Are you homophobic?
By Justin531982
@Justin531982 (71)
United States
December 29, 2009 12:58pm CST
Just wondering how many people will admit to being homophobic. I know many people will say that they are against homosexuality but are not scared of it. To me that makes no sense at all. You are in fact then homophobic. You do not want anything to do with the homosexual community. You would be happier if there was not a homosexual community. You are putting your dislike in front of everything else. And dislike is hate.
What is the big issue with it. I look at it this way. If you are straight. And you know beyond a shadow of a doubt 110% that you would NEVER in a million year do anything with someone of the same gender then you have no reason to be worried. You have no reason to be worried about what other people do. If you are 110% straight and know you wont do anything with anyone then you know that if someone approached you and said lets do it and they were the same gender you would just say, "sorry not gay." that is the end. No harm no foul. So where does this all come from?
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7 responses
@MrNiceGuy (4141)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Homophobic is clearly a term coined by a gay person. It makes no sense as far as etymology goes and is clearly derisive. To disagree with homosexuality is not to be afraid of it and to be afraid of it is not to hate it, both of which you implied. Many people are not worried that they will turn gay but that homosexuality is wrong in general and do not want to see it promoted.
@poingly (605)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Maybe "gayist" doesn't quite have the zing of racist or sexist. The idea of homophobia is that people who are against homosexual are also somehow afraid of it, which makes sense considering that historically people who were against it really didn't understand it (and as the old saying goes, people fear what they don't understand).
I honestly think the idea of not understanding it was true back in the day. People didn't understand the idea of two men or two women together. It just didn't make sense to them. I still think a lot of people don't understand it today (how often do you hear people saying that "homosexuality is a choice," for instance?).
@Justin531982 (71)
• United States
30 Dec 09
MrNiceGuy interesting name to have for someone that thinks that a person is wrong for being who they are. I am a bit confused on what you mean by promoting it though? Whose promoting it? And why is it that bad to want to have it be a free for someone to be who they are even if you disagree with it you dont have to welcome it into your home. But dont have to bad mouth it.
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
29 Dec 09
You are putting your dislike in front of everything else. And dislike is hate.
No, dislike is not hate. That's what the radical gay movement wants you to believe--any sort of disagreement over the lifestyle automatically constitutes hatred. The irony of the whole thing is that more hatred is shown by the radical homosexual movement toward those who disagree with their lifestyle. Tolerance goes both ways.
You have no reason to be worried about what other people do.
Being someone who lives out her Faith, I'd be concerned about their souls. I wouldn't go around bashing people over the head with a Bible, but if I were to get the chance, I'd have a friendly chat with them. Most of all, I'd live out my life in accordance with what I believe, since actions speak so much louder than words.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
30 Dec 09
Hi Justin: I think that I have the right to give my opinion about a lifestyle and if i consider this is the ideal lifestyle which doesn't mean that i want to change everybody and make them just like me. I am not a radical but as you have admited some persons thinks that if I don't agree with their ideas i am an enemy and that's not fair. Thanks for your answer. Hope you are having a nice day. Merry Christmas/ Happy Holidays. Take Care.
-Alvaro.
@Justin531982 (71)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I can understand where you say that there are radicals on the homosexual side as much as on the other side. I am not trying to come across that way at all. My biggest concern is that if someone says that they are not for the lifestyle, why then do they have to state it when it is not a positive thing to say to someone. It does not bring out the good in someone.
I do think that we should have the freedom to say what we want and believe. I can respect how others believe differently but when someone is saying that they disagree with a lifestyle then I guess what it boils down to is a totally different topic, the topic of if it is a choice or not.
That is a totally different topic and do not want to touch on it right now.
@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Because many people are strictly for a man and a woman to be together. They don't want people to be homosexual, but it has been happening for years. Not to say that I agree with their view. If your gay, straight, bi, black, white, whatever, I will accept you if you accept me. If you want to make fun of me for being straight or trying to chase me because you "think" I'm gay when I told you I'm straight then we have a problem.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I am not homophobic homosexuality does not scare me in the least. I have had very good friends who were gay and I know quite a few people who are. I know for a fact that I am straight and I respect their lifestyle and who they decide to love. I don't know why people would be afraid of it, I think it is more than they are confused by it or don't understand it and are not used to it more than they are afraid of it. I think if someone is afraid they might be doubting their own sexuality.
@Justin531982 (71)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Very good point Ladym33 i would have to agree with you that fear is from what you do not know. If someone is truly afraid they maybe just playing off of the fear of not wanting to face what it would be like to have to say anything to family etc. Thanks for your reply!
@anotherxidentity (1434)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I absolutely have no problems at all with homosexuals. In my mind a lot of times they can be more accepting of new ideas than straight people - or at least ones that are homophobic. Plus I love hanging out with my gay guy friends because I can actually hang out with them and not worried about being hit on or putting out the wrong expression, etc.
But I agree with you, there is no reason to be afraid of someone that is gay. The only reason to be afraid is if you think it is going to threaten your ideals and if your ideals were the best ones out there then they wouldn't be broken so easily. It's such a shame though that a religion church is what is governing our government today when it was set up not to.
Love thy neighbor - ha you make me laugh. ((not you of course - the ones against))
@Justin531982 (71)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Thanks for your reply. I know a lot of women that like the idea of hanging out with gay men because the fear of getting hit on isn't there. Thanks for your reply it's well appreciated!
@olisaur (1922)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I am totally Not homophobic. I have a couple friends that are gay, and I love them just the same as my other friends.
I think it is really bizarre that some people make such a big deal of homosexuality. I guess it comes from religion or the Bible or something of that nature, though.
@Justin531982 (71)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Yes that is true that most of it comes from peoples histories with bible or some type of religion. As sad as that is. Thanks for your reply.
@merlinsorca (1118)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Well, no, I wouldn't say that I am homophobic. I know a few homosexual people and I don't find anything wrong with that. They can do whatever they want to, and everyone should be able to understand that and let them have that freedom. But, of course, not everyone. . .
I agree with your reasoning; if you're straight then you can just leave them be and when asked say the, "Sorry, not gay." There are some homophobic people who are simply against it, and others who are disgusted by it and hate it. But, in the end, it's not right at all to be "against" it if homosexuality is just them being themselves.
