I Hate New Year's Eve - so there!
By cynthiann
@cynthiann (18602)
Jamaica
December 29, 2009 1:55pm CST
I really do. As a child, New Year wasn't so bad The whole idea of getting old
isn't fraught with anxiety. Nor is there any of that wretched imperative to have fun. If we were still awake, we would open the front door and kick out the Old Year and welcome in the New. Or Else we would watch that Scotsman with the hairy legs, wearing his kilt on television and sing along with him. There would be bagpipes playing and lots of pretty girls wearing tartan Tam 0' Shanters and dressed in mini-kilts kicking up their shapely legs with perpetual grins on their plastic
faces.
But as I got into my teens and then married just in my twenties - it did not change. So I am a New Year's Eve depressive. The best NY's Eve were spent at home and going to bed early so that I would not have to 'see it in'.
I actually spent one New Year’s Eve in hospital. In labour. As I heard the doctors and nurses celebrating and shouting out 'Happy New Year,' to each other and the wide awake patients, I said 'Ha,Ha," before crying my eyes out.
That year was definitely the pits. [b]Can you imagine wanting to cry and also trying to remember what the lying book and the lying male doctors had said about
breathing and painless childbirth![/b]
I know that the children are going to want me to go out with them and be my usual upbeat self but they should know by now that this isn't me - but we do have a guest so I am not sure if I can wiggle out of this one. If my Church has a Watch Night Service then maybe I could say that I would prefer to go to that instead. We"ll see.
Are there any other New Year's Eve Depressives out there like me or do you enjoy the festivities?
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@angelsmummy (1696)
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29 Dec 09
I like the start of the new year as I always stick to my resolotuions which makes me feel good! But the night and the countdown itself? Bores the hell out of me if Im completely honest! Last year we didnt even realise it was the new year my partner was playing on the ps3 and I was playing on the DS.
I looked at the clock around 00:15 and I was like oh happy new year. I had turned my phone off so noone could call me and wake up my daughter as she was only 6 months at the time and I didnt want the stress of people phoning as I was 6 weeks pregnant too!
I think we will probably do the same this year although I am quiter likely to be myLotting as opposed to playing on the DS. I think its too much hype! I wouldve liked to be in labour on new years eve though, maybe it wouldve been more of a cheerful event for me, I like labour though unlike most people hahaha, people say I like pain too much lol.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
29 Dec 09
Oh I just lost my response to you. There were no epidurals or pain killers available in my time so after 15 hours of labour I was not in good shape. I actually kicked the nurse as she was holding my knees together as she was late in calling the doctor. Well - I didn't do it on purpose - it was an involuntary action. she was an absolute cow. I had 3 boys in 3 years and it was hectic! Then 7 years later I had a girl.any blessings2 people like this
@angelsmummy (1696)
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29 Dec 09
Wow with my first I thought I was dying as she turned to the back-to-back position. I wouldve kicked the nurse too if I was in your position. OI had gas and air with my second because I love the feeling hahah! I dont use it as pain relief the midwives were telling me to use it properly to relive pain I was like "NOOOOOO IT FEELS GOOD!!!"
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
29 Dec 09
Oh you are so funny! Tke great care of yourself and have a wonderful 2010
Tke great care of yourself and have a wonderful 20102 people like this
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
29 Dec 09
I don't do anything on New Years Eve. Most of the time I am in bed asleep by the time the new year come rolling in. I have never been a party person anyway, but since having kids I have had other priorities on New Years Eve than going out.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
29 Dec 09
We never went to many parties but we usually went out with friends NYE. I would rather have been home in bed with a box of chocolates and a good book to read. I do hope that you are all feeling well now. Many blessings
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Dec 09
Can take it or leave it, but I usually don't go out. My parents used to have parties New year's eve and my Aunt used to have a family gathering on the 1st. Those were fun. I remember one year we went with the in-laws to a dancing party at a German club. That was fun too. But I really prefer to stay home and turn into a pumpkin! :-)
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
I am fine on the first of January it is the day before that I don't like!
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@AndrewFreyne (6281)
• United Kingdom
30 Dec 09
I'm not overly concerned about the New Year festivities! I will be spending New Year's Eve alone and I don't mind this. That's not to say I wouldn't like to have some fun and get on out there. However, everyone's situation is different and I don't have anyone in the way of family and I have been living alone for many years now but I'm ok with this. Something I do like to do though is nestle down in front of the telly and take in the New Year celebrations this way. I guess it's hot drinks on the agenda this New Year's Eve! I can understand where you are coming from though. Everyone is different and it's perfectly acceptable to think the way you do. I will wish you a happy New Year all the same. Andrew
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
And vry good wishes to you too. I am great on January 1st but not on NYE. Blessings. Don't you find it depressing to be on your own?
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
30 Dec 09
To be honest I try my best to get into it but deep in my heart I really can't wait to its all over. I can't wait for everything to be back on schedule and the new year be in full swing. I will go thru getting my house ready and cook some finger foods, drinks and music but I know deep inside I could care less and hopefully I will be in bed by 2am.
