Luxuries in Life
By dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
United States
December 31, 2009 1:39pm CST
There are several luxuries that we all in have in our lives whether we realize it or not. I was thinking yesterday as I was going over our budget for January about the luxuries that we have in our life and I was thinking about those that I could not even consider giving up.
That leads me to the question, what are the luxuries in your life that you would never consider giving up and why?
For me it is our cable and internet. My husband and I don't really go out all that often so we have high-speed internet and cable in our house. I've actually always had cable throughout my life and I've had internet access since I was a junior in high school. These two things are so important to me that I could never consider living without them.
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23 responses
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
31 Dec 09
I don't consider internet a luxury although it may be. I don't pay for cable and don't intend to. I'm not sure I have any luxuries right now. Maybe coffee? but my cup of coffee in the morning protects the rest of the world! Maybe having a few sets of clothes is a luxury. But then I have lost almost everything over the last two years due to circumstances. But if I have luxuries, they are not necessary and I would rather eat properly!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
You are very right in saying that it is far more important to be able to eat properly than it is to have luxuries. Thank you so much for sharing your views.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
31 Dec 09
I do have a limited cable system at home but not high speed Internet. I think my luxuries would include having a pedicure and manicure monthly. I also wear gel tips on my nails. I explain that away by saying that it is very cheap out here (and it is) and an older women should look extremely well groomed at all times. This is an effort for me with clothes but my hair and nails always look good. I also wear open toed shoes and sandals all the year around so I like my feet to look good too.
As I will be trying to clear credit card debt I am thinking of leaving the pedi and have it done every 2 months this coming year and put that money (no matter that it is small) onto my credit card.
I am planning not to use my credit card until I go on vacation in June. so it should be clear by that time. My sister is giving me a trip back to the U.K. as a Birthday present and from there, together with my two sisters we plan to go to Rome for four days. I have never been to Rome and that will be a life time wish come true. I occasionally have a massage as this breaks up the tension areas in my back and neck. Therapeutic. It actually hurts but it does me so much good and increases my flexibility in my neck etc. I honestly do not think that I could give that one up at all. So I guess it would have to be the occasional massage that I could not give up. Blessings
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
You will absolutely love Rome, I was there thirteen years ago and loved everything about it. I really want to go back sometime, but we are trying to wait until our children are old enough to enjoy it as well.
Thank you so much as well for sharing what your luxuries are.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
3 Jan 10
My husband and I have talked about this before. We pay for a music subscription for our M3 players and that would be the first to go if it ever came down to it but it is only $15/month so its not like it would be saving us a ton of money.
The one thing that we could not get rid of would be the same as you our cable and internet service. We have our phone, cable and internet all in one bill and it is the most expensive at this time other than our rent but I don't think we could do without and while I am not one that likes talking on the phone and would love to not have a phone, I was without for a few weeks when we moved in here and you don't realize how much you need one or convenient they are until you don't have one.
I am a stay at home mom so for most of my days the cable and interent are my only sanity especially when my kids and husband are gone in the day time.
@froggieslover (3069)
• United States
5 Jan 10
Same here we are home bodies so cable and internet are definitely a big part of our life, we actually spend every other weekend as movie night and almost always we go ahead and rent a movie off of vieo on demand....
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
5 Jan 10
We've never gotten a movie off of video on demand, but we normally dig out one of our DVDs and watch those.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Jan 10
I know that I would go insane without either cable or the internet. Just like in your family, this is the biggest expense that we have in our household save for our mortgage payment. However, I also know that my life would be miserable without them and since we don't tend to do a lot of things for ourselves, it is our one little pleasure.
@much2say (55562)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Jan 10
I am actually having a difficult time responding to this discussion! We have wittled down to so little as we have been on a tight budget that we actually don't have too many luxuries to fit into our budget. Funny thing is I can't think of any true luxuries - everything seems to be a necessity. I haven't worked in five years, so hubby is the bread winner . . . I try to budget out everything we need for family and kids - and I hardly ever get anything for myself (I'm not complaining - just saying we live minimally and have adapted to that lifestyle).
