How Would You Feel if Your Child Tried To Kill You???
By LadyMarissa
@LadyMarissa (12148)
United States
December 30, 2009 10:36pm CST
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,581464,00.html?loomia_ow=t0:s0:a16:g2:r2:c0.145722:b29581240:z10
An 11 year old Clearwater Florida girl & her 15 year old boyfriend have been arrested & charged with trying to kill her mother by setting her bedroom on fire. They waited until the young girl's mother went to bed to douse the floor & her bed with gasoline & then set it on fire...rushing out immediately. The mother was awaken by the smoke detectors & managed to get out alive. I think it would be horrible to think you own child wanted you dead. In this case, the argument was over...no, NOT the 15 year old boyfriend...it was over the 11 year old stealing her mother's cigarettes. I can't say what I'd do in this situation, but I don't think I'd be rushing to bring my daughter home!!! OK, what is your opinion on this situation???
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11 responses
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
31 Dec 09
My point EXACTLY!!! How could this mother have any control over her daughter knowing that if she upset her daughter again, she might die??? I know the fear would always be in the back of my mind!!! I don't know what I think should happen to the child, but she & her Mom need some SERIOUS counseling!!!
@lindiebiz (1006)
• Canada
31 Dec 09
First of all, I would make sure she pays for her crime. If at that tender age a child can think of that then there is a lot to say about what the world is turning into. It is really hurtful and difficult to forgive.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
31 Dec 09
My Mom forgave me for EVERYTHING I ever did wrong, but I NEVER tried to kill her!!! As loving as my Mom was, I don't think she would have forgiven me for that one!!! I also wonder if the 11 year old thought of doing this or if she was influenced by her boyfriend. I'm also wondering what kind of mother would allow her 11 year old daughter to even have a 15 year old boyfriend. Sounds like a very unstable family situation to me!!! 
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
31 Dec 09
after something like that,i would have no child.
the state can come pick her up.
"i'm sorry" doesn't exactly cover trying to burn you alive.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I don't know that I would just want to turn her over to the state, but I know I wouldn't want to be sleeping with one eye open either!!! Of course, it depends on if the state decides to prosecute her what will happen. I think 11 is too young to go to jail, but I know 11 is way too young to be attempting murder. I think this family need some SERIOUS therapy!!!
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
31 Dec 09
Maybe that's why the child chose to kill her mom instead of talking to her!!! My dad used to say that every time me or my brother didn't want to do exactly as he asked. Then my Mom would ask us nicely & we'd do it....pisss my dad off BIG time!!! 
@CristiansNana (101)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I can think of nothing sadder than a child who wants to kill their own Mom! Lady, not sure if you remember me but I have a daughter (adopted) named Beth...hope it rings a bell!
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I cannot even imagine the hurt going on between the mother & child in this case. I like to think of the children as the innocents , so I'm looking at the mother as the one having the problem. I cannot even imagine you allowing Beth to date at 11 especially date a guy that's 4 years older than her. If it's the Beth I'm thinking of, you wouldn't let her date at 14. Before I forget...WELCOME BACK!!! Things are much better now!!! 
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
1 Jan 10
What a BLESSED Christmas present you received this year!!! 
@CristiansNana (101)
• United States
1 Jan 10
You remember!!! Yes, tis me...back and better than ever! Things are wonderful Lady. I got a great job and to top it all off; this little angel that God blessed us with was born on Christmas Eve!
@jennmeyers (10)
• United States
1 Jan 10
My first question is what is a 11 year old girl dating for in the first place and especially one that is 4 years older. That is a big age gap at that young age. This child needs to get a huge reality check and if her family cant give it to her maybe she needs to be taken out of the home. THe 11 year old has no business smoking and her path to her future is going to get worse if she does not get right quickly. This family needs some serious help.
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I think this child & her mother need some SERIOUS family counseling!!! My thinking is that the boyfriend came up with the idea to get rid of Mom because he couldn't control her!!! I really don't understand why the mother was allowing her 11 year old child to date a 15 year old. I also wonder why the 15 year old's parents didn't stop him from dating a child too??? I know it's normal for teenagers to hate their parents, but few actually attempt to kill their parents to get what they want!!! If this little girl did come up with the idea to kill her mother, she really needs some counseling!!! I think she really needs a family that will LOVE her !!! I'm wondering if her mother wasn't a young, single mother who spent more time worrying about herself & her men than she did loving her child!!! The one thing I am positive of is that this is one of the saddest situations I have EVER heard of!!!
@kaka135 (14931)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 09
First of all, I would think it's my own problem, how could my daughter tried to kill me? It must be something wrong that I have done to her, otherwise she wouldn't be like that.
I always think when a child behaves bad, it is the responsibility of the parents. How the parents educated the child and how they treat them play very important role in the child's life. That's why whenever I see a bad behaved child, I would always think it's the parents' problem. I still think true love can change one's life. If the parents pay more attention on the children, love the children truly, then the children will feel it.
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@miller1978 (1101)
• United States
31 Dec 09
That is horrible and to think over getting in trouble of stealing cigs from your mom? So if her mom put her foot down about other things what would be next? Seriously, these so called experts need to sit down and rethink what they are turning our world into with all these "new" discipline procedures.
What would I do if my child tried to kill me? I would still love my child but you can bet they would pay for their crime. I don't think that children today are being raised as well as they have been in the past.
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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31 Dec 09
Hi ladyM,
There is something not quite right with the child, I think she should be put away like Boot Camp and punished, also I think her mother should stay away from her for a long time and see how she feels without her mother as she tried to kill her, this girl boyfriend should be put in jail for a long time too.
Tamara
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@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
31 Dec 09
There's something not quite right about the whole situation. They ALL need HELP!!! The more I think about this, the more confused I become. Maybe it's because the child is ONLY 11 that I feel she was persuaded by the 15 year old boyfriend to set the fire. And I also wonder what kind of guidance the mother had given her. I'm seeing an unloved child needing attention really bad. In this case, I feel I'm seeing a mother who needs to be taught how to be a parent. I also wonder about the boy's parents that allows their 15 year old to date an 11 year old child!!! Without help, I can see a HUGE disaster coming out of this!!!
The more I think about this, the more confused I become. Maybe it's because the child is ONLY 11 that I feel she was persuaded by the 15 year old boyfriend to set the fire. And I also wonder what kind of guidance the mother had given her. I'm seeing an unloved child needing attention really bad. In this case, I feel I'm seeing a mother who needs to be taught how to be a parent. I also wonder about the boy's parents that allows their 15 year old to date an 11 year old child!!! Without help, I can see a HUGE disaster coming out of this!!!
@adriennem10 (165)
• United States
4 Jan 10
Wow. If that was me doing all that I would be in some major trouble! I think even though she is underage she should get in a lot of trouble for this because it is murder and everyone should get in trouble for killing someone!
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
4 Jan 10
She could only be in trouble for ATTEMPTED murder as they didn't succeed in killing the mother. I never heard if they plan on charging her as an adult or let it go as a child. There is a BIG difference in the severity of the punishment between the two!!! I get the feeling that the mother NEVER had any control over that child!!!
