Will you consider yourself emotinal or rational?
@wildlittlefan (4680)
Hong Kong
January 1, 2010 11:47am CST
We are all made different.Some of us are so emotional that we will have feeling on everything we contact with.I remember once I had encounter a very interseting lady.She was a lady taxi driver in her 60's.She told me that she would even cried for a tree if she happen to see one.I found that irrational but that's her.On the other hand ,I have encounter some people who were extremely rational that you could hardly share anything about feeling to this kinds of people.Can you imagine someone will say that"you have no reason to have such a feeling!"How can you reason on feeling because sometimes feeling is a direct response without gone through a well designed rational system.That's why we call it feeling.Well,will you consider yourself emotional or rational?Any example with that?Share with us to enrich our life experinece.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I don't let emotions rule my brain and I don't let logic rule my heart. I'm a very caring and compassionate person but I don't let those traits take front & center at all times. An old example. Many years ago my ex-husband's grandmother was tricked into going from the hospital into a nursing home. She was very upset and my first thought was to take her in. But, she had dementia and would need 24 hour supervision. We both worked and had 4 children. Instead of rushing over to the nursing home to spring her I had to do some research, make some calls and come up with a plan. By thinking rationally we had the resources in place and were prepared when we did bring her into our home and there were no problems. In fact, advanced thinking stopped the son who had previously been responsible for her from having her forcibly committed and also stopped him from being able to sell her house because the first thing we did was have her sign new Powers of Attorney and revoke the ones he had. She lived with us for about five years until she reached the end stages where she was no longer able to eat or function. Those last five years were happy ones for her...happier than if she had been forced to live them in a strange place without family around.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I agree, and it's now a place where I would want to live out my last days. What upset me at that time was that this woman had 5 grown and retired children, including my ex's parents, who could have taken her in but none of them wanted to take on the responsibility of caring for her. I found a great elder daycare center that she loved going to...she would insist that she was well enough to go when she was sick so I knew she liked the place and her friends there. This experience had a lasting effect on my children, by the way. They have all told me that they will take care of me when I'm too old to live alone. Right now my ideal would be that they take care of me in a condo on Miami beach...but we'll see.
@WriteOn (41)
• United States
2 Jan 10
wow, that's a very touching event you describe. I empathize with how you feel completely. I take care of patients with dementia and I always feel bad for them when their families have to put them in an extended care facility, but I know it's a decision that's probably for the best, but when there are situations such as yours, where the family decides to take their loved one into their home to live with them, it is always the desired outcome and I always like to see that happen. I am glad there are loving, caring, compassionate family members such as yourselves, that these elderly folks have - who are able to care for them at home. I hope I never have to live out my days in one of these facilities. It's a very lonely place, even though family visits, there's no place like home.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I tend to be a pretty rational person on most days. With that fact in mind, I do have my emotional moments. Stress tends to do that. Most of the time, I can calm myself down enough to work through the stress. In the end, nothing really gets accomplished unless you think things through in a rational manner.
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
2 Jan 10
Both..sometimes i get upset for unnecessary things.But after that, i can calm down myself..when i experience something bad, of course, i get emotional. like my terrible break up 2 years ago..i cried,cried and cried.It took for almost a year to get over this sadness..after a year, i can be more rational in seeing the problem..
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
2 Jan 10
As much as we like to, it's difficult to be both emotional and rational at the same time. if we are emotional, we see ourselves as weak. But does being rational making us strong inspite of our feelings? If i have to choose, i will be emotional. If i didn't have the emotinonal attachments, it would not be worth it.
@ramplified_17 (105)
• Philippines
2 Jan 10
Can I choose both?
I think and others as well that i am rational and a great source of advice during times of hardships.
But I know for sure that I am extra emotional when it comes to things or people i have concern for. Sometimes I think that this is my weakness but some consider it as my asset.