The things that I have gotten that are luxury items - I actually got most of them for free. I am heavily into Freecycle and Craigslist, so I get stuff that I need for free quite often (you'd be surprised) .. . clothing, kitchen items, books, stuff for my little one, music, tickets, etc etc. Thankfully I have the opportunity to take advantage of these "offers" - but I try to also give back to the community by giving out my extra items too.
I guess I would have to say the one item on our budget that is a luxury, that I can't live without, is "sometimes eating out". With a newborn who has til now had a crazy schedule of his own, and an almost 5 year old who needs to be occupied, and with me having to do things during the day . . . I can be quite burnt out by dinner time and we've HAD to get something take out. I don't like it because it costs more to eat out . . . but when you gotta eat, you gotta eat!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
3 Jan 10
We too have wittled down a lot of our extra expenditures and honestly, it feels good to know that we can live on a lot less than we used to live on. Yes, we still go out to eat occasionally because I just need that for my own sanity. We used to go out to eat on average twice a week, but we are now down to about 1-2 times per month.
And as far as Freecycle and Craigslist go, those are both great resources to have available to us. I've gotten some great things for our house that we've needed for either nothing or for very cheap. I'm not at all embarrased to be a very thrifty person.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I can not live without the Internet and our Satelite TV. My husband and I attend school online and use this primarly for school. I also use the Internet to make extra money. I love having Satelite tv (Dish) and since my husband has had this for years I do ot have the heart to give it up. I like the idea of you having a budget set up for the month. I think I will have to do this myself. Thank you for the suggestion.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Jan 10
It is a great thing to have the budget set up at the beginning of the month. My husband and I have been doing this since September and it has helped us tremendously. If anyone was to ask if they should set up a budget, I would tell them absolutely 100 percent.
@pentagan12 (757)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
There are indeed a lot of luxuries in life that people cannot live without. I am not really rich and I don't even belong to a rich family. We are I guess in the middle class. When I was still studying, I wished to have all the luxuries in the world. But, I know it's impossible. There were things in the past that I wanted to have but I couldn't simply because we didn't have enough money to buy those things. We couldn't even afford to pay for my tuition fee that's why I used to ask help from my relatives abroad. And fortunately, I was an academic scholar. Now that I am working and earning good amount of money, I planned to buy the things which i wasn't able to buy before. I already bought my personal computer with internet connection, air conditioner, and digital cameras. These things are not enough since I am still wishing to have many other things. Those things I am talking about has something to do with beauty. I want to have braces and that's the reason why I am beginning to save money again. I want to buy beauty and skin care products for regular use. I also want to buy nice and luxurious dress as often as possible. The year 2009 was indeed a good year for me and i am looking forward to have more good things in this year 2010 and beyond.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I hope you have the best of luck achieving the things to which you desire. It is nice to see that as we move through our lives in many ways we are able to have a better life than we did as children or than our parents had.
@acematthews71 (1084)
• India
1 Jan 10
Many a times in vacations when I work online being at home and don't go out of the house for quite some time people think that I am free, but it's certainly not the case.
The reality is different because working from home doesn't exactly mean watching TV and being paid for doing that. I still have to juggle many things at the same time: conference calls, emails, reports, reading, writing and lots of thinking...
Sometimes, I will have to do all that and worry about doing some housework too like providing a helping hand in some way to parents. But the advantages of working from home are countless. I can enjoy being with my loved ones while working and also eat homemade healthy food, which isn't always the case when eating out. Now, this itself is a lot of luxury for no matter how much time we are able to enjoy!!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
There are also a lot of other benefits that I can think of as well about working at home. You don't have to commute. You can use the bathroom when you really need to and you don't have to worry about clocking out to do that.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
2 Jan 10
some luxuries exist my life,i think that i could not leave them.i save several month salary to buy computer and have internet access,because i find that the world change much,so i hope that the modern machine can give me more knowlege and make me learn something quickly,at the same time i lived in the village,there is not easy to know more imformation from outside,so i hope that i can know more through computer.i have any luxries in life except the computer.but i think that it is important for my life.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I think that to a certain extent we all come to judge the luxuries in our lives as necessities because they become things to which we are so used to having in our lives. Thank you very much for sharing.
