Will I tell my cousin what I saw?

hi dorisday yes you really should tellyour cousin before she finds out the hard way. Okay so this may cause trouble? from where I sit I see that its already caused trouble and perhaps' your cousin is already suspicious so in telling her you have got it all out in the open.

You need to tell your cousin the truth!She is your cousin FIRST. Truth may hurt, but lies hurt worse!! Trust me, you need to let the truth be free.

How did he not see you if he was sitting at the table next to you? I think you should tell your cousin. If it were me, I would want to know. If I found out later that someone knew about it and didn't tell me, i would be upset with them. I think she deserves to know so she can quit wasting her time on a jerk who would do that to her.

Although this was your cousin you saw, the incident has nothing to do with you. In other words its none of your business, and its not going to help anyone if you tell. You will definitely not make yourself more popular with your family members, so why would you tell anyone?

HI dorisday I would tell her about what you and your friends saw. What would happen if she found out about him and called to tell you and you accidently said that you knew. She would be very mad at you for not telling her. Also I think that if the roles was reversed you would want to know from the get go. Doris you really need to sit here down and tell her about it. She needs to know before it gets too bad.. I wish the best for you. Keep smiling.

...Hi there dorisday1971, Very interesting, believe it or not some many years ago, I was taking an economics class and up the atairs as we were waiting for the first class to start, walks my cousin's husband with a very attractive woman who was not my cousin. For the entire class, the two of them came to class together, sat together, left together. I never said one word to ny cousin, it was not my business. My cousin found a picture of the woman in his pocket, showed it to me, at that time I told her about the class and the two of them and why I didn't tell her. They argue? Putit behind them and I wind up the bad guy, again not my business. They eventually divorced, he married the other woman, one more time, not my business. The woman had five children, go figure. I think they are still together, not my business :o). Your decision, think you can make it better by telling her? Again your decision. Good luck. Have a Happy New Year.

Tell your cousin exactly what you saw. Do it in a way that is matter of fact and kind of questioning. It isn't necessarily that the husband is cheating, but it could be a close relative or ex girl friend that maybe your cousin knows about. I faced the same situation not too long ago, and I did tell my friend. She didn't believe me until her husband fessed up to the affair. She apologized to me, and things aren't the same between them. Things still are up in the air about their staying together. But she does appreciate the fact that I did tell her, but I told her in a way that left it open in case he wasn't really cheating on her.

you should tell it to your cousin dorisday1971. you'll never start any trouble coz it your cousin's husband who already did. bad thing is, if your cousin learned about it from others for a longer time, then she might hate you coz you know it from the very start yet never gave any concern in telling her the truth. there's a lot of ways to tell her if you cant tell it face to face. email her, send her messages and everything. happy new year!

If you can say with that much certainty and conviction that you saw him, and he was for sure seated that close to you that it was him then I think you now have a responsibility to tell her. It may not be one you want but unfortunantly you saw something, you know what you saw and unfortunantly you cant unsee it.

This is such a difficult questions, I guess that is why most people will say nothing. Myself I hate cheaters so I would tell, but if you choose to do this do it very gently. Feel her out, have there been any problems in the marriage, or maybe do you know that 2 out of 3 husbands cheat? I really don't know how I would do it. Good luck and next time keep you eyes on your plate.

Would you want someone to tell you if the situation was reverse? Of course she might be upset that you told her straight off but in the end I think she'll realize that telling her was the best thing to do. The thing is don't say that her husband cheated on her. Cheating is technically defined nowadays and mostly hooking up, others include kissing, but as you mentioned he was only hugging the girl. Therefore just tell her that you were there and saw him with what appeared to be a friend but they were getting cozy and really comfortable with each other and where hugging so it concerned you. Then remind her nothing else happened, but perhaps she wants to bring it up with him and if not and if it was a misunderstanding on your part then you are completely sorry.

Hi, Doris! This is a difficult situation indeed. If I were your cousin, I sure want to know about it. I don't want to live with a man who pretends that nothing's going on when he is at home and kisses me or touches me like I am the only one in his life. It hurts to know the truth, but I think it's best to know 'now' then later on because it will hurt more deeply when you think you have the best marriage in the world and suddenly you are not sure about it anymore. If I were you, I would tell my cousin what I've seen. You were not spying on him, but you saw him, so, I guess a cousin, family or friend does rely on us to tell what we've seen with our own eyes...

I also think you should tell your cousin, but why don't you first try to talk to him? I don't know how close you are, but it might really not be what you think it is. Or if it is, you can make him confess his sin to her and then she will be in less pain, hearing it from him

You better tell her the truth the nicest way you can think of. Hearing the truth is more painful than hearing lies but truth will set you free. Then tell her that she have to see it for herself before confronting his husband to avoid premature arguments. Goodluck!

I would say the trouble has already started and your response to this 'sighting' will depend on how much you care about your cousin. Their relationship can only deteriorate while he has another gal on the side.

hi doris! if you will feel better, go ahead tell your cousin but make sure to be prepared for the outcome. you might come out as a whistleblower out to ruin a relationship. you might want to talk to the husband first. just mention in passing that you saw someone similar to him in this bar last time you were there. watch how he reacted. you can take your cue from there. if a red flag comes up, you may proceed and tell your cousin. if the husband brushed it off as if nothing, then it maybe just that... nothing. one piece of advice for things like this...thread carefully. thanks.

If your cousin is a good wife and very love her husband i think you needn't tell her the truth.And you can persuade your cousin's husband to stop his extramarital love at a proper time.If he doesn't listen you can tell the truth to your cousin.

this must be a though situation for you, Think about it over and over, this might broke them apart, and also it might put you into trouble. Try to ask for second opinion maybe to your mom, yes, your cousin should really know about the love affair of her husband but think also what the consequence would be.anyway, the decision is yours. Goodluck.

You know, this is the worst thing for anyone to experience, especially if things like this happens to people you love or are very close to. I will tell her if i were you. You will hurt her badly, but rather that it comes from you than anyone else. I am sure tht you can be subtle about this. Good luck.

I would let your cousin know! Your cousin's husband has already betrayal the commitment he made with your cousin...and if this continue, the relation will not going to be healthy! I will let your cousin knows or at least hint her...!