parents, are you expecting your children to take care over you?

..many of the parents are expecting for their children to take care of them someday, give them financial support and etc. But for me, I will not expect. My reason is, someday, when i get old, my child/children will have their own life and family. I cant expect for them to be with me, take care of me, give me financial support because they do need to provide for their own family by that time. ..I will work hard now, invest and do business, so that when i got old and cant work anymore, i have my money to spend with my wife.. LOL! ..If they will help me and take care of me, Thanks, if not, its alright.. ..Its just my opinion.. ayt?? :)

My brothers and I took shifts when my mom needed 24/7 care. It was very difficult to watch her fade away. Most difficult of all was when her mind went and she could not do even the simple basic things for herself. We had families and full time jobs as well. It was a very very trying time. I don't regret that we did it but at the same time I would not want my girls to go thru that at all...not ever. After my mom passed, I told them that if I reach a point where I am unable to take care of myself to please put me in a nursing home.

we can never really tell how healthy we are as we age but if i can do something to preserve my strength for the longest time possible, i would do anything for my kids not to take care of me when i get old. i always try to think that there will come a time that they themselves need to watch over their family especially with their kids. i just dont want to become a burden for them. i never thought of having anything in return in everything that i do for my kids today. its my responsibility. i find it a bad idea when parents invest for their kids to pay them in return should they become stable in life especially financial matters. i would accept any help offered but i'll never ask for one from them as much as possible. happy mylotting px_yeap.

Hi, I would just like to say that even at this age, I have already been thinking about these things. When I grow old, I would love to have my children by me and support and take care of me, but not because they are obliged to but because they want to. But don't get me wrong, I don't want my children to be the ones to be totally taking care of me. I don't know how I'm gonna do it someday but I don't want them to be burdened be a senile ol' me someday, lol. :) But on my end, as a daughter, I'd love to take care of my parents one day and return the favor. :) They done their best to take care of me and my siblings and I would like to repay them that someday, not out of obligation but because I want to and because they deserve to be taken care of :) Good day!

Hi px yeap: I think that, after knowing about many cases that end with a parent that is abandonned for their sons and daughters after he/she gave them all as a father/mother i can tell you that i don't expect that my children will be my source to be retired. I would raise my children because that's the natural law, because i will love them, that's a big reason for me thought, and because your sons and daughters you raise them to connquer life not to make what you want even if it's always good that a boy or girl remember his/her parents during his/her entire life. Thanks for asking me this question. Hope you are having a nice day. Happy new Year and Keep Mylotting. Take Care. -Alvaro.

I am very pleased to let you know that I'm taking care of my mother who is already more than 90 yrs. old. Although she has a caregiver at home but I see to it that I have time for her even if it is not fulltime. Recently my husband suffered stroke. He was hosptalized, for more than two weeks. Surprisingly my children were there to take care of their father. They took a leave of absence from their work just to be with their father. Actually we did not oblige them but then maybe they have seen us that we care for our parents so much. Maybe we have just passed to them our concern to our parents.

px__my dear son has been taking good care of me the past few years,we shared a two bedroom apartment and I had retired. before I retired at age 80 I was helping on the rent until my own job was cut back so much I could not help.okay so I retired and all was fine until my son lost his job in this horrid economy in Ca in the USA so now he helped put me here in this retirement center so I had a place to live, because once he lost his job and we got behind on rent the heartless manager just quickly evicted us.so homeless we spent time with friends but as they were also just renters they could not keep us long, so I am here and my son is in gov,sponsored apt with three other men all out of work a nd looking for work. My social security and ssi checks pay the rent and board and leave me some for personal needs, my son did the best he could for me under terrible circumstances. so he did feel he must take care of me. I cannot fault him for that decision at all, of course I would love to be back in an apartment with him but until he gets a job it just cannot be. I dont really know as I expected him to exactly take care of me as I did also work but maybe.

I believe that as a parent you raise your child to be a respomsible adult. There is always the thought that you may need their help and support one day. We'd like to think our children would be willing to aid in our care if the time arose. I don't think we are all ready for what waiits for us.

i think it is really our responsibility as children to take care of our parents when they get older since they are the one who raise us.. every parents expect a lot from there children...

Well mostly in life that's how everyone sees it. i mostly don't expect that, not because i think my children are lazy but because i feel i won't really need them by the time they get a job and go get their own money. to summarize this whole thing i really don't think your supposed to do that, you will put too much pressure on them and if they fail one day, they will feel like they let you down somehow. Finally just don't put it in their heads.

when i was little , my mother always told me , it will be a big waste for raise me up if i don't take care of her when she is old. i love her and i like to take care of her. i really think we should take care of our parents when they get old. but it's painful, when you hear that from your mother about a big waste. i don't want my kids to think they are one of invest we did. when we get very old, i hope they will get us some help, but if for some reason they can't make it. i will understand, and still wish them can have a good life. so we work hard , try our best to live on our own.