How do you learn to forgive people?

Just a simple but tough logic..dont expect anything..you can easily forgive any one for their mistakes.

uhm it must've been painful to you, and forgiving is a very hard thing to do specially if the one that cause you trouble is the one you love I understand how you feel but I'm not a girl but we have the same situation, my X girlfriend didn't called me but she text me sometimes and asking me if we could still be friends, i replied her even though it pisses me off and i actually say bad words to her just to stop her from bothering me, this girl causes me to much pain from the past she even gave me the reason to cry thats why I'm having a hard time thinking/deciding if I would forgive her. I'm not suggesting you to do the same you know honestly theres no way for me to forgive that B I T C H because of what she have done, anyway each of us has our own perspective and own opinions, its not every time you forgive your x's means you would allow or try to go back with him/her if you feel you wanna forgive him then do it and simply move-on, uhm just try it anyway theres nothing wrong of trying, in my case it really doesn't work, for me I really hate her thats all. . =]

You should forgive him for yourself not for him. I would not suggest getting back with him, but forgive him and move on. "Some people come into your life for a lifetime and some for a season. You've got to know which is which. And you're always going to mess up when you mix those seasonal people with lifetime expectations." -- Madea

First of all, ignore the obviously selfish request. If you want to feel like you've genuinely forgiven him, you probably have to think about it a lot. Why did he cheat on you, and abuse you? What is his condition? What lead him to abuse you? To cheat on you? If you can understand how someone could do what he did in his position, it's a good starting point. If you feel like anyone in his position would have done what he did, you've already forgiven him. You don't have to feel like it was acceptable for him to behave as he did, but understanding why he did things which were clearly wrong will probably help. It might also help you out to see that he learned from his mistakes, etc.

i believe that you really cannot give something that you do not have. so if you want to give away forgiveness to this person, you must need to have received forgiveness yourself. sometimes, the bitterness of something in the past is due to the fact that we often find it hard to forgive ourselves for letting somebody hurt us. i also had a hard time forgiving my father for deserting me when i was small, for letting me grow up without parents. but when i came to know how God forgave us from our sins and gave His only Son as our redemption, i came to understand forgiveness better. and when i saw my father for the first time, when i was fourteen, i was able to truly forgive him. i pray that by now, you have done just that, the forgiveness part. and that may you now be able to find that special fullness of joy in your heart.