@MrKennedy (1978)
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1 Jan 10
I believe that there are many luxuries I use from day to day activity that I (and perhaps many others) take for granted, without thinking how privileged they are for such luxuries to be readily available. From cable television to high-speed internet, I must admit thatI live a very good life filled with lots of luxuries that unfortunately, not everybody will have the chance to enjoy
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I don't normally consider the fact that many of the things that I take for granted are luxuries, but you are very right. There are people right in my own community that don't even have a roof over their heads let alone water that is readily available and the cable and internet that I mostly take for granted.
@good2go2001 (915)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I used to think of internet as a luxury item but we really use it for a means of communication with our military son. Im sure we would survive without it but honestly it would be very hard!I think cable and internet are my most important items too. Wow dont know how we did it before internet! I was thinking about that the other day its such a useful item when it comes to finding out information on all sorts of things. And life without Email WOW i cant even imagine sending a hand written letter and waiting days for a return reply! LOL funny how times change.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
In addition to the handwritten letters, the thing that I most can't imagine having to do is to mail a bill in to one of the utility companies or even our mortgage company. I do all of this online as well.
@allknowing (136100)
• India
1 Jan 10
The holidays that I have been to could be considered as luxuries for me. The travel bug bit me since quite a few years now and my holidays include, many States of India,Singapore,Bangkok, Nepal, Australia, New Zealand, USA, Canada, 7 European countries and the beautiful Bahamas cruise by the Royal Caribbeans (Sovereign of the Seas). My system now demands as it is now used to this comfort and no longer considers it a luxury!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I think that we do get very accustomed to things in such a way that they seem like they are necessities to us, but I also ultimately believe that if we have to we would be able to rid those things from our expenditures.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
I don't consider cable and internet as a luxuries..For me its a need.
Maybe two decade ago its a luxuries but right now its already fall under the needs.
Don't you think? If they say that you can live without it..Then its just saying that you don't need a house or a home to stay. You can live in the street and you can still survive.
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For me a happy living right now is to have a job, a house, a cellphone, a computer, an internet connection and cable tv.
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that is needed to have a normal live.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
Based on the fact that I've had cable television throughout my entire life I do think of it as a necessesity, however, if I had to pare down my monthly bills, that and internet would have to be the first things to go because the other monthly bills are quite necessary. I don't think that we could go without a roof over our heads or our electricity, gas or water.
@Emvy548 (387)
• India
1 Jan 10
Hi dorannmwin - Many luxuries have now become necessities without which our daily lives get disrupted. I mean, can you imagine a day without TV, a few days without the internet and a just a few hours without your cellphone. You will almost feel like you have been marooned on an island, waiting to be rescued!
As we advance into the future, many more luxuries will be added on and soon become necessities. Technology is bringing robots to us who will do most of our daily chores so you will soon see robots being added to this list as well. The debate raging now is whether we are ready to give control of our lives to robots, who the robot inventors themselves suspect, may take over the human world!
For me, and I'll be honest here, my biggest luxury is the help that I can afford in the part of the world that I live in. I have stayed in the US for brief periods and I know that this is something that you cannot get easily in other parts of the world. I have help for housekeeping, a cook who prepares the major meals of the day and a driver who can take my family and me around in congested city streets. These are things that I may not be able to do without, certainly not all of them all the time!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
You are very right about feeling like you are alone in the world when you don't have access to the television, cellular phone and cable. In the part of the US where we live, we've been through two major ice storms in the past several years and these have left us without electricity for days on end, so really all of the basic necessesities of our life were taken away for a time and yes, you feel very alone and very frustrated because of it.