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@thokius (426)
• Austria
30 Dec 09
Hello Cynthiann,
I hope you don't have to go through another New Year's Eve in hospital. It has happened to me too but I wasn't giving birth... I can't even imagine it.
Anyways, for me New Year's Eve isn't really anything important. Most of the times I even forgot to celebrate it... But once I think more deeply about it I think that I enjoy the festivities. Or at least watching them.
Cheers and happy holidays!
Thok
@AmbiePam (92711)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Well around here the big thing always seems to be watching the ball drop in NYC on TV. I'll try watching Scotsmen with hairy legs...I'm not a big New Year's Eve person. I never have big plans. I don't really want to have big plans. I've been downtown on New Year's Eve before, and seeing drunk people throw up and fight wasn't a big, fun deal. I'll just be at home probably watching a movie. Sounds like a plan.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
29 Dec 09
I have never seen the ball drop in Times Square at all. Just hairy legged old Scotsmen! I"ll think of you watching the movie - hey, I might even join you and stay up to watch a movie
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
29 Dec 09
i used to feel that the time after Christmas was such a let down and all that new years was good for was bringing a cold new month into play but not anymore. i had a good christmas and am excited about the goals i set up for myself for the new year.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
29 Dec 09
I am very happy for you. I am usually an upbeat person but it is just New Year's Eve than is the problem. By January 1st I am back to my old self.
I am usually an upbeat person but it is just New Year's Eve than is the problem. By January 1st I am back to my old self.1 person likes this
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Hi Cyntiann,
I don't get into it anymore and haven't for years. When I was a kid, I remember my parents having friends over and there would be a big buffet. My cousins and my brothers and I would all be allowed to stay up and watch tv specials and play games. It was always a good time. When I got older, I anticipated that same good time but with the exception of a few celebrations, I can't say it was much fun at all. It always started out fun but there was always one or two (usually my ex husband) that got way way too drunk & either made a complete idiot of himself or passed out cold early on in the evening or a fight would break out. After my divorce, I stopped celebrating in the usual sense. Instead, I would stay home with my kids and try to re-create the atmosphere that my parents did for us minus all the friends. We had fun watching movies and staying up late and having special snacks...playing games.
Now I tend to work on New Years eve even when it doesn't fall on one of my usual work nights. I will volunteer to cover if my co-worker wants to go out.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
Having to look after a drunk husband must have been so horrible for you. I mean that sincerely. I am glad that you did create a good memory with your children though. You are a good person to after to volunteer to work for your co worker. Many blessings to you
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
30 Dec 09
gOOD MORNING CYNTHI, sorry u feel that way. it's a pretty dull time around here buti use to love going out on new year's eve when i was younger & having fun. it is now just another day around here. I lead such a dull life, lol. I think it's nice your children want u to go out w/them.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I think it sooo nice that they want u to go wish you'd go & have a big time. I would be the last person myboys would want to go out w/them, lol.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
Yes it is nice of them the the GF is fitting in well with our faamily although I expect that she thinks that we are loud. Which we are. But she has enjoyed meeting the family and Aunts and Uncles and taking in the beach and a few attractions. I loved her immediately I saw her clearing the sink as I do not have a dishwsher. She can visit anytime!
She can visit anytime!1 person likes this
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
Hi Jo. I don't think that I am going to go with them as I do have to work in the morning so I can use that as an excuse!! I am fine on Jan 1st - just NYE
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@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
29 Dec 09
New Year's Eve is just another night with us around my house. We've never been into partying. The most we've done is stay up and watch the ball drop in Time Square and thank the Lord we are still alive on New Years. But partying is not a thing we've ever been into. I'd rather stay home, stay warm and enjoy myself here. The most we've ever done is have our kids/grandkids here that night and gone out and shot fireworks. The kids have always enjoyed that excitement. Home fun is much better than going out and trying to make fun with a drink or running into drunks. I haven't just gotten that way as I've grown older. I've been that way all my life.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
29 Dec 09
i HAVE BEEN LIKE THIS ALL OF MY LIFE TOO. My HUSBAND LIKED TO GO OUT AND SO i OBLIGED BUT MY GAITY WAS RALLY FORCED AND HE CAME TO RECOGNISE THAT AND SO MANY YEARS WE JUST STAYED AT HOME OR WENT TO BED AT POUR NORMAL TIME. Sorry about caps. Just noticed but have to leave now. Blessings
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@gdesjardin (1918)
• United States
29 Dec 09
Yep! I am one. I haven't been out on New Years Eve in so long (small kids and all). I actually did go out last year...I had to go into work for an emergency. When I was driving home I got stopped by a road block as they were checking for drunk drivers. I was stuck in this line for about 20 minutes, when I decided to turn around and go home a different route. Within minutes of me turning around, a sheriff flashed his lights and pulled me over. He gave me the third degree wanting to know why I pulled out of the line and turned around. I explained the situation but he seemed to think I wasn't telling the truth. I was shocked! Anyways, after having to "walk the straight line" and passing I was told to drive through...what a pain in the butt!!!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
What a horrible experience to have gone through. I am so sorry. I am sure that I would have burst into tears. policemen make me cry as they stop me for the most stupid things but I know that they are looking for a bribe. and I hadn't done anything wrong! That really was a big pain for you. anyway, Happy New Year when it comes. I am fine on the 1st - it is just NYE
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
30 Dec 09
Well, i am sorry that you don't like New Years Eve. As i don't have much feeling about new year eve, but i like to write down the new year, like we alway write, 2009, 2009, now we can write 2010, so cool!
