Admin for a Day: Friends, Private Messages, Referrals, and Flyers

I have one BIG wish for the private messaging system actually, though i mentioned it somewhere in your last thread, it probably got burried. I would LOVE to be able to send a message to mutliple recipients in one shot. I know you said you don't see the message tags going away, but that would be my chief gripe with the messaging system, I have never ever used tags in a message nor have i ever needed them. I don't believe most others do either. As for referals, I usualy get them by begging, lol. My most recent referal is my girlfriend. my last referal was my Ex girlfriend (no longer active) and the other 3 posted a few threads and never came back. I would like to see a system though that gives others the referals that were under a user who's account was banned or was canceled. I don't know exactly how it would work, or what the criteria would be for redistributing the orphaned referals though.

Hi Alice! This will be short this time, since most of my 'wish list' in this area is already mentioned. In addition to gathering recommendations for all of these changes, will you also be letting us know what is actually being adopted? I know that's not part of the requested information, but I think of it each time I see your discussions and growing lists. The only additional issues I have with the private messages are: One, why a sort tag is requested when processing them. If the messages are private, who will be using a search feature to look them up? Are they no longer private once they are posted? Two, any way to add the ability to attach photos to them. That would be terrific. Three, any way of getting some new (additional) smiley's to embellish our discussions, responses and replies with? Thanks Alice. Tomorrow's the last blue moon of the decade (2nd full moon of the month). So all the little things that you only do 'once in a blue moon' will make for a busy day. We're always willing to help...

I would love to be able to sort through my friends lists. I have many who I private message and I would love to be able to put them on the first page. I like it that one Has to add and delete a friend one at a time. This way there is less of a chance of deleting a cherished friend. I do use private messages but from time to time there is a glitz. The only thing I would change is omit the tags on private messages. Why should a private message have a tag?

I guess I don't know what flyers are... hummm I do use the PM system, I like it when I need or want to tell someone something that isn't for "public" consumption. I think if mylot would notify us when we get a friendship request - tho for some reason it does sometimes but mostly not... I think its fine for newbies to request friends, but like turning off the asking for joining interests, being able to turn off someone's ability to request a friendship after denying them would be good.

hi Alice I know this question has been asked but this is just a bit different. for some reason I cannot delete even one p m and as some are two years old and the people some of them are no longer here I wou ld love to be able to delete one at a time. I would like to have the use of the flyers better explained to me then I might or might not use them.I do not do referrals as it seems to much of a hassle. I do like the pm system very much. One thing I think may be investigated and that is that someone once posted a pm she had sent to me a nd my answer out in a public dicussion here which I felt is very wrong.Private means private, and this thing led to a lot of bitter backs and forths between users here. this was over a year ago. but I do not think that these messages should be able to be put into public discussions.I do not know how she managed it but she did it and it really embarrassed me as this was private between us.

how about a block request feature? I get repeat requests from users that I consider friend collectors and no matter how many times I deny the requesty the just request again and again I would love to see a way that we can block friend requests from a user how about a way to send a message with a request so we can tell people why exactly we are requesting them? how about an ignore user feature for those users that we repeatedly have issues with or are harrassing us? either that or make the moderators here publicly known so we can ask for a mediator when there are problems with other users?

Hello again Alice, you covered any concerns I have had. As for notifications when I get a friends request, that hasn't been happening. In fact the notifications for other things haven't been working right neither, but then you know that. I mostly want to say hi, and your doing a great job, Mylot Rocks, I am so glad that I found Mylot, I have met some terrific people here. I have several inactive referrals, I don't even try anymore. I haven't had any problem with the PM system, I like how its set up.

So many of the things I was going to say have been mentioned (and put on your wants list) that there is hardly anything left to say. There is one thing that comes to mind, however. In PMs at least, if not in discussions, could it be possible to quote HTML code? I sometimes want to send someone an example of HTML but the formatter 'eats' angle brackets! Actually, if you use even one (as a 'greater than' or 'less than'

Hello Alice. It seems to me that I can be accepted by the majority of mylotters here if I send an invitation to be their friends though not always. Even so, it is only an exception. I always accept anyone's invitation to be my friends and I always turn on the notification. I think that I can absolutely receive my friends' email notifications about their discussions and responses if the notification is turned on like I always do. I used to have some referrals, but they were and are still inactive. I know that the main reason is that they are busy with their work or for some other reasons, but it is ok for me as I myself am very interested in mylot and visit it every day. If I have more time during the day, I do more participation in mylot activities.

Hi there Alice.. I've communicated this before, but just wanting to highlight it again. I have a problem with number 4 still. As of now, I am sending a private message to a friend, and it's not working. I have to resend. So yeah... . Sometimes the codes won't show too the emotes, I mean. Thanks for your time...

