Prior to start a relationship

I think, that no matter that the illness is, if the person cares and loves you unconditionally, then there should be no reason it can't be shared, if that person looks down on your or what ever the cause of the illness, then sad to say there would be no point to continue the relationship if they can't accept you for who you are, the good and bad :)

i think i would tell the person in the first instance so that they see my exterior and then know me as a real person. if such things matter to them i don't feel it necessary to carry on any relations with them as a compromise.telling later will hurt me more if they turn me down after knowing my real self.so better at the beginning so that only truly willing people go ahead

My husband and I told eachother up front, what was going on. He knew that I was almost blind (he even notice the white cane i was holding in a picture I sent him before i even said anything), and that I have problems walking, and I know that he broke his neck in combat, and suffers from PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and that he's also going blind from glaucoma. We were honest with eachother from the start, and that worked very well for our relationship.

I think you should be honest with the person that you are with, right from the start. I do not think it is fair to keep a secret like that from your partner. You need to be honest right from the get go.

In trust, and in the right moment, i will say. Provided it hasn't gone too deep into the relationship. Even if it is deep into the relationship, my partner should understand. He should love me enough to understand and standby my side to support me. Isn't this what love should be? If that illness is serious enough that you should not be in any relationship, you should just step aside and not enter that relationship in the first place. I think given a choice if I have a major illness and i know it before i enter a relationship, I would rather suffer alone than letting my love-to-be suffer... I wouldn't bear to see them sad and suffering. I like to see them happy.

I think it is necessary to tell your partner or friend or whomever what you have suffered. I don't really care about gaining sympathy at all. It's just what has happened to me in the past or whatever is occuring at that moment if anything.