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
2 Jan 10
I feel that I am a little bit of both. Most of the time I am a fairly rationale person, but I can also be emotional. I find it important to connect with others on an emotional level rather then an intellectual level. It doesn't matter to me how smart or intelligent a person is, to me it is what is in their heart. I think that it tells a lot about a person by connecting with them emotionally.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
1 Jan 10
I am emotional but not to the point that I am so sensitive that I am always crying. I am not like that at all. When I see a movie that is very sad, I will cry and shed a few tears. I am very compassionate when it comes to others sadness and happiness. I am not nasty when it comes to others peoples feelings. I want them to express themselves without telling them that they can't be sad or happy. I welcome every emotion.
@allknowing (137961)
• India
2 Jan 10
I have, after so many years, managed to de-addict myself from being a sentimental, emotional sue so to say.I no longer pine, yearn, long for people in my life who have drifted away giving them the benefit of doubt This yearning and craving ruined my happines in more ways than one. I have now learnt to get on with life with or without anyone who I once considered my source of happiness as I know the only person that can give one happines is oneself. So for aall practical purposes I can call myself a rational.
@WriteOn (41)
• United States
2 Jan 10
Is it possible to be both? or even all three? emotional, rational, and irrational? not simultaneously, but for one's disposition or character to be comprised of all three? I am an extremely sentimental person. I tend to latch on to memories and never want to let them go. Especially when something very moving occurs in my life that touches my heart. I tend to dwell on it for a bit. I cherish fond memories and the people in my life who helped create them. But then, all sentiment aside, if I encounter someone who is being unreasonable, I find myself trying to talk sense into them, to reason with them, and I will be extremely rational level headed in my dealings with them.
Then on a totally different note, I can become the one who is acting unreasonable almost to the point of being irrational, a little extreme if I'm really in the mood to be, and I would have to say I can be a little difficult and even a handful at times. My boyfriend just informed me that this is a pretty accurate description. hahaha! (poor guy ;) But I would have to say it appears that I am describing someone who is bipolar, however, the cycling isn't rapid like that of a bipolar person.
These episodes are few and far between (Thank God) and when they occur, they occur like 1-2-3. Pretty much in the order I describe - but over a duration of a few days. Then all is calm and this behavior won't resurface again for another month or so... Woah, I just had an epiphany... Could this just be a severe case of PMS I am experiencing? Wow, It never occurred to me that this might be the case...
I am inclined to think that it may be. Let me run this one past my boyfriend... hahaha
Now, onto something completely different... But 1st a word from our sponsor...(j/k)
The woman you describe having emotions for a tree, I am almost certain there is a medical term for this. I once read about a man who was extremely sensitive and emotional over inanimate objects. For instance, he would feel extremely sorry for things that have no feelings, like a gum wrapper. If he unwrapped a piece of chewing gum and put it in his mouth, he would feel bad about throwing the wrapper away, to disgard it and leave it wherever he happened to dispose of it, he just couldn't bare. He would feel so guilty about "abandoning" it that he would actually turn around and go back to retrieve it and put it in his pocket where he felt the gum wrapper would feel better. He felt as if the wrapper had feelings. He would eventually throw it away at some point, but it would have to be in a very gentle and compassionate manner, and then he would have to come to grips with the fact that he discarded it.
He said he went thru this emotional turmoil several times a day with anything he used that required him to dispose of the empty container. The strange thing was, he didn't have these types of feelings towards things that would be more appropriate to have them towards, such as puppies or kitties or people. He said he could squash a bug and not even blink an eye. I forget what this disorder is called but it's an emotional fixation towards inanimate objects and the reactions it stirs up are those similar to the emotions one would usually feel after seeing a commercial for the SPCA's abandoned and abused pets needing to be rescued. The woman with the strong emotions for a tree probably has this same disorder but on a less grander scale, I would tend to think. Was your encounter with this woman bizzare? or did you find her to be somewhat enlightening?