiann, I hope that he/she isn't on your friends list then, but he's done a quick gender change and is now male on his profile but his very beautiful girls name remains. Maybe it was done for more responses as I don't believe he's made any attempts to be weird with it, just dishonest.

Hi bounce, well I wasn't sure with you as you don't display your gender in your profile but as I saw we were likely to become friends on here I asked. I think its a bit much when someone calls themselves a man though, uses a girls name, and then objects to being known as a girl.

I wouldn't like to be called a little girl. I have known to tease my kids of being such a little girl when they start to whine about something.

Hello to both of you, well I'm glad to hear neither of you has felt the need to pose as the other gender here on mylot. I don't believe at all that this is common practice and on the whole you should be confident that you are speaking to people as they really are rather than those under false guises.

i agree with you i feel happy the way i am, i someone dosent thent its his problem his life and we should accept it and respect that.