Know anyone who talks too much??
By Bethany1202
@Bethany1202 (3431)
United States
December 30, 2009 4:10pm CST
I have a co-worker who is very nice, but she talks and talks and talks incessantly! She thinks she knows everything there is to know about everything, whether it's things about work (she DOES know a lot about work, to her credit), but she also goes on and on about anything, including cooking, gardening, health, just anything. She thinks she knows everything. It wouldn't even be that bad but it's like we never get a moment of peace because she must love to hear herself talk! And she also rambles on and on. Most of the time I ignore her and don't pay attention. One time she was yapping and I wasn't listening, and she must have asked me a question or something because she was like, "Beth, I was talking to you. Are you listening to me?"
Okay, I think I am finished venting now! LOL -- Do you know anyone like this? How do you handle them?
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Dec 09
I can think of a few people. Right here in this house. They start yapping when I'm reading or whatever and I don't even realize they're talking to me until they've been going on for a while because they don't even have the courtesy to get my attention first. (grumble)
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
31 Dec 09
LOL that's silly. Hope you get some more peace when you need it!! Luckily I am off today so I don't have to deal with her until Monday. : )
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Dec 09
That's great. and I'm stuck at home with the motormouths. :-)
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Yeah I know a few myself included! I come by it naturally as though I can talk I am by no means the worst when it comes to my family on both sides. In my case though the more uncomfortable or nervous I am the worse it gets. Can't seem to control it just jabber on so I guess no one will notice my fidgeting from nerves. At home with my family I am much more quiet.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I've heard some people do that. Usually when I am nervous I act pretty shy and don't say anything really, quite the opposite of you!
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
31 Dec 09
My jabbering tends to be humorous and full of jokes. The down side is people think I am like that all the time and when they get to know me they find I am only funny when I am to nervous to say anything serious! My kids, the older two, lock up when nervous or meeting new people. They get so quite and shy I can't believe they are the same kids. Of coarse once they are comfortable everyone wants to know how to shut them up... while my third never stops talking even when alone she talks and sings to her self or her toys.
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@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
31 Dec 09
hi,there,it must be hard for u to work with such a talktive person.Its really annoying esp.when u are busy.Luckily,I dont have such person around.lol Some love talking too.But they'll stop if they dont get any response.
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
31 Dec 09
Nope, she doesn't stop even when I ignore her and it's just her and I there. She goes on and on even without any replies or responses from me. I ignore her and play games or work or do other stuff on the computer, even texting on my phone and there she is -- STILL talking LOL!
@maezee (41988)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I know a lot of people who also think they know EVERYTHING there is to know about EVERYTHING. And they're not always right. It would make more sense if they'd actually be like genuises who know everything and whatever, but that's never the case. They're WRONG sometimes. It can be annoying, but I usually try to.. not spend time around them as much as I can, or just totally ignore their remarks and play along and agree. And just try to get the heck away from them whenever possible.
I used to argue with these people. One of my dad's friends, especially, is totally like this. I wouldn't be around him so much except that I live with my dad - and he's constantly over! And he is the most pompous, self-righteous person that I know and thinks he is right.. with EVERYTHING. I used to fight back, contradict him whenever possible, but finally I gave up. Let him think he's the king of the castle. Whatever. There's no point in putting all that negative energy into the situation. People like this just don't seem to change!
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I'm the same way. Unfortunately we work at a bank together in close proximity so I can't really avoid her no matter how hard I try.
I used to argue as well but I am less stressed now just mostly ignoring and pretending to listen. or ignoring altogether and not even pretending to listen!! LOL
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Yes it is even funnier when someone thinks they are smarter just because they are older. Funny thing is they might be smarter as to what was going on 40 years ago but not necessarily about the world today.
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
31 Dec 09
Ofcourse I know someone like that and that is yours trulyWhy do you think my user ID is allknowig? But give me a moment - people listen to me with rapt attention and I dont have to say 'are you listening' I have the gift of the gab to wrap up whatever I have to say may be in one sentence. I would do it here too but here we are supposed to say something more than a sentence!!
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
31 Dec 09
LOL My co-worker would be perfect for MyLot. She could probably write a book!
And just when I think she is done talking when a story or sentence comes to an end... There she goes again! On and on and on....
@washingtonmark (367)
• United States
31 Dec 09
That annoys me so much when they talk every second of the day. I just want to tell them to shutup.
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I'd love to tell her to shut up, but I don't want tension in the workplace, so I just mostly ignore HA.
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
Hi there Bethany1202!
I have a couple of co-workers who talk too much. Sometimes they are too difficult to handle. And yeah, they ramble on and on as if they never really get tired talking. It can really get irritating especially when we need to concentrate on our activities. Sometimes what I do is just leave the office for a while. Go somewhere I can have my moment of peace and serenity.
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@shaggin (72131)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I have always talked way to much. My daughter who is 5 reminds me of myself because she talks sooo much. She talks just to hear herself talk I swear. She will ask nonsense questions that she already knows the answer to just for something to say. I usually ignore it but sometimes its really hard to. It gets on my nerves and I will be like please stop talking for a few minutes ok. My husband on the other hand gets annoyed about anything I say and would belittle me all the time so I learned to just not talk to him so we wouldnt fight. Now that things arent working between us he says that I never talk to him. Well I wonder why jeez.