So far, i am still enjoying to be into a new year, because new meaning hope, remember to also have a hope, that's how life can move on!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
I do agree with you about the hope part but I am fine on January 1st - it is just NYE that so depresses me.
@jkcokley (265)
• United States
6 Jan 10
As a young teen we used to listent the count down on the radio of all the top songs of the year. I haven't enjoyed the new year for a long time as you. I don't go out as most of the time is for the young. Plus don't want to out there with drunk drivers. Since the kids were born = we have stayed in. This year we stayed in and really did nothing. boring but really is just another day. new years is for the young who can still party. lol
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Jan 10
I just checked your profile. You are just a baby! You can still party if you wish it is just that I have never liked it at all -not even in my teens. Blessings
@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
1 Jan 10
First off I am not depressed. I just don't like New Years. To me its just a another day. I don't get it why people got to make a big thing about that day. Why do shops have to be closed on New Year's day? Thankfully I found out yesterday that the grocery store will be open all day today. The only thing I think about in January every year is I know I can make my life better. So far I am doing better then last year. I moved and got a better apartment and I got a divorce which I am happier and looking forward to one of these days meeting Mr. right. I hate searching, its so hard to find that one person who loves you and your kids. Any ways hope all will have a better year this year then last year.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
1 Jan 10
I am so glad that this past year was better for you. You have accomplished a lot and it must have been stressful. My only advice as an older woman would be not to enter into any relationship quickly. Many women find the right person when they are not looking so hard! I wish y9u and your children every happiness this year. Blessings
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
30 Dec 09
Dear cynthiann,
You have really come a long way to be where you are today and I really hope that you can let go the "ghosts" that are haunting you till today. Liven up as you really deserve the best and whatever life is offering you.
I hope that this New Year's eve will really be different and most of all a happy one for you. I am sure if you will allow it, the One up there will definitely make it possible for you.
As for me, every New Year eve is special and have always been up and about which means I am rarely home or in country. I suppose that is what it means to be working and it is nice to see others going about with their anticipation for the new year.
Now, do be optimistic and I am sure tomorrow will take care of itself for you and I.
Cheer up and take care.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
I am normally a happy person it is just that evening! Honestly! I will go to Church for the Watch Night Service and meet it that way
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
30 Dec 09
Just take it like another day and passionately as you normally would.
“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.”-Oprah
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
30 Dec 09
No I've always liked it. I'd try to stay up late as a kid and watch D. Clark's Rockin New Year's Eve, and watch the ball drop in Times Square, New York City on TV. I'd get so excited at midnight that I'd want to call up all my friends to wish them a Happy New Year.
Not much as changed, we still watch D. Clark's Rockin New Year's Eve and have a few drinks. We don't let the kids stay up yet though. I'm sure the oldest could handle it, but I just like having my alone time while the kids are in bed.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I'm pretty certain it's usually on ABC. I hope the year to come brings you and your family many blessings and joys.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
What station is this programme on? I do have cable but do not have all the stations. If I have it then I may stay up and watch it. children are going out but as I have to work have the perfect excuse for not being out with them. Happy New Year to you and your family when it comes
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
30 Dec 09
For me New is not the to celebrate but as a kind of thanksgiving because God, give me another chance to walk with another year. I don't enjoy new year because I am a lonely person.
I am not depress something in my life but this will remind me how I am alone every year. I don't want to be alone in the whole of my life...HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
30 Dec 09
Thank you aerous and I wish for you everything good in the coming New Year. I am sorry that you are alone though and hope that you will meet a friend soon who will turn out to be a good friend. Every good wishes and many blessings
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I am still rather young, but New Year's Eve has never held a special importance to me. I mean there are certain things that I like to do on New Year's Eve like going out to eat with my family, but as I've grown older I've learned that there really isn't a reason to look forward to greeting a new year. Is it really like the world or your life is actually going to change because a New Year has come in and the old one is gone? No, it isn't at all you will wake up in the morning and you will still have the same amount of money. You will still see people that are struggling and you will possibly have a hangover. What, exactly is the appeal of this?
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
6 Jan 10
I am not sure what the attraction is. Perhaps that they are still alive?I amglad that it is now over and we can deal with the problems that this year is bringing. Our food prices are going up 20% as the government has levied a tax. For he first time since living here I really fear social unrest.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
6 Jan 10
I do not have any depressives instances in my life during new years eve.This is the time my family are bonded also with relatives. Share moments until we witness the coming year. Looking forward is the best remedy of past thoughts. That is the way life goes. Deal with them fairly.
