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My Daughter and me  - Well here you have it New year 2010 at 12.10am
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
January 1, 2010 4:36am CST
New Year?????? I hope you all had a lovely New Year, this year has been a lovely New Year for me and I will say the first one where I did not cry, where I was relaxed and enjoyed Friends and "Family"Every New Year I used to cry, I used to fear what the New Year would bring, wondering if it would get better, This has been going for 35 Years, not a New Year went by where I did not cry, where I would stand and ask for the next Year to be better, Year 2002 I got diagnosed with my Illness, Year 2003 I was bullied out of my Job and my Divorce came through after 21 years of an abusive Marriage, year 2004 I lost my House as I was not able to work any more and fighting for my Disability, no income or anything, but in year 2004 middle I found my true Love, he was my best Friend for 3 years and it happened, he still my best Friend to this Day, 2005 I survived somehow with no money and I won my case on Disability Payments, middle of 2005 I started to slowly be me again, I started to accept my Illness, my not working, 2006 I wanted to get away from where I was living I hated it there and always had, also the air is so poluted my Lungs where not coping to well, I spoke to my Son and Daughter, we all knew it would be hard as we are so close, but we decided if it is what I wanted and I would be closer to my wonderful Man then that is what is to be done, Febr 2007 I moved 3 hours away from my Babies, it was hard and many Tears where cried for months, but I loved it where I moved to Year 2008 My Son nearly got killed by his Ex Fiancee she failed, but I wanted to go for her, fortunately for her I was to sick to make the Drive at the time, it took my Son Months to get over it all I did go to him a couple of Months after it happened and we talked for hours, my Lad cried and cried, my Daughter was hurting for her Brother, she had been looking after him, she was also going to seek out his Ex but I told her no as I did not want my Girl to get into trouble over that Person Year 2009......... was better then any Year in my past, yes there where the small Problems but that is Life, so last Night, we where invited to my "Adopted Daughters Parents" I have known her Mum for Years, as Mel and Vicki have been friend 12 years now, and Carol and me used to disperse when the 2 Girls used to argue, fall out and well you know what Friends are like Carol and I have not seen each other in 8 years and it was good to see her again, she has "adopted my Girl and I hers lol" She also looks out for my 2 We had a wonderful relaxing Night, laughing, catching up, and Carol's Husband had us in stitches lol, the best New Year Night I have ever had We counted down the New Year and well there it was, I was not crying, my Girl told me how much she loves me, apologized for being so moody, but I know the reason so I have overlooked it, told her that she is my Girl always will be and I love her no matter what We rang my Son, who was working, told him we love him loads, and that is how we entered the New Year, me with a smile, not scared of what 2010 will bring like I used to We had Photos taken, and I will post one here of my Daughter and me, it will be the only one I will ever post lol, 1am we went home, but I felt full of love and Hope, not scared and upset, it felt good So I hope that you all had a wonderful Year to Happy New Year to you all
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35 responses
• United States
1 Jan 10
I finally celebrated New Year somewhere other than my house...lol. I went to my friend's party last night. Before that, my family and I had dinner at home. I've heard a lot of people say that 2009 was a bad year for them. I think it's been a good year for me, and I hope 2010 is even better. HAPPY NEW YEAR!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 10
Hello Brown Fox well I hope that 2010 is just as good for you to
@savypat (20216)
• United States
1 Jan 10
It seems since 911 that I have had new years similar to yours, but I also had a good wake up to 2010, I feel it is going to be a good year and I hope to continue my effort toward positive energy in all things. Blessings to you
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 10
It is good that you woke up to it to and I am sure we will both stay positive and make the most of everything
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
1 Jan 10
WEll all I can say its about time hugssssssssssss So glad you rang in the NEw YEar with a possitive thoughts keep it up thru the year adn you will be very happy hugssssss and blessings
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 10
Yes it is about time and I will certainly do my best to stay positive Big Hugssssssssss to you back
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Jan 10
good hugssssssssssssssssssssss
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Jan 10
Happy New Year. It's funny but I was sad yesterday and then grumpy. Not even sure why. But today is somewhat better.... :-)
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Awwwww Dawn I am so sorry to hear that I know how that feels I knew why though in the past I am glad that you are a bit better though, come on we need our joyful Dawn back Big Hugs to you
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Jan 10
I think I've figured it out, but I need to have a serious talk with somebody...