I don't think it should be possible to request a friend until you've made a minimum number of posts - too many imes here, I've blithely accepted a friend request, only to get a PM telling me about this great money making/affiliate program they've got. When I check out the profiles, invariably they've made few or no posts (the latest has made no posts at all). They're just using this site for their own ends. So ... a limited number of posts before people can request a friend (as for c and p/adding smilies) would reassure us these requests are genuine.

Hello, Alice. I'd like to be able to reorder my friends list, so that the people I consider my 'best' friends on here - the ones I interact with most - are on the front page. When there's nothing very interesting to respond to, I 'profile surf' my friends to see what they've been responding to. As friends are added in the order we make them, I have to wade through several pages sometimes. All my really good friends would fit on the first page, and it would be nice to have them all handy together.

Hey Alice, As a newbie I was actually confused by the PM set up. There is only one reply button in the private messages, and in the case of the one I sent, that button was beneath the original message. Since there are seperate buttons in the regular discussions I was worried that pressing the reply button beneath my name would result in me sending a message to myself and not the intended recipient. Although I figured this out, it was very confusing, and the PM directions in the FAQ section doesn't deal with this issue.

I never delete my friend on the list. But, I always delete my private message. Yeah! I think, you must add new feature that allow us to delete more than one message. And, I never get any notification on my email if someone add me as friend but it's okay because I always check my friend request everyday on mylot. I hope I can send PM to every members not only to friends. Where I can get referrals link? I never check it out. I don't have ability to attract people to join me here. lol. I never heard about the flyers. What is that? That's all. Have a nice day.

If someone quits Mylot, let's say they haven't been on for months, I wish they could be sorted and deleted somehow. I do have one friend that I won't delete. She has a relative with Cancer and isn't on for months at a time. So things do come up. But most of the people with less than 100 are just trying to find sites that pay money. Once they find out that they can't earn a living here, just get a little extra money, they quit and I get tons of requests from people who are less than 100. Lately, I've been watching to see if their #s go up. If they don't, I don't bother to add them. They're here for a day and gone. They're the reason I have 5 pages of friends and 4 pages are probably worthless. Must take a lot of room on Mylot for nothing, too.

I think you should make tagging the private message optional. Like if you don't want to tag private messages, you can have the option to turn it off. For me, I don't use the tag. I think it would be great if you can accept more than one friend request at a time too. Also, I think it will be cool if we can customize our private messages like the font size, color, bolding, italicizing, and underlining but it's not necessary.

I think it is very easy to request a person to be my friend. However, I don't think that you should have to be friends with an individual to be able to send a private message to a person. There are many times that a person will be talking about another site and since we can't give referral links in posts, you will have to become a friend with them just to get the information from them and sometimes that gets on my nerves. As far as referrals go, I don't have any and I'm not really in the game to get referrals so those issues are basically something that I am not really concerned with.

Hi alice, for now I'm getting comfortable on what myLot presented to us, I mean everything that mylot have today is quite fine with me.

I have been searching high and low for my own referral html. Where do I find it please? Also these interest referrals I feel they restrict the coverage of myLot upto that interest alone. In what way could that be better than our own referral to be pasted on our blogs or elslewhere?

Hi Alice - Firstly, I think this is a great initiative that you are carrying out and will go a long way in further improving MyLot if some of the good suggestions are implemented by MyLot. I have read all the other posts in this thread so without wasting any time, I'll cut to the chase with additions to what may have been already requested for in other posts: 1. Most members write posts within their areas of interest. It will be nice to have a feature where top contributors or the highest rated contributors in a certain area of interest are highlighted on a page so that it is easy to send them requests to make friends with them. 2. A new feature in the form of a forum where newbies get a chance to introduce themselves. Even better would be a feature by which newbies are shown on a page for a limited initial period so that they are given an exposure on the site as well as a chance for members to make friends with them. 3. Once a member accepts a friend request, additional details like birthday and email address can be made visible to those accepted as friends. Of course these have to be added to the member profile first. The idea is that you can wish your friends on MyLot on their birthdays - after all that's one of things that you are expected to do as a friend! 4. I have observed that most members are unaware of the flyers feature or the uses that it can be put to. You may want to provide more information about the same so that members can make the best use of such a feature. My last point may not be relevant to this topic. I had posted a discussion, "Your top requests for GoAskAlice" which has suddenly disappeared after two days. I presume it has been deleted since it takes the spotlight away from your discussions, though I had started my discussion to gain more participation on MyLot issues. Is it possible to send members like me whose discussions get deleted, as well as hapless members who participate and find that their posts have disappaeared, a message saying, "Your Post Has Been Deleted?!"