Are friends really someone to whom you can reveal all your secrets?
By nar8988
@nar8988 (409)
December 28, 2009 3:00am CST
Actually it is said that ur best friend is the one who helps u in time of need.But that means that we can reveal all our secrets to him.But tell me really ,can u tell ur friend how u had got good marks if those marks were from cheating by replacing the original copy,If yes then he must be really close to u.Actually I had made the mistake of this kind ,but that was at the time of innocence,I willnever make the same mistake,will u ?
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I have a few close friends that I tell most everything to. I am disabled so I am depressed a lot and I try not to dwell on bad things or my mental state with them. I don't want them to feel sorry for me or think that there is something they could do. So I guess I share most things with them but I try to take their feelings into consideration also.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
1 Jan 10
My friends don't treat me like I am disabled. They help me, but don't make me feel different. I am realistic and I know that going anywhere with me means extra work. They don't make me feel like they care, but I do. That is part of the reason I get depressed and don't want them to think they make me feel worse.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
30 Dec 09
Hiya nar,
Well if that was me I would keep my "secret" very much to myself. It would never get out of my mouth.
I saw People cheat in Class at School but I kept it a secret I never told anyone.
I thought that they must have their reasons for doing it and although it is´nt right it is´nt that wrong either once in a while.
Maybe the stress has gotten to them.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Jan 10
Hiya Nar,
Yes we should honour Secrets as much as we can for me they are almost sacred of course this depends on the secret specially if it´s a secret that someone can use against another in a malicious way.
When I say sacred I mean to say that wild horses would not drag the secret out of me and I know a few too believe me.
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I am blessed with a best friend who I can tell everything to without her judging me. Although she might disagree with things I do she never turns her back on me. In a lot of ways, I think of her as my conscience. She helps me make the best decisions by listening and being honest with me.
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@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
29 Dec 09
I would say friend, not friends. Till now, my only close friend knows almost all of my secret, from the darkest moments to my happiest ones. Because I need someone to share with me their opinion, thus I always seek advice from her. From gossiping to chit chatting, I can share with her every thing and she can relate to it as she knows me well. But if you were to ask me if I can reveal all those friends, no, but if just friend, yes.
@warvial (1146)
• Singapore
30 Dec 09
Yes, it's been like 10 years (I knew her from high school days) and although we met fewer times nowadays, somehow I can just feel the close connection with her whereas people whom I met nowadays, I seldom see myself opening up to them and I don't know why.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
30 Dec 09
My best friend is one that I can tell anything to. I tell her everything, she knows everything about me and still I am her best friend.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
29 Dec 09
i have a great best friend. i can tell her everything and anything and i know that whatever i tell her she will keep it to yourself. she is the best lady ever and i love her dearly. we have been friends now for 15 year... wow i can't believe we have been friends that long. she really is a great lady and i am so honored to know she is my good friend.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
30 Dec 09
One can still be close friends with someone but know when to keep certain things to themselves.
@renukachohan (187)
• India
28 Dec 09
I still haven't found a friend who is as worthy . will be delighted if one can find a person like that. If i put myself in the other persons shoes even then i think e am also not capable of holding other persons secrets and helping him.her.because like every other person i too have limitations. But i do agree sometimes it is best to share because it gives you an opportunity to offload but be careful of the choice of the person.
@acer5540 (354)
• China
30 Dec 09
I think yes if he/she reveal me his/her secrets.Otherwise, i will not.
As the saying goes,no friends forever and no enemy forever.Though you are friends, maybe a little disagree with make you two become enemies,and at that moment, it is very dangerous if he/she knows your secrets,maybe he/she will threat you...
Though i don't want this things happen, i don't want my friends become my enemy, i decide not tell my secrets to friends.
@apexiph (123)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 09
Hi. For me, I can't revealed any of my secret to anyone and not even my best friends. I only can revealed it to my mother. She is the only person that I trust in this world although that I'm building a trust between me and my wife. But it is still early because we've just got married for 7 years and it is consider still young and lack of experience. I trust my wife but there are something that you cannot share all with your wife. Let it be a secret for you..
@therockingboy (43)
• India
28 Dec 09
i also previously used to think that i can share my secrets with my friends then i realise that i was wrong as i saw many friendships getting broken and after it friends make fun of your secrets telling other people and harassing you that they would tell your secrets to everyone.It feels so bad hearing something bad about yourself from others due to old friends.
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@Rock_Me_In (400)
• India
1 Jan 10
Sure Ive friends to whom I'll say if I replace the original copies of the paper to get good marks my friend. But I won't say the same to my relatives my friend.
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
2 Jan 10
ya its right we can say to our friend but we should never say to relative friends :)
@derek_a (10873)
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29 Dec 09
Yes, I would say that some friends are people to whom you could reveal secrets, but not all. Some, no matter how they promise not to gossip about you, they just can't help themselves and the next thing you know all your business is being talked about by everybody.
Personally, I find it best only to reveal a secret to a friend I can trust 100 per cent. - Derek
@chanchalpal14 (248)
• India
29 Dec 09
Never reveal all your secrets to your friends. A time may come when you will feel sorry for it.
@minx267 (15527)
• Hartford, Connecticut
29 Dec 09
Yes,
I have a few friends that I consider to be my best friends.
I can share secrets with them. But I have a few secrets I keep to myself, or there are some I can share with one friend but don't feel like I can share with the other.. so it is always good to have more than one good friend in which to confer.
I am lucky to have 3 that I have had for decades (2 for 21 years and the other for 29)
@airakumar (1553)
• India
29 Dec 09
I love my best friend. I totally trust her and can do anything and same she does. True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost. I believe a friend is someone whom you trust and respect to keep all your secrets properly intact without being spilled to other people. A friend is someone you can confide in when you have a very big problem that is too hard to bear. Surely part of the defining a best friend must be you trust them implicitly else why would you even consider them that? all friendships have a level of trust as part of the foundation that starts them in the first place.
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
29 Dec 09
No, some secrets should be left unspoken. Too much honesty can be painful. Some people you trust can turn out to be your worst enemy. So for me I can only reveal my secret to God.
@karthi_88 (299)
• India
29 Dec 09
hi, friend is a person to whom we will share all the secrets. then only he\she is a friend.friends will plan together and only make mistakes only few are exceptional from that friend.if you cheat your friend then you are not much close to her\him yet.why to hide anything from friends,they are more valuable then our relatives.only very few relatives will be with us when we are in trouble.but all are friends will be with us when we are in such situation.don't hide anything from your friends.
have a nice day:)
@nar8988 (409)
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29 Dec 09
I have never said anything about relatives,but I have said about our family with which u can tell all ur truth,and in my view u totally said opposite of what others were saying ,you said all of the friends will be with us ,frnd remember only one or two maximum is possible.