She's Gone

I"m sorry for your loss Dorannmwin. It is ment to be like you said especially if they go so fast. My mom went in a lil over 2 hrs and was given a chance of a few days to a year if she could survive off a vent. As you can tell I"m still grieving over things. But if you need to talk please post here or pm me. I would say YES to going to the memorial service. You know her husband probably needs as much support as he can muster. Plus I think if you did not attend you would have regrets about such a decision. I"m sure her family would be grateful for your support & efforts to make peace with her passing. Hmmm.... to keep their spirit alive I would think remembering their special days like their birthday, visiting their grave on their b-day or when you are able, offering her husband unconditional sympathy and even talk with him or her parents about the good times you had. People live on thru memories, photographs, and stories. ((hugs)) I'm sorry hun.

1.Question #1 Hang her/his photo in a place i frequent. Light a candle as often as i can. 2.#2 Yes i would if only there are no financial constrants. 3.#3 Always remember the times u been with that person. I lost someone very dear to my heart some 3 years ago, and i have kept her memory so alive in my life now, by loving her just as how i have loved her when she was still alive. Hope to have u in my friend's list, plz add me;)

If you have pictures of the two of you, have one blown up and if she has given you anything, sit them on a shelf with a picture. You could also make a cd with pictures of her throughout the time you knew her. That would be the suggestions I would have. I am sorry this happened, but you are right, she is in a better place.

cheer up dorannmwin! although its hard to accept the fact that someone dear to you passed away, just always keep in mind that she'll be happy with HIM now. it's really good to attend to her burial coz it will be the last time that you'll see her. im sure you can always ask for help from someone and you have a very good reason why you need an amount very badly.

I am so sad for you, Dorann. Such a loss always hits hard. I think if financial constaints were dire, I would weigh that against how well I knew my friend's family members and how much actual comfort I could offer them when deciding whether or not to attend the service. A heartfelt, hand-written card might do as well if you all were not as close or if finances make the travel expense a hardship. I think your memory alone will keep your friend alive to you. She will be "there with you" when you least expect it, and you'll look back on conversations, smiles, tears, many things shared. I like to light a special candle and say a prayer, too, when a loved one who has passed is particularly strong on my mind. Karen

I am sorry about your loss. I am fortunate that my friends are all in good shape.

i replied to your last post and i have to tell you how sorry i am for your loss. as i am sure i told you that my dad passed away in early february and i think that keeping their spirits alive by keeping their pictures around and talking about them.

Both my parents have passed and I loved them very much...hardly a day goes by that I don't think of them....but I do keep their memory alive with photos' and also have them in my scrapbooks....making a scrapbook of your friend and the times you shared would be a good way to keep her close at hand....If I had financial constraints I would send a card....and let everyone know you are thinking of them and your friend.....your friend won't know if you were there or not...and in the future if you are close to where they are buried....stop by and leave a flower or a note on the grave.

I am so sorry for your lost fist off we had to deal with 8 family members passing within 5 months of each other an my daughter had a rough time with it so in each ones memoery we planted a rose tree or rose bush in our yard for them to have a private place to go an rember our love ones an it helped my daughter alot

Why don't you plant a tree in your garden with her name on it,that way she will be with you forever.It is a long way to travel and if monies tight,no one would expect you to do that.You have the most precious memories of her and that should be enough.Don't feel bad ,think how lucky you were to know her.She sounds a wonderful woman and full of love and joy while she was alive.So for her sake do your grieving then set about having a happy life in her memory.So sorry to hear your sad news love suexx

I don't think you need to attend a memorial service if you can't afford it. It's not like it makes you any less of a friend. You can mourn (or celebrate) the life and loss of your friend no matter where you are. It's an internal thing. I've honestly never been all that good at grieving properly so I really can't be in the position to give advice. But hopefully other people on the forum here can help you out and give you some helpful advice. I know it's never easy. And I sympathize with you. It's certainly hard to lose a friend.

I am sorry to hear that...let's just pray for your friend reesee soul. yes,it's really painful, losing someone dear to you is sad..u can cry to lessen the pain.,If that's the case finances shortage your, friend and her family surely will understand you, you don't have to go over..just keep something,maybe picture,presents from her,letter.that is life dorann, let's accept. happy new year.