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
1 Jan 10
Gaby, What a wonderful way to begin a New Year. Listing events from year to year helps to put everything in perspective. I have a journal that I would like to write the journey of my life but still haven't decided on a way to express myself without losing myself in it. Maybe your method would help me format my journey. That is if it is OK with you. May I ask again, what illness you are suffering with? I know you have told me but my mind won't allow me to retain much these days. I just hope it's caused by the stress of foreclosure we are facing.But I refuse to let it take me down. So [b][/b]HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!! Leenie
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
1 Jan 10
Hello Leenie Of course it is ok with me for you to do that I have COPD, Emphasimia, I suffer with Panic Attacks and Depression to But you go ahead Sweetie and use my Method that is no worry Thank you for your Compliment on my Photo Hugs to you
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@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
2 Jan 10
Hi Gabs. Happy New Year! What a beautiful picture of you and your daughter. :) Your history sounds so much like my own. I commend you for keeping the faith, for doing the things you needed to feel happier. I also hope this year brings you continued progress and a ton of blessings! xoxo Karen
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Hi there Karen, it goes back to when I was 5 but well it is in the past I guess lol But look at you and me we have got through it and we make the most of Life, we fight no matter what gets thrown our way Big Hugs to you xxx
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• United States
4 Jan 10
Yes, we are survivors, fighters :)) Big hugs back to you! Karen
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 10
New Year isn't that special to me my dear friend, mind you this year I have refused to make any new years resolutions, last year I did and I failed and that made me feel really bad and I came down to earth with a bump, I had these wonderful ideas, moving out, getting a job, happiness and by June I was in a mess because I had failed. No, this year, 2010 I am going to live a day at a time, I am also going to spend this year working on my self esteem and building my strength up. I feel a bit more robust and happier to face the future albeit I don't suffer from SAD in January and February like a lot of people do, I get SAD in June, July and August. I want to follow your example you are my shining and guiding light dear Gabs, you've been through so much and still going through a lot. Hugs to you and hopefully for us 2010 will bring us happier times. I am fortunate in that I have a wonderful friend in you and of course Gissi xxx
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 10
Sweetheart, that is the best way to do it take a Day at a time, do not make resolutions I haven't in the last 4 years New Year is nothing special to me either but it was nice that for once I did not cry, I was not scared to go into another Year of fear and abuse and loneliness That is what made me so happy that Night You are a wonderful Person and so sweet Darling, never change, you are a great Friend and you have shown that many a time Together we will get you through and you know where I am if you need me just shout Gissi says it is cold out there but are you still coming out to play as he has missed you so much and I have to my dear Friend Love you Sweetie xxxx
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
3 Jan 10
that is some story just like me all these years with so many problems, but this year oreo and I are looking for great things to come and we are not going to let the negative stuff get us down. We want the best rest of our lives as we can possibly get.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 10
Well that is the same here so lets hope we manage it
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
4 Jan 10
Hi Gabs, nice to hear you have a good start to the new year. May I take this opportunity to wish you and family a wonderful and fruitful 2010. Cheer :)
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 10
Hello whyaskq and I wish you a Happy New Year and much joy and Happiness
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
4 Jan 10
You have been threw alot and you are a true inspiration to many. I ma glad you enjoyed the ringing in of the new year and that no tears were shed. May this new year bring you more happiness and joy
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 10
Sweetie I wish the same for you Happiness, joy and love Big Hugs to you
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Jan 10
Happy New Year to you dear gabs! As someone who has shared some of your down times over the past few years, let me say how happy I am that things are looking up for you! You have an indomitable spirit and it shows. I wish you all the best in this new year - for you and yours. I don't know what the new year holds for me, but I do know that I will be trying to make it the best that it can be.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Hi Sweetie yes you are one of the People who has been through it with me I am sure that you will stay strong and you know I am always here for you never forget that Love to you and big Hugs
