Am I dumped? Relationship in danger...
By fsll518
@fsll518 (304)
China
January 3, 2010 7:24pm CST
Hi, Mylotters...
I got some relationship problems, if you know a lot about American women, please help me out, thanks.
I am a single Chinese guy. I met an American lady on dating site during summer of 2009. She is divorced with one child. Then she visited me from Oct. to Nov. We had some time, not all good, but generally speaking it is not bad, and we decided to keep developing the relationship. Then she went back and we've been keeping chatting online. I thought it would develop in a good direction.
However, since the end of 2009, she stopped chatting with me. She said she doesn't feel well, and I believe her, because she does have some chronic problem which makes big pain sometimes. After 2-3 days, still can't get in touch, even not answer my phonecall anymore. Then I started to randomly view my Myspace (we added as friends there), so I can see her recent activity. I noticed at the end of Dec. 2009, there is an activity expressing her mood, something like "I am bored to death here, and badly need a dating for new year 2010", some one asked her and she gave quite positive response...
I felt very bad, because I've been devoting to her since we met in person. I sent her a message asking if she really want to date other people, if yes, then shouldn't call me BF. She didn't reply. I started to send SMS to her constantly, after about 5 messages. She started to complain that I am not considerate when she doesn't feel well, and ask what do I mean by "the buy from AZ", I said I got from her Myspace, because we added as friends so I can see.
Then she started to complain I viewed her info in internet and told me that guy is just a roommate of her brother, and soon she deleted me on Myspace. I ask if we can chat and talk everything openly, she said I've irritated her and if talking now, she may say something regretful.
I tried to contact her once in a while, IM, e-mail, SMS, phonecall... no more reply. What does it mean? Is it a sign that I've been dumped?
I need some experts about American women to help me out, please~
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4 responses
@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
4 Jan 10
If She hasn't given you any clear "Go away" message,you might still think there was some hope,but if She's deleting you as a friend on Her social networks so you can't see her presence or messages and no longer replies to you messaging her,I'm thinking you're on the back burner,if not off the Menu at this point. Find yourself someone who wants to talk to You instead..Good Luck!
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@fsll518 (304)
• China
5 Jan 10
I feel the situation not so optimistic now. However, I am curious now what reason she would find to dump me, just because sending too many messages she was sick? She left me a message saying that indicates maybe my mentality is not stable. Then I sent her a long e-mail to explane everything, but I doubt if she'll read it. Let it be, let her cool down first.
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
5 Jan 10
To keep a long distance relationship fresh and going well,there has to be communication and openness from both sides..From what you say,you're still doing your part,but She seems to be backing away,or withdrawing..when did you last get a response from her after She deleted you as a friend?
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@fsll518 (304)
• China
6 Jan 10
Yes, I am interested to see if she'll contact me later and what she would say to me. I don't see any reason for her to leave, except my financial situation is not as good as hers. I still have big potential to get richer.
She recontacted me after 2 days. (She didn't really deleted me in Myspace, or maybe she recovered, I don't know.)
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@michmich2 (432)
• United States
4 Jan 10
I'm sorry, but it sounds like she has already moved on. It's too bad she wouldn't just come right out and tell you that she isn't interested anymore, but that's just the way it is with some people. I think you should move as well and try to meet someone who will appreciate you more.
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@eddiechoohn (340)
• Malaysia
4 Jan 10
In my opinion, the women shows no more interest in you. Leave her, its time to let go before she hurts you more. Who knows you might meet someone who tresures you just the way you do.
All the best.
HAppy Mylotting
@fsll518 (304)
• China
5 Jan 10
Thanks for response.
I do feel getting hurt because she refused to communicate with me and she needs to "re-evalute" the relationship. However, I realized that she did has some health problem, and sending her bunch of messages was truly irritating...
Now I am waiting for her to directly say "I dump you now".
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