How important it is to know a person before getting married???

I think it is very important to seek divine guidance from God, regarding marriage. Prayers are really needed because marrying is one of the most important decision one can make, so this must be carefully weighed and one should not rush into this commitment. Marrying based only on physical admiration and emotional feelings may end in disaster and failed relationships. Definitely it is a big must to know the person you want to spend the rest of your life.

HEY tuyakiki, of course knowing is important than any thing else. love marriages are only paved by freedom. when there is freedom of choice, freedom of decisions.But many of love marriages end into divorce. When it comes to arranged marriage,everything is controlled by elders, under their guidance.They act as counsellors for us. I THINK LOVE THEN ARRANGE ARE THE PERFECT ONES.

I hate the idea of arranged marriages. I think you should know a person extremly well before getting married because even then you're going to have disagreements and problems. I also think that age has a little something to do with that. Ifn you are in your early twentys, you should know that person very well. I've seen that people in that some people in that age group are less tolerent of the other's habits. By the time you get into your fourties, you either know of those habits, or you just know it's not enough to file divorce papers. Also, those arranged marriages, the two put up with alot. I just don't like someone other than yourself deciding who you are going to spend the rest of your life with.

Obviously its important. If yo don't know somebody before you get married how would you even know how you feel about them? Thats not love, thats lust. I mean, what if you find out things about the person that you aren't okay with at all but its too late and you're already married?

As you said, you got married soon if you can't know your partner at all. Please tell me if you really love him out of your heart or you have to choose to lightning marriage in terms of many reasons.Anyway you should be responsible to you marriage and him.Once you live with him together after marriage,some unexpected problem will appear.Maybe you will adopt unwise way to deal with current problem because of your lack understand.So you must make decision after further understanding. GOOD LUCK FRIEND

Yah its very important to know the person before getting married i know a lot of person that regretting after their marriage that time of knowing their partner is not enough, so i must say that knowing your future plan is very important if you don't want to regret the rest of your life and maybe it will be the most

I think it is very important to know a person before geting married. I think couples should talk about different things like children, way of living, etc before getting married because if you wait until you are married to have tat conversatin then you have ajustment problems. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 months and we have had a few discussions along those lines, the idea of children came up when talking about camp or work (he's a second grade teacher). Itdoesnt have to be in your face or someting to worry about. let it come natrally.

There are such things as whirlwind romances which actually end up with marriage that lasted a lifetime. Still, in most cases, it is best to get to know your partner before getting hitched. Do not forget that divorce/annulment can be a costly, messy, and very painful process - more painful than having a broken heart just because you have to leave someone because you realize that he/she is not husband/wife material or that the romance is just romance, superficial and without love. Of course, people won't always agree. There would always be differences. The couple may adjust with each other as the marriage progresses but it is still best to know your partner before making a decision that would surely weigh heavily on your whole life.

It's very much important to know the person before marriage 'cause it's a matter of long-term living together as husband and wife. A small mistake can result in a big misfortune. After knowing about the other one should stay prepared for encountering the his/her faults and flaws as these are the key factors of conjugal feud. It's important for not only marriage but also for love affair. Before falling in love one should also consider these facts.

yes its very important...to kow the person with ur going to share ur life...

Arranged marriage are common for those family who are wealthy & famous. It is also the practiced of Parents who is looking forward for the stable future of their children, some was able to adjust to the person they married but some did not turn out well because they did not want to open their heart & did not understand why they have to do it. It may hurt the feelings of the children but if you will look it in the brigther side its for their own good. It is also important to know well your soon to be partner but some of those families already knew each other but those kids are just spoiled brat.

I think arranged or free choice, that's just a matter of tradition. It all depends on person, if they know the significance of marriage and understand the commitment in marriage, they would do their best to make it last long. It takes time to adjust anyway, no matter if they get married with arrangement or self choice. Arranged marriage give people more sense of responsibility, at least I think so. If you use free choice, then you only enjoy your "rights", while maybe neglect the responsibility. There is not any "good" or "bad" comments. It is people's understanding and behavior of cherishing their marriage that make their family last long, not really the form how they married. Yes, it is good to know each other before marriage, but in traditional way, people just marry first and then nurture their loving feeling. If they have been doing that for thousands of year, it means people can work out in this way. Ok, no matter what, wish you nice single life and nice family life! Happy Mylotter!

