love and culture

Hello, My religion is a little similar to you(Chinese culture)... If a girl married to a guy then a husband has to move in with her and live in the same roof with her parents. The duty of a daughter is stay home to serve parents need. However, I stay away from them cuz of some conditions that I could explain.

hi david I have always applauded the chinese idea of two or three generations living under one roof. I am an American here in the US. in California to be exact. We fall in love and marry for love here, no arranged marriages here. Some of our people do take care of their elders and have them living with them which I think is great. but more Americans for one reason or another will put their elderly into nursing homes rather than take on their care at home. this I really hate,I have worked as a nurses aide from a nurses registry in a lot of those nursing homes and most of them are truly appalling. also these elderly people are all longing to be back home with their famillies, they do not want to be cast out like that. as an elderly person myself I do not blame the old for feeling like they were thrown away as a burden. I am not in a nursing facility, I am in what is called assisted living. It is for people from fifty on up who are retired and need just a little help, we are free to come and go as we choose. I am here only because my son and I shared an apartment. he lose his job and we got evicted. we were homeless and as I am 83 and partly handicapped my son felt I would be better off to have some sort of housing until he cou ld get a job and afford to rent an apartment for the two of us. he also had to get gov.help to get into a rentfree apartment withthree other men all of whom are looking for work yet. this is not an old folks home at all. My son does come to see me each week as hes not far from where I am. we will get back together when he gets a job again.