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
30 Dec 09
I talk too much but at least I'm interesting! I've worked with people like this, they apparently have nobody who will listen to them at home or anywhere else. My wife worked with this girl who thought she knew everything, her famous line was this, "I'm the smartest person I know." Ugh, she was a pain in the brain!
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@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Well I forgot to mention that her voice is really annoying and she laughs like Fran Drescher/the Nanny!! Her voice sounds a little like her as well btu not QUITE as annoying, although she does come close!!
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Yes, i have known people like that. They can sure get on your nerved, huh? I had some customers like that in the beauty shop & some weeks i dreaded seeing them come in the door.lol.Noone could get a word in edge-wise when they were there. I tried to tune them out some weeks but it's hard to do.
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
I can think of at least 2 people right now with the very same qualities. Most of the time I love having them during parties and gatherings because I never get bored. I am a the silent-type so having them is such a blessing for me because I would never have to talk. I am more of a listener than a talker. What's not so nice though is that I would never know whether their stories are true or not and I dont like it when they start talking about other people. It is also not good to be with them alone because I seem obliged to respond to their stories and sometimes when I need to do something, I end up postponing it because there's no way I can concentrate on it because I have to listn to their stories. lol
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@rajuroy5 (148)
• India
31 Dec 09
if i sit to count people who talk much, it will take a whole day to put down their names in the paper...
i know quite a lot who just love to talk... and almost all of them are ladies... i don't know why but i find ladies more talkative than guys... and also they will get some or the other topic to talk about...
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
Yes I know someone who talks too much. It's not a problem with me only if he's telling the truth and not lies. He's my co-worker before and I'm glad that he's out of my life and in my facebook. I'am a good listener but when I hear lies I'll get disappointed and I'll definitely ignore you.
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@Sketch1 (33)
• Australia
31 Dec 09
I am a listener. Often I find people telling me their life problems, even if I hardly know them. Sometimes people need to talk and by the time they have finished their story they have already figured out what to do just because someone listened to them say it out loud. As for people who talk constantly about things they don't understand or things that are none of their business I am the first to tell them I'm not interested. Honesty, while sometimes difficult, truly is the best way to handle this in the long term.
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@marla123 (24)
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31 Dec 09
I knew a girl from high school that never stop talking .It's not because she thought she knew everything it's just because she didn't know how to shut up.I'm much of a listener.I don't think people talk that much are so smart.At least they don't appear to be so.
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@tawny_24 (341)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I know that I have been told that I talk too much, But I have also been told that I don't talk enough. Other people talking a lot doesn't really bother me unless they are totally wrong, I don't understand the point(if they even have one), or if they are being hateful and ugly.
The people who usually tell me I talk too much say so because of the big words I use when I talk, and the ones who say I don't talk enough are the ones who are really smart and agree with or understand my point and want me to explain.
I have been called out for not knowing what I was talking about and I have called people out for not knowing what they are talking about.
I definitely feel that socializing should be kept under control when you are on the clock, and if your co-worker doesn't practice professionalism then it is something that the superior people should be aware of becuase if this person isn't working while they are busy talking, and are also disturbing others or preventing them from working then they are a liability to the company and the company is losing money and productivity. I also like the idea of giving an annonymous note before going to the management.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
31 Dec 09
I know a couple of people in my lifetime and I can even get irritated when they talk so much. It's just so tiring listening to them going on and on, LOL. Yakkety yak, I'd say. I know that some people are over-friendly and always having something to say. But if the words exchanged are too much and every time it's always about them, then it's really going to bug me, LOL. I would just ignore if the person gets to me and talks too much. I mean, there's always a limit as to how much we can tolerate someone. Time to be firm, ha..
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
25 Jan 10
I do know people like that. There is this person who seem to know everything during my high school. He does a lot of talking but it is quite obvious that some of it were not true. Well, in those times, I try to find a way to excuse myself and save me from listening to crap.
@mzwhitney06 (32)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I hate to say it but my roommate will talk a bigger hole in your ear than possible. What she does is she brings up something and it seems like its going to be good but then she'll get VERY VERY UNNECESSARY descriptive! In her descriptions it will remind her of something else that will get her to go into another topic. Its like an cycle and at the end of the conversation I realize that I wasted so much time or that I should have known NOT to do that to myself!
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@bingchen (1119)
• China
31 Dec 09
i dont like that someone talks too much.although as people they like to communicate and get rid of aloneness each other,but talking to much,i dont like that,sometimes i hope that i can keep quite and do what i want,when i met this thing around me,i can hear what he/she talk and wait other people come back here and chat together,i can leave quitely.i find that what i do can make me easy to get rid of this bad situaiton.
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@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Yes I know a few people like this. What is worse is when they really don't know what they are talking about but still go on about it. If you trip em up and prove them wrong a little sometimes they will shut up. If you don't feel like listening try to make an excuse like I am sorry but I am trying to get some work done. Or you could slip a nice little note on her desk:
Some of the other employes and I think sometimes you talk a little to much. We don't want to offend you but.......ya it might hurt her feelings but sometimes it is the only way to get people to realize.
@natnickeep (2336)
• United States
30 Dec 09
And of coarse I forgot to add make sure you make the note anonymous!
@Bethany1202 (3431)
• United States
30 Dec 09
Yes I have proven her wrong a few times. I like ignoring LOL!!
Speaking of getting work done, sometimes she stands there and does nothing but talk rather than getting work done. AT least you'd think she could multitask!! Talking and working are not too hard to do simultaneously!!