She has done very bad...I m very angry....
By Drsunny21
@Drsunny21 (556)
India
December 30, 2009 12:50pm CST
Wht should i say??I dnt know...Mt gf she is behaving very bad....On the xmas i was expecting her ph.at 12 in the night....but she doesnt call me coz she was sleeping at tht time..In the morning she called me,I said ok....I told her tht if she is giving me company for the church...so she didnt answer me anythng...As she is very close,and its obvious tht any close one does need invitation for coming home...then also aftr coming frm the church i msg her...but no reply...Whole day no reply i waited for her and my xmas was vry bad..In the eve.her room mate msg come tht she is at her uncle place...She went out of city....Aftr 2 days she came and jst gave me a formal msg like Gud mrng have a nice day....Wht is this?Yesterday i try to told her tht wht she is doing i send her 10-15 msg but no reply...Right now its abt 12 in the night and she is gone wth her room mate to birthday party of her frnds bf...She cant stay awake for me to wish xmas but she can remain awake for brthday party...My mind is bursting...I dont understand wht should i say?Is my being angry is right??I m really tired....
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7 responses
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Dec 09
Dr.sunny the lady very evidently is just not into you and is
too much of a coward to tell you the truth. she quit being your girl friend evidently some time back and is too much of a coward to be honest with you. and you are too smitten to see she is mistreating you and is off to other climes with other people boys and girls, so I would look for somebody who will love you and not play games with you. you do not deserve to be mistreated like that.What you should say is that I see you are no longer interested in me so just lets say goodbye and no hard feelings. there is the door so use it now please. good luck and God bless you.
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@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
31 Dec 09
Yep she is very coward...ur r very right..I dnt knw why can`t i say gud bye to her...I m afraid of something..i dnt knw wht i m afraid of??Not 1 or 2 time but she has mistreated me many time and everytime i had forgiven her...Thank you...I ll try my best...
@monojdhole (200)
• India
31 Dec 09
This is the high time for you to make thorough analysis of your relation with her. Think with unselfish positive mind. If your inner self finds it as a viable relation, please continue with it by forgiving her for all that she has done or otherwise be ready to accept friendship from someone else who understands you better than she. True friendship cannot be made, it becomes. All the very best. Hope you find your true friendship soon.
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
31 Dec 09
I got many frnds but dont knw her feelings are not getting outside of mine...Hope i can get away from all this..Thank you
@monojdhole (200)
• India
31 Dec 09
Then forget her. Never think of her. Try not to remember her at all. Keep yourself busy in other important things. It may take time. But I am sure u will be able to get rid of her one day!
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
If I was in your position, I would most likely feel the same. Perhaps you should assess very well if this is really the girl for you. If I was on your shoes, I would most likely confront her whether I matter to her or not. If not then its time to say quits. Well, I do hope that everything will turn out right.
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
31 Dec 09
When ever try to confront her,like if when we talk on ph.and tell her something she doesnt speak anythng and jst remain silent and it seems tht i m giving her lecture....:-)
@anjalisharma_iipm (805)
• India
31 Dec 09
same like you i really hate these kind of situations like anything, as i have faced this things like 100 times and become strong like a stone, now these kind of moments doesn't bother me at all. I love if some one care for me, but now i dont make that kind of care my habbit. Now i love more my independence and self-centered nature. these kind of activity i really dont like, like your gf did with you. I would really appriciate if you will do the same with her and make her feel the same way as she is doing, believe me you will feel wonderful.
happy mylotting
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
30 Dec 09
All I can think is maybe she needed some space. Try not to think the worse just yet and just give her that space. Like said above, do your thing, don't call her and hopefully she will miss you and call you. And when she does then ask her why she was like this. Don't be afraid to share your feelings. And tell her if she ever wants space to just tell you so that you don't have to worry and wonder.
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
31 Dec 09
Yes ur rght may be she want space...but i m giving her total space but jst she has to reply me,i m worried abt her.I never stop her to go anywhr or stop anythng she is doing but jst she should inform me...
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
I do understand your feeling of anger or madness regarding your girlfriend. But, before you burst out, have this thinking that a "person who is in anger, can never make a proper thinking " either on his problems or solutions. When you let anger conquer you, then this pain in your heart will never be relieved.
You call her bad for that matter, but have you thought that her acts made such things for you to understand because maybe she cannot direct to you what is in her mind or problems does she has.
The best thing you can do for that is to have a serious conversation with her and express how you feel and give her the time to explain why she committed those acts with you. Ask her how would she feel if you did it to her? or if you changed situations.
You have a point why getting angry. You wished she was with you in the special events like this. But, there is a problem between you. That, maybe intentionally she knew you would be hurt at all.
If I am in your situation, I will also get mad. But, I will also open my door for understanding the shortcomings and forgiveness.
Besides, loving the person is accepting all in his totality.
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
31 Dec 09
Hmm i did this...I told her everythng you said...But tht is no reply then how would you feel...She has done this many times and every time i had forgiven...She doesnt understand tht how i feel when she did like this..Hope evrythng will be fine...Thank you..
@coldmoon (1088)
• France
30 Dec 09
After what she did for you, I can't imagine how close you were and you are. But I see that it's hard for her to find a good reason for all. So you should try to forget her and enjoy the New Year with your family. If she misses you, she'll realize that she ill-treated you because she's in the same situation with you before. But if she still forgets you, I think you should relook your relationship to see if you should break it.
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
30 Dec 09
Yes ur rght but its very hard to forget her.....I still try my best to get away from her....Thank you..