I have mixed feelings over arranged marriages. This is because arranged marriages are matched by the would-be-couples' parents. Don't get me wrong, I agree that parents should definetely give advice and wisdom to their children in terms of choosing a mate. However, since a marriage is legally-binding for a LIFETIME, I believe one should get a chance to choose who he or she really wants to spend his or her life with. I personally think it's unfair for parents to decide this matter in behalf of their children. After all, it's not their life. Their job is only to give advice and hope their child will make the right decision. With regards to your other question, yes, it is important to really invest time in getting to know a person before getting married. As we all know, marriage is a lifetime commitment and once you're already in, there's no turning back. Yes, there is an option to divorce but it is a tedious process which leaves the couple with emotional scars and hurting children. This is why they say friendship should precede love. Friendship gives one an opportunity to get to know a person without strings attached.

Hi all,Interesting subject that stimulated many answers... I grew up in Sicily island, there long time ago there was the cultural use of arranged marriages, but have since long disappeared and the way we are brought up is such that we think as horrifying the fact that somebody tell you whom to spend your life with even if your own loving parents. But this is something that traveling around I've seen it still in practice in places like India, Malaysia, Indonesia and amazingly at times it works well. I have one of my dearest friends in Malaysia which had his family formed by the parents, the wife is from India and they now have two beautiful kids and thou their first couple of years were first cold then adjusting to eachother, this two really love eachother so much that you can really see it and yet I laugh thinking about how weird must have been of this two youngsters on the first time they met and the night they had to sleep together :D Love is a crazy thing that can bring together two totally incompatible persons and make their relationship last happily forever as two extraneous people do same... and two "perfect couple" kind of people have them fighting like cat and dog and have them split after 5-8 years. The real important thing for me is ultimately that once things gets sour a couple should be able to settle things as quickly as possible and with clear laws about the "splittings". Often the being married is something that doesn't help on that, so I would advice just not to get married at all hahaha

It is HUGELY important to know who you are marrying. That is the problem with the society that we live in these days. No one really gets to know the person that they so called love, and then they are married a few months later, and divorced within ten years. It is so important that people understand that marriage is supposed to be forever. It is so sad, I live in a small town, and there ar epeople that have been together for over twenty years, and they are getting divorced. How can they just give up after so long. Its horibly sad. Then at that time, they have children involved. My thought on marriage is this, If you love one another enough to get married, you love one another enough to make it work.

Knowing the person before getting into marriage is I guess very important though some other couples got married only after few months in a relationship. The time spent together before marriage doesn't really matter but I think it would be best to know more about the person you would like to spend your whole life with. If you'll marry someone whom you don't know much, there's a tendency that your relationship won't last because you will just realize that you don't like some of his/her attitudes and behaviors. In that case, you'll end up regretting. Knowing the person much can help you understand and accept each others' behavior.

Hi, Well, i'm married so i will answer you from my own experience. I've meet my husband almost 3 year ago and we were first friends for 1 moth but i can't say i got to know him in that period because we only saw each other 3 or 4 times. He liked me more that I liked him and wanted to be with me but didn't show it much or force me into something...after I decided to be more with him than just friends, we started a beautiful love story which ended with a pregnancy and a marriage. I have to tell you that our baby didn't force us to get married just gave us courage to do it. We are just perfect for each other and we felt it from the first time we met. Everything just seemed to happen so that we can be togher. It's like God and destiny were with us. I think that when you meet that special one...you just know it!!!

I can't say that I am for or against arranged marriages. I know they work in so cases so it really depends on how much effort is put into the marriage. I have also seen to very in love people divorce years later because they fell out of that love or changed. I think you would have to have an incredibly strong family relationship to trust them to pick your spouse for you. Either way marriage is work, no more or less if it is arranged or happened spontaneously.

I think everyone can "learn" to get along. That is why arranged marriages did work in the old days, and still work today. People didn't get a choice of divorce and were forced to find a way to connect and get a long with each other. Did they love each other though? Probably not, that is the bad thing about arranged marriages. Today though, where divorce is common, I would live to know my partner a very, very long time before I ever marry them. I would like to be dating for 7 years at least, before I even consider it.

We don't agree with arranged marriage because it's not part of our culture in America. That's not to say whether it's necessarily a bad or good idea, or if the marriages are necessarily a positive or negative relationship or any more or less full of love ultimately. Our Americanized idea of what it means to fall in "love" and then decide to get married may be a cultural idea. Still, we get married, change our minds, get divorced and then do it all over again. It's perfectly reasonable to belive that an arranged marriage may be full of love, even if it's not that way the day the union is formed. However, that doesn't mean it's not backwards in the American notion of thinking of women as a commodity to be given into the marriage. In the American culture, with our freedom of movement both in a relationship and within the society we have, an arranged marriage doesn't work. We have the social freedom and the intellectual freedom to accept that our emotions should develop at their own will, and a marriage that asks us to develop them in the confines of a predetermined relationship would be doomed.