I'm gonna try this being nice thing

I used to work with a salesman who had a motto that fits here. He used to say that you can get more with honey than with vinegar. I try to say nice things to people whenever I can, everyone wants to feel good about themselves, right? However, that doesn't mean that I was always totally honest. Evasiveness is an artform, where the listener is happy with your answer but you haven't really answered they question. For example, if some asks if an article of clothing makes their butt look big, you can go on at length about how nice the color is on them. There ARE limits though...I still can't think of anything good to say about my step-daughter's messy room.

I am mostly an honest person. Too honest at times, as there are people who say they want to hear the truth but when they actually do hear it, they are not too thrilled with it. Such is life, I guess. I tend to try to be as nice as possible, but there is a difference of being nice and then there's not being honest.

I beleive in sincerity. I also don't think that honest and kind are automatically exclusive to one another. Generally it isn't good to lie, but there are times when a lie is necessary to save someone pain or to refrain from hurting thier feelings or damaging thier ego. There are also times when the truth hurts and there is no way to go about stating the truth in a kind way, especially if the truth is aimed at a horrible person. There is no way to sugar coat telling a person that some flaw they have negatively affects you. Often times people who are this unaware don't understand what you are trying to convey to them if you beat around the bush. I often do kind things for others, but I am not considered to be a "nice" person. I am not a mean person, but I am not in the habit of being a sweetie pie either. When there is a problem I deal with it, if that means pulling out the Witch certification papers then that's what needs to happen. I think a lot of people think that being nice is synonomous with pleasing others. And when you find out that you can bend over backwards, feed the needy, save the trees, and give all your blood away to starving kids in ethiopia, go to church and agree with everyone even if you don't agree, and still nobody is pleased, it isn't the lack of niceness that makes everyone so unhappy. It's the lack of common sense.

I am not and I believe that to excel in this world you have to be very smart and not only follow the path of honesty.Sometimes you can lie yourself to success also as I see it with me.

Hi 3card, I am a terrible liar and also a very bad keeper of my own secrets. I think a lot and if I think of something I see as important I tell people, even if it was something about them, or my relationship with them. It is annoying because as soon as I know something should be a secret to only myself, I know I will tell others. That said I never tell the secrets of my friends, only the secrets I have of myself like what I come to understand and stuff ~ Tuts ~ It is annoying! As for saying nice things I like to do that a lot to the people I know online so they know that I value their friendship and love having them around. It makes me feel great to imagine that I am making other people feel great as well ~ Dances ~ So the last time I said something nice was probably today when I was wishing someone felt better since they had a headache. All the best, Dranz

I'm a mixture of both but I tend to be honest most of the time. I only lie when I really need to. I used to lie a lot and it brought me nothing but trouble.

I'm an honest person, i feel to bad when i lie, unless the lie was no big deal, but i'm a horrible liar anyway, everyone can tell when i'm not telling the truth. and last time i said something nice to someone, pretty much every time i'm with my boyfriend, we always compliment each other, just little things like 'your cute, sweet, funny, mine!' :P it keeps us both happy and knowing what the other things :)