Is having too many friends a bad thing
By melissa911
@melissa911 (92)
United States
January 3, 2010 10:57am CST
I live in a small town and everyone knows someone. And of course everyone at some point intime has not liked someone. I'm a friendly person and I'm honest. I have a lot of friends. But the problem that I am running into is that I have friends that are not friends with some of my other friends. And it is getting difficult to have a gathering, Because I want to invite all of my friends but b y the end of the night it just turns into a drama fest. But I dot want to not invite a friend because someone that may not like them will be at my gathering. I know there is probably no good way to deal with this. Does anyone else have this problem or any advice. Maybe I should just not make anymore friends.
4 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
3 Jan 10
You have the same problem that my youngest daughter has. She's 19 and we live in a very small town, too. She's friends with people who who don't like each other and some of her friends have friends or family who don't like her. The general rule of thought down here is that, if you're going to have a party, you envite whoever you want to invite and it's the responsibility of those attending to act right. If that's not possible, don't come. The worst thing anyone down here wants to have is the reputation of ruining other people's events...because then you'll find yourself uninvited to everything.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
3 Jan 10
Yes it can be difficult to have a lot of friends. There could be not that much time to manage all of those friendships. Thus you might lose touch with some of those friends. I know for me that there is only so much time in my life. It can be quite a balancing act for a handful of friends, much less dozen and dozens of friends.
@rjbass (1422)
• United States
3 Jan 10
I definately don't think that anyone can have too many friends. The hard part is finding those few true friends that you can ALWAYS rely on.
@Baluyadav (3643)
• India
3 Jan 10
hi,melissa...as you said it is difficult to tackle after crossing some resonable number of friends....it is not the question of NUMBER..it is the question o QUALITY...so categorise your friends into...family friends..college friends..social friends..just friends..professional friends..close friends..like that and give time seperately according to need base..i think this solve your heavy gathering of friends...
Have a nice time.