@workinggene (104)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
I think my internet connection will always be a number one luxury to me. It used to be cable TV, but I no longer watch television for I can find news online anyway. And I am following our local news' twitter account. Am I relying to much on the internet? Maybe so but I'm not willing to give up on it yet. Another luxury I think are those overpriced cold coffee drinks. We seldom drink it now but it's really expensive so I consider it a luxury.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I love the coffee drinks that you are talking about, but when we decided that we needed to be on a very tight budget, they are one of the things that have been all but cut out from our budget. So, when I do have the opportunity to have one of those, it really is like a little taste of heaven.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
1 Jan 10
hello,
well... if you are talking about luxuries then I will consider about something expensive, such as Rings, expensive hang bags, or clothes or shoes .... etc.
I have cable and internet as well... but I never want to give up on those two cuz they are entertain me most of the time... can't give up on them
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
The first luxuries that you've listed with the expensive jewelry and clothing are things that I don't have in my life by choice. I have clothes that I've had for years and I have a few pieces of jewelry, but they are also things that I have had for years.
@drakesuyat (1063)
• Philippines
1 Jan 10
living in a town far from the city will be so boring that having no internet access will definitely turn me into rock. aside from that, i cant resist it whenever i saw a message saying "NOW SHOWING" thus, even if i need to travel 2hours to get to the city, it doesn't matter just for the sake of watching movie. good day dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I enjoy movies as well, but it is really a special luxury for me to be able to go to a movie. I've been to three this past year and two of them have been because my daughter really wanted to go.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
1 Jan 10
In regard to the luxuries in life. I guess our luxuries are vehicles that are less than 10 yrs old (caked in debt too!) and the internet as well. But there are times when the really basic things like groceries and gas money to get to work can be a luxury too.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
We do have one vehicle that is less than 10 years old, but the other two that we have are 15 years old and 21 years old. At least they still run...
You are right though in saying that there are times that the most simple things in our lives become a luxury.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Dec 09
hi dorannmwin I do not have television but am on cable internet and I could not give that up at all,seems more necessity than
luxury to me, and oh how I hated it when we first started with dial up ,so slow and so irritating, and always when I needed to phone someone the computer was in use and we could not phone out. oh then came dsl which was wonderful and now cable. I use the net all the time, its my lifeline to my life the way it was before my son lost his job we became homeless and had to settle for splitting up to have roofs over our heads. well anyway I do have my internet .I am retired so have nothing much but time.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I think that it is funny to a certain degree that it wasn't a really long time ago that not everyone had a computer and to have a computer with internet access (dial up) was a great luxury. Now, there are so many people that consider it a neccessity for their lives. For you it is wonderful that you have internet access because it is one thing that seems to make you happy.
@suzzy3 (8341)
•
31 Dec 09
Our holidays in our caravan we go to lots of places in it.We look forward to our breaks we don't have a lot of money,so this is a good ,cheap way of getting out and about.We cater for ourselves,get up when we feel like it,eat when we want to.Recently we have brought bikes and my son comes with us on long rides to discover the countryside where we stay.Losing the internet would also be a blow as I spend so much time on it as it passes the time.I also earn pocket money towards our breaks away.Happy New Year to you love Sue.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I think it is great that I've learned this year that you can also make a little bit of extra money on the internet to get us by the tough times in our lives. I think this is one of the things that has made having internet access even more important to me.
@vince06 (98)
• Philippines
31 Dec 09
hi dorann,
you are like my girlfriend..she treat there computer as important as her life..heheh
all day she is spending her time in the net..but anywayz for me the luxuries that definitely i would not give up is my family, friends and girlfriend.. yes, its a unique one but i consider them as luxurious..
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
1 Jan 10
Well, I've had a computer in my home since long before anyone else that I knew had a computer. We actually bought our first one for our house 20 years ago when the only operating system that there was was MS DOS. I've been hooked to it to some degree ever since then. I do value my family and friends as well, but I don't particularly consider them to be a luxury to me.