Causes for divorce, what is a good reason for it? Do you agree with Jesus?
By EvanHunter
@EvanHunter (4026)
United States
December 29, 2009 10:08am CST
Matt. 5:31 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
So clearly Jesus thought that the only reason anyone should get divorced is because they have cheated on each other. So what about abuse or neglect? Is this too hard of a reason? Do you think its ok if a couple doesn't get along to get a divorce? What are your thoughts and opinions?
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
31 Dec 09
my mom's pastor explained that in this way:
once you are married "in the sight of god" you are always married-hence,even with divorce,you are "cheating".
i don't agree with that myself,i can't believe for one minute a benevolent deity
would insist i was still married (or must remain married to)to a womanizing,abusive pr*ck,the rest of my life.if it was in the sight of god,then they know what he did.
yes,i think divorce should be allowed,especially in cases of spousal abuse,whether it comes from the man or the woman.there's no reason to keep people who hate each other together.i have seen families utterly destroyed by parents staying together.
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
3 Jan 10
Thank you for the reply. I seen people utterly destroyed by not staying together also. So there has to be some middle ground in there, I think too often people don't get a divorce because they are being abused but more than likely because they hit a few bumps and expect things to be a fairy tale and that's not the way life works either let alone marriage.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
5 Jan 10
this is true.often that's people who rushed in without really thinking about it first.not picking up your socks is not a reason for divorce.
it's rude,but not a reason.
@sadibo333 (4)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Abuse or neglet is not enough reason to divorce you spouse.You can only divorce your spouse on the ground of divorse.Abuse or neglet are issues that could be solved,somebody can mediate for both parties.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Jesus said thats a reason to get a divorce. he didn't clearly say thats the only reason to get a divorce. if however a wife is being abused such a being beat up yes i do believe a divorce is absolutely ok and necessary. its foolish not to say thats appropriate
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
In my opinion and own thought divorce is better to apply to those unhappy couples. If they are not happy with their marriage let go off and find another partner which makes them happy all life. But for me it is applicable to those who are not really meant for each other. And if there is physical unhealthy relationship and no love exist. But it is unfair if the other half still feel in love with the partner.. It cause too much pain to one side.. 
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
3 Jan 10
Thank you for your reply. I guess it depends on why you got married in the first place to assume that its your partners responsibility to make you happy all the time isn't very mature to begin with.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
30 Dec 09
Hi EvanHunter,
I think this is a valid point.According to the Bible,Adultery is the only reason for divorce but in today's time abuse,and neglect have also become a prime reason.I think if there is no chemistry between the couple they should get divorced,after all ,we all get to live life once and everyone should make full use of it.There is no point in saving a relationship when there is no affection for each other.
Have a good day!!!
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Thank you for the reply. Love is nothing more than a chemical reaction on the way someone makes you feel. What someone does to make you happy one day isn't going to make you happy for ever. Real love is staying with someone through the good times and the bad. I think if there is no chemistry than they shouldn't have gotten married to begin with. I think too often people think that because something is new its better when they cant see that its just new and nothing better than what they already have and maybe if they watered the grass on their side of the fence than it wouldn't look greener on the other side.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
29 Dec 09
I think we need something better than marriage. Perhaps a contract that can be renewed or discontinued depending on how the couple are getting along. Almost 50 % of marriages don't last, which means that there are a lot of unhappy married couples.
Jesus is no expert on marriage! If he was married there is no mention of it in the bible. Perhaps he was like the Pope and discriminated against the feminine gender. Do you think the Pope is trying to follow Jesus in this respect?
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Jesus considered himself to be married to the church and gave his life for it. As far as the pope, I will keep my mouth shut...lol. There are a lot of reasons why marriages don't last. Personally I don't get rid of my car because it has a flat tire, I change the flat and move on. So is the reason why we throw it away is because its got a problem or only because we don't have the tools to fix it? Divorce can be a very ugly thing and its very brutal for the children who are used to having mom and dad with them, I don't see how a written or legal contract would change the hurt involved for children or the adults.
