Choose less intelligent girl

If anything, intelligence should be a challenge but not a threat.

hibhanusb wow what a thing to put in a discussion where there are so many intelligent women here, I just want to say girls do not marry a man who is looking for a fool for a wife as he is probably just as big a fool.I was and am an intelligent elderly woman who chose a man of equal intelligence and we had a great marriage. Ah poor men who think an intelligent woman would dominate you, maybe you need to go get an IQ test to find out just how big fools you really are. Maybe you equate equality of women with dominance, I do not know but I pity the girl who takes you on.

I think you might have all the different opinions that you could have in this discussion with all the responses that this had. Well, I just want to re-iterate a point that one commenter said: "understanding and not intelligence" is what matters in relationships (by karthi). That is most definitely a wonderful insight into relationships. Intelligence might not really matter as long as the couple did have an understanding on the same level then I think they wouldnt have any problems or insecurities with each other. I do have to say seemingly, the more intelligent half of the couple can seem to have more power in the relationship because he/she has more knowledge. This can also be a way to be assured that the "less intelligent" partner wouldnt think of cheating because he/she cannot outsmart the more intelligent partner. Well, a couple with this intention is bound to end cause there is lack of trust. This is a very dynamic topic after all. I dont intend to sound arrogant, but I do believe that I am intelligent. Most guys will be intimidated by this or they'll be full of air trying to impress other people showing that they're more intelligent than I am (They would challenge me about something or they would question what I just said, instances like that). Maybe that's why no guy I know have ever had the interest in me in that way. All I can say about this is that, if ever Im "more intelligent" than my guy, I would love him even more because that means he will go through hell just to be with me.

If you ever find a girl to marry you, it will be only because she fooled you into believing she is not as smart as you. I hope you save this discussion and read what you wrote 10 years from now...when we all hope you will be smarter and realize what a dumb thing you wrote.

Maybe it is your personal ideal.I believe that even if your girlfriend is more intelligent than you she may not dominate your relationship.She will use her intelligence to help improving your relationship.

I strongly disagree with your statement. You are making a generalization about this topic. I'am more intelligent with my ex-boyfriend but I didnt dominate the relationship at all. One's personality doesnt only depend on one's trait. And not all people are the same. Anyway, this is your opinion and I'm just responding to the topic. Happy myLotting.

Intelligence and domination are not the same. A truly intelligent woman lets you think you're boss. A dominating one will never let you lead at anything.

hi bhanusb, no worry, iam not getting once again marriage,girls are intelligent in some things but not in all things,it is better to choose the girl with any diffidence means,some black or fat ,or short ,or education less or some ugly,that will cover their intelligence,how is my view about intelligent,but iam not seeing either intelligence nor the other things while accepting girl friends in mylot,have a nice day

I tell you this if you marry a fool you will look like a fool yourself in front of your family and friends, remember a couple is like a mirror they reflect each other.

For me I don't mind if a woman is less intelligent or much intelligent than me. If I love that woman there is no matter to me...love is love and I don't mind what is really going...

i am surprise whether you love this gril.only because she is less intelligent girl and keep your future life will be more secured.i have this same thought with yours and marry less intelligent boy.but actually his ability to deal with some problem is better than me.so i dont think that we would value with less intelligence.he love me deeply and willing to do all for me.so i think that maitaining marriage need love and can keep future life will be more secured.

Dear Bhanusb I can't accept this statement.... Because between every husband and wife, love and understand are the main two parts... If both of them must have this good qualities and both of them understanding and loving each other means then I am sure no one can make their life to be bad... So apart from intelligence every one should be concentrate on these qualities and improvise themselves too... According to my experience I am telling this....

Everyone is intelligent about certain aspects of life so no one person can be overall more intelligent than the next. My husband and I ech have our own talents and are smarter when it comes to those items. I can't beleive you would want a life with someone you didn't consider your equal. I think maybe you just want to dominate your spouse. Good luck finding that kind of woman because I wouldn't want to be in your shoes.

i do not agree with you ,i am a guy and i have a clever girlfriend,i enjoy her intelligence and can learn a lot from her.everything has its own good aspect

Oh for goodness sake! what kind of comment is this. People dominate other people because they want control over other people. Your life can become hell whether your wife is less or more intelligent than you. Your marriage is never secure with anybody unless you are prepared to work hard on it on a continuing basis. I suspect you want to assume control over your wife and you think it is easier if she is less intelligent than you. Tell me how do you measure intelligence? Is it education? formal education? Success in life and business? Knowledge? Some of the most intelligent people in the world (members of Mensa) who belong to this elite organization that is only open to members who have an IQ that only 1 or 2% of the population have are totally unable to function successfully in life. Are they intelligent? yes, superintelligent! are some of them failures in life? yes indeed. Would they be able to dominate a practical wife with a lower IQ who can run a house, earn a living, raise the children and manage the the money ??? I doubt it.

Hi bhanusb, I'm sorry but I have to disagree with you on this. For one thing, why in the world would you think that a less intelligent woman would make you happy? I really do not see the logic in that. If it is control that you are worried about then you really need to find someone that is confident in who they are. It is lack of confidence that tends to cause a person to feel the need to control. Intelligence little to nothing to do with it. Are you really sure that it isn't you that wants to be the controller? Just kind of sounds it from what you wrote here.

I think you are very wrong in that notion. My dear, intelligent girls are not always dominating. It is not the level of intelligence that will make the woman dominating. I will give myself as an example here. My husband and I were classmates. I graduated with honors and he too. But I got the second highest recognition in the class while my husband was only 6th in the ranking. My husband himself openly admits that I am more intelligent then him, nevertheless I never dominated my husband in any manner in all the years of our marriage. We have been married for 25 years now but my husband never said that his life with me is hell. We've been living a blissful life. My husband is the father of the family. He is the king of our household and I am her queen. I've been submissive to him because I love him and I know he rules the house well. We both love the Lord and God is the center of our relationship. This made us obedient to him so that we could never afford to break his command that the husband is the head of the house and the woman has to submit to him. So this proves you wrong dear. Intelligent woman could be very submissive too and definitely could make a good housewife. Take my words for it. Men just have to know how to rule well so that submission will not be hard for the wives.

I am more intelligent than my Hubby, does that make me a better person? No. There are many more important traits that make up a loving, caring human being who makes a great spouse. Don't be so insecure in your self worth that you think you need to be a husband from a place of power. Many of the best people in the world are full of goodness, not smarts. And many intelligent men and women are so into their superiority that they loose the opportunity to become better people.

hi friend, yes you are right to marry less intelligent girl than me once they knows that she was intelligent then she starts dominating us and always she wants to do everything so marrying less intelligent girl is better than more intelligent.

You are partly right, and partly wrong. How do you define intelligent? Isn't an intelligent girl understanding and loving? A girl that is not understanding (who cannot understand me) is not intelligent to me. So, how do you define intelligent?