@shaggin (72131)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I went to my father in laws house on new years eve for a party. I hadent ate much all day so when I started drinking it hit me pretty fast. I am currently in the process of trying to get my husband to leave so things are very difficult right now. Everyone was counting down as the ball was dropping and I sat there crying hopeing no one noticed. Yesterday I went to my moms house for dinner then went to my friends house with my two kids for a sleep over. The kids were up very late as were the adults so we are all really tired today. I cant wait for my husband to get home so I can take a shower and get the kids and myself down for a much needed nap. This was the first time in about 7 years that we actually got to watch the ball drop. It was the first year my children have ever seen it. My daughter is 5 and my son is 2. They go to bed at 7:30pm so I thought for sure we would have to come home before the ball dropped but somehow they managed to stay awake and got to see it. We dont have full cable just the local channels so we dont get to watch the ball drop at our house.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Oh dear it is never good to eat on an empty stomach But I am glad that the little ones managed to stay awake for it I am sorry you are going through a hard time right now and hope it will sort soon
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
2 Jan 10
Hi gabs, It's just great that you had such a wonderful new year, you really deserve it after the way you spent those other times. I hope that 2010 will be your best year ever and that all your dreams come through. Blessings
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Awwwww Pose thank you and the same back to you
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Jan 10
Happy New Year to you too gabs! I am so glad that you had a wonderful time celebrating the New Year! You have been through so much and I think you are a hero, I really do. You are to be commended for surviving it all and it sounds to me as though things are turning around for you and 2010 may just be your year! It makes my heart glad to know that you are happier and didn’t cry this time. I wish more tears but ones of joy and for the year ahead to be all that you dream of. All the best to you and Gissi.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 10
Hello Paula I hope you had a lovely New Year to and thank you for your kind words to me Hugs to you from Gissi and me
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I hope you did have a very happy new year too. My new year was alright. We did not do a whole lot here other than take down the Christmas decorations inside the house. We also grabbed a bite to eat and laid down early. We worked that night.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Oh Steph I am sorry you had to work but I do hope that you have a Happy and Healthy 2010
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
2 Jan 10
Dear twin, I haven't been here for so long and I am so glad that this was the first post I saw. It is wonderful to hear that you spent such a wonderful time and had such a wonderful New Year's start. It's great to read how slowly everything started to become more positive for you. You deserve to smile and be happy. I think life tends to balance itself out, and we do get our deserved positive times after long periods of not so good times. I also had one of the best New Years ever this time, and like you I am feeling full of love and hope for the future. Big , big hug to you and wishes that it only gets better from here on, for both of us.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Hi tere Twin I have certainly missed you and I am so glad that I am seeing you here Yes I think we can both look forward to more happiness then sadness and you deserve it to I am glad that you have had a lovely one to Big Hugs to you always and stay in touch
@gemini_rose (16264)
2 Jan 10
Happy 2010 to you and Gissi and I am really glad that you had a good time. I also enjoyed bringing in the New Year this year. My friend and her children came over to our house and my 18 year old son who is now in the RAF was at home too, he fetched his friend and we had a bit of a party. It was one of the best nights I have had in a long time and it was a lot of fun!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Hi there Gemini I am so glad that you had a good time to I wish you a great 2010
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Happy for you Gabs for your wonderful start of the year. I just have a simple but a much fulfilled New Years Eve dinner with the whole family, why I I prepared and cooked the food alone. Everyone enjoyed my fave, Chicken Macaroni Salad over all other recipes. In the morning of Jan 1st, my siblings came (all three brothers) to dine with us. Have much fun exchanging pleasantries and ended up getting their wallets for me, my children and my two grandchildren, for our quite late cash christmas gifts. It's a great start of the year. Wishing us all to have a wonderful year. Happy New Year, gabs dear...
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Hello Sweet Bing I am so glad that you had a lovely time to I prefer them quiet at Home with Friends and Family Much love and a very Happy 2010 to you always Big Hugs
@MrKennedy (1978)
2 Jan 10
Meh, it could have been better to be honest. However, I've never really understood all this hysteria about ringing in the New Year. Yes, celebrating with others is nice, but I can't help but think that for many people, it's a flimsy excuse to go out and get absolutely wasted. Not exactly the best way to start a new year in my opinion.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Hello MrKennedy That is why I enjoyed it so much there was none of the going out and getting wasted it was just a nice cosy Night with Family and Friends I don't drink so maybe that is why I hate it when People have to get so drunk and make a fool of themselves
@magtibaygom (4858)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Happy new year to you my friend!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
2 Jan 10
Thank you and back to you