Why do some people finds it hard to accept advices?

Hello fulltank, When someone asks for advice,it gives them second thought about the credibility of the adviser.How can they trust the adviser if his life is much worst than their's? How can they trust the adviser if he,himself doesn't know how to follow others advices.(these are some reasons) But,sometimes,those kind of people giving advices are much reliable than those one whom we think can give us good advices. Another thing is,the ego/pride.Some people find it hard to accept advices from people whom they think are not well educated as they are. I only had say about this...once we asked advice from others, "we must empty our thoughts,so we can be able to contain every words from the adviser" It is hard to listen to any advice when we thought we are good enough than anyone else's. Have a good day always

I think some people find it hard to accept advice because they may not be getting the satisfactory piece of advice which would completely convince them that it would get them out of the trouble. Sometimes they are correct in believing so but most of the time its their excessive concern for their problem that do not allow them to believe even in the simplest solution.

I feel advice should only be given if asked for. There are times when people just like to advice on everything, wether asked or not asked is not a priority and i simply hate people like that. people whould like to listen to advice form others when they want to listen to it not when people just want to make an opinion about a certain matter. I find it very irritating when people likr to poke their nose onto others business.

Hi fulltank! The two points you listed are true. Just to elaborate it more, some people doesn't want to accept some advices because the advice might be contrary to what he or she believes in... Or the advisee is not yet ready to fully accept and admit his faults and flaws... Afraid to go down to his level, give in or something... Another point is, the advisee is not soliciting advise to the adviser for he or she doesn't like the adviser at all... Doesn't want to accept advices to the person even if the adviser has a good point and it is also known by him... Hope I added some input n your discussion

I know exactly how you feel. It is hard for someone to admit they need help. Sometimes people find it that they are all alone in a situation and they nobody can help them. Maybe that why some people find it hard to accept advices. Maybe they are just stubborn. I know exactly how you feel. I was in a situation where a person was seriously depressed and I was there to help her. She was seriously in a depressed-mood and cried and overanalyzed every little flaw and exaggerate it. I kept trying to help and talk to her to tell her she has a lot of people who care for her and that she is not alone. I give her advice but she takes it for a while and just completely ignores it later and says that nobody understands her. Its like everything I told her and every time I helped was for nothing. I even offered professional help but she even said that they couldnt help and started telling me excuses why not to go.

Simply because a lot of people think that they are way beter compared to the person who's giving advice. People too are stubborn when they are corrected. For me, I weigh things first before making a decision because in the end no matter what other people will say, its up to you to follow them or not. Some people too think that they are good in giving advice without seeing the receiver's perspective, remember in any decision there are consequences.

Personally I think a lot of times it is just that they are afraid to admit that they could be wrong, or something someone is telling them sounds good. They sometimes are too macho and feel it would be letting down their Guard and Ego to accept someone else's advice. When in reality, I think it should be the other way around. When you accept advice from others you are learning to do yourself a favor, and often enrich your life so much more from there.

I remember the story of zen from your question. The disciple goes to the master and says, "Master, teach me Zen." The master takes a cup and gives it to the student and asks him to pour tea from the kettle which was placed beside him. Then the student starts pouring it, and soon the cup is filled to the brim. The master tells student again, "Please pour more". The student says, "I can't. If I pour more, the tea is only going to overflow". Then the master says, "Your mind is the same as the cup. It's full right now. Go and empty it first and then come to me." So, most of us are like the student who don't like to listen to others advices. HA ha.. So, we have to empty our minds to receive knowledge and wisdom and learn from life to improve ourselves.

I think the real key here is if the person asked for advice to begin with. It is easy for someone on the outside to look at a person's situation and see ways that it could be improved. It is much harder to do the actual work to make changes. Maybe the person is not ready or for other reasons unable to follow thru. Sometimes a person asks advice and does consider the advice given but maybe it isn't advice that he is willing to implement. When someone gives advice to another it does not mean that the person is obligated to follow that advice. He is just getting opinions from others so that he can look at his problem from different angles. If a person doesn't ask for advice then it's usually best not to offer it up, I think.

hello fulltank! its difficult to some to accept advices because they feel that they don't need it! i think, advices should just be given to people who asked for it or to people who needs it... some people refused to accept advices because they already have something in their minds...and all they need are just assurance...but when we give them advice, atleast it gives them some thing to think about and to consider in their decision making...

When we meet problems which we can't solve by ourself we will ask for advices.Different people have different advices on same problem.So we have to choose the right advices.But if we have no idea about whether the advices right or not we have to have a try,then we have to undertake the results whether good or not.So we should be careful while we accept advices.

Some people find it hard to accept advices for some personal reasons they can only justify for themselves. Others feel that if they accept advices, they think they are weak enough that they cannot solve a problem by themselves. Others do not want their pride fade, that is why they do not want others advices or opinions. For they feel they know everything and what to do about the situation. Others are introvert kind of people, whoa are not open to other people or social activities, and prevent themselves from seeking others help. You are right, nobody is perfect. One is dependent of the other. But this is a matter of preferences by a person. His justifications and views. no matter how we want to share some advices, if he really do not want to accept it, then we have nothing to do but respect that person right. The good thing about giving some advices, is that we are able to share and did our best to assist the person the way we can. A matter of good heart and generosity.

hi , there are different kind of people in this world , some are very good and some are very bad , some people are always ready to accept the advices as they think that listening to others will give them a bit help in their life and really appreciate the advisor and some people are not willing to listen to others advice as they think that they are the best and they don't need any advice from anyone though the advice is for their good will ,so it depends upon the human nature , we cannot force anyone to listen but who is willing to listen is always welcomed.

Yes you're right. I think first is the advisee may care too much about his self-esteem, refuse admitting that he's in trouble or he needs other's help. Second the advisee may stick too much about his own thoughts, hard to listen to others even he's wrong. hehe, let's just be open and take it easy, everything will be all right.

It's hard for some of us to accept advices because there are times when people giving advices sound like they are condemning the other person seeking for an advice. Like what you said, nobody is perfect, but there are times when people sound like they are perfect and the one they're givng an advice to is not. There are others who are too proud to accept advices especially if those are unsolicited. They may be too sure of themselves and too conceited to admit that they're also weak and that they need other people.