do you have issues on being single?
By flagella08
@flagella08 (5065)
Philippines
December 28, 2009 2:03am CST
i have lots of friends who are already in their right age to marry but prefer to remain single for some reasons. What's wrong with being single? A whole lot if you go by what you see around you. Whether you visit a bookstore or a library, watch television, go to the movies, listen to friends and family, adopt the values of society, or read the newspaper, messages about couplehood prevail. Little is spoken about being single, except as a condition to avoid like the plague. In the dawn of a new millennium, it's time to say what being a happy single is really all about.
others have issues on being single like spending every dime for their families and helping out more extended families. how about you?
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11 responses
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 09
I don't think there's anything wrong with being single (whatever the reasons may be). It's better to be single than be hurried into a marriage that'll end up in separation afterwards. Don't you think so ? If you haven't found the right person with the right qualities to complement and complete your life, then I suggest you keep searching. I notice that by age you will alter those demands in a man, once you know yourself more. But I do not suggest that anyone be single till they get old and die, because having children is something special, and growing old while you watch them grow and have children of their own is satisfying.
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@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
28 Dec 09
I agree with you..I am female,already 33 and i have been single for 2 years..sometimes i feel uncomfortable, especially i see almost all of my friends are already married (but some are already divorce too, and one will be separated). I don`t feel traumatic with marriage, i don`t want to get married because i don`t want people to judge me..I want to get married because i love him and he loves me more than i love him, we can be honet and understand each other and ready to have commtiment and responsibility. I thik that`s important..
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@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
30 Dec 09
Good girl ! But just remember also that there is no Mr. Perfect in this world. I found that out the hard way...ooops !
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
28 Dec 09
Well I think the best thing about being single is you can do anything you want or go anywhere you want for as long as you want with out having to consider anyone else...so I guess it can be classed as 100% personal freedom but there are down sides to it all also as no situation is perfect happiness...
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
that's right. let me share to you about some facts of being single.
"Singlehood is no longer a state to be overcome as soon as possible," says social historian Stephanie Coontz. "It has its own rewards. Marriage is not the gateway to adulthood anymore. For most people it's the dessert—desirable, but no longer the main course." People may still be eager to meet a long-term partner, but they are a lot less desperate, she adds. Increasingly, individuals are finding singlehood preferable to being in an unsatisfactory relationship. In fact, the possibility of singlehood as a viable life path throws into high relief a finding that is slowly emerging from mountains of social science data—that neither the coupled nor uncoupled life is an automatic ticket to bliss; much depends on the achievement of meaningful life goals and quality of the relationships you create.
While polls show that men are warming to the idea of marriage, women are increasingly in a financial, emotional and professional position to weigh carefully all the trappings that come with the institution. Because they are more conscious of the tradeoffs—women still do more of the housework and childcare—they are increasingly unwilling, Coontz finds, "to put up with something that violates their sense of fairness."
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
29 Dec 09
Iwould never say never but for me to give up my indpendence it would have to be something spectacular....
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 09
There is nothing wrong with being single. A single person can do exactly what he or she wishes to do. If buying a house it is 100% his or her house. When going on vacation he or she can choose the destination and the duration plus the budget level. A single person could spend as much time as he or she with family members. If they had a partner they would not able to do all he or she liked. Being single there is happiness and a feeling of freedom. A single parent can be an all around carer to her or his children. There won't be any annoying disagreements with the partner. Being single keeps a person happy. If he or she feels lonely a dog makes a faithful and friendly companion. There is no nasty splitting up or getting divorced that happens to many couples. A single person can be a dedicated student and get excellent qualifications.
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@celebratelifeh (1142)
• China
28 Dec 09
single do not mean have no friends or partner,those people like to talkinga bout other's life style is not properly i think. i respect other's lifestyle if it do not affect mine and hurt me.man have freedom and right to choose what they like under the law permitted.
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@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
Why is it that your best friend could be in the relationship from hell, your cousin could be in a monotonous and uneventful marriage, but people still feel sorry for you for being single? Is something wrong here? Single life can be the most exciting time of your life.
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
I am already of the right age to marry, but I can't imagine getting married at this point. You see, I have just graduated from law school and just starting to get a job and enjoy my life. That's why I'm still single and not yet seeking the married life. It would be a pain to get married if I haven't enjoyed yet the single life to the fullest. I plan to travel more and provide for my family. Maybe in two or three years time, I'll finally settle down.
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@7shotsofwisdom (42)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
I have friends who are still single even in their early 40's, and yet they're perfectly happy. They certainly are doing better than married people that I know. I don't think there's anything wrong with being single. Some people are born free-spirited. Some people enjoy solitude and independence. Whatever makes them happy, good for them. ^^
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 09
I am single, and I wouldn't have it any other way, I have been in relationships and they have brought me nothing but misery, sadness and I'd compare it to being locked in a cell, never ever again. I am 38 and intend to spend the rest of my life as a very happy single guy. I can please myself what I do, I don't have to please anyone, answer to anyone, be controlled or manipulated or used by anyone. Why would I want all that? I don't envy people in relationships, I am just relieved it's them not me. Singledom is well under-rated. I live a much healthier, happier life being single.
@cwgarten (12)
• United States
28 Dec 09
I have been married and I have been single. I am currently engaged to be married. I agree that there is nothing wrong with being single. I just think that married is better.
For me, there is more challenge and, hence, more opportunity for growth in marrriage. Sure, as a single, you can do what you want, go where you want, etc. But, after awhile, that's all there is. And, while a dog or cat can be a wonderful and beautiful companion, in the end a pet just can't satisfy the need and longing that having your life's partner is sure to fill.
I think the allure of singleness is that relationships take work. Being single, I didn't have to adapt, sacrifice or make changes. I could be lazy. The problem was that laziness never produced anything worthwhile. I am much happier now that I am involved in a committed, loving relationship. I believe that we are created and designed for relationship and that is where we find our deepest fulfillment. This is certainly true in my life. Where before I was just coasting through life, now i am excited, engaged and have purpose. Having another person to care for, love and serve is the best thing that's ever happened to me. The rewards are far greater than the work.
@becdmd (704)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
I am a single living in a couple's world, but good thing I am not alone! there are still a lot of single who is happy with their lives...singleness is not defectiveness, it's just a matter of preparing to meet the right one.
@vopols (204)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
Good day to you flagella..
There's nothing wrong if a person is single or married they are all the same.If some says that being single you can do whatever you want to do well even if your married you can still do anything no difference at some may object what about if you already have a child or children for me you can still enjoy life as it is as if like a single one.But the problem is can you manage you time?
Time management is very important in enjoying what you wanted to do whether single or not.If your married and wants to enjoy life more well you have to organize and manage your time more.That is why you have a partner to help you organize things if you cannot enjoy life because of your husband or wife well the problem is not being married but the relationship partners must understand one another.Base on my observation on couples as well as girlfriends or boyfriends relationship is that there are couples who are not happy with their present situations that's a fact some of them have regrets that they've the married life I also observed couples who are much more happier than they are single.There are singles out their who are also happy yet some also are sad in so many reasons.
The most important thing is that what is it that makes a married and a single person happy? The meaning of happiness varies from person to persons point of you.
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
I'am not in a relationship for more than two years now. Its my choice to stay single since my last break-up. Its not because I'm not over with my ex-boyfriend yet but because I havent found someone to replace him. I decided that if ever I fall inlove again I would like it to be my last. My only issue for being is single is not yet finding the right man whom I can spend my life with.