Another BABY at my age?!?

I know this more geared towards women who had kids but my aunt-in-law had a kid after 40. Smarried coupleshe is about 46 years old and her young one is 3 years old. This kid has been through some serious health battles. I say go with your heart. You already know the risks of having kids after a certain age. Just weigh the options.

Hi - I was 38 with Dearra and 42 with the twins. Beware, you tend to drop extra eggs when you are older. lol Things to think about, the higher possibility of Down's syndrome, being in your 60's before they're out of the house, health issues (yours), etc. But I find I'm a lot more patient than I was when I was younger and a better parent. I don't regret it one bit. Dawn

I suggest you and your husband actually sit down and talk this out; possibly with a counseler. You need to figure our how you really feel about it. Having a baby just because your husband wants one is not good, you could come to dislike your child and it could tear your marriage apart. You need to decide if you could be happy raising another child at this point in your life. Health issues do exist; but, younger women run the same risks (my niece is pregnant with a fetus that has severe abnormalities and it is not expected to live more than 30 min outside the womb and she is only in her 20's). Your husband needs to figure out why it is so important that he have a child at this time. Maybe if he understands why it is so important he can explain it to you so you will understand too. I would also like to point out that if your son is 15, you could soon become a grandmother also.

I"m not over 40 nor do I have a big age gap beyond 3yrs a child. Though I can speak on the perspective of being the baby born oh say 20yrs younger than my older half siblings. I would say if anything, if you haven't already check w/ your OBGYN and see what he/she has to say about pregnancy for you in particular. Doesn't hurt to have one more reason to justify a pregnancy or not. But you will be considered high risk at being over 35 & if you are heavy that adds to the risk. Good luck w/ whatever happens.

I had a baby at age 42. She is 13 years old today, and a beautiful, sweet WONDERFUL daughter. I was more tired than with my other pregnancies, but it was still a wonderful experience, and I would do it again in a heart beat. I wrote an article about it, here's the link:/2009/10/giving-birth-after-age-of-forty.html My husband and I have been married for 36 years, and we have basically had three families, resulting in ten children. When we got married we were only going to have two children. We had them, both girls. We started doing foster care, and when I baby I loved with all my heart had to leave, I begged for another child. He finally said yes, and when those two girls were nine and almost seven, my first son was born. Then I had another son two years later, then we became 'quiverful' (like the Duggars) and I had two more sons, and then that daughter when I was 42, along with two miscarriages in there. Then, around the time I turned 50, we got our foster license, hoping to adopt two foster children in my oldest girls foster home. They were eight and five. In the long end (that story is also on my blog) the mother had another baby, and got her older children back, but released her new baby, and age the age of 51, and hubby was 55, we adopted him. My youngest child was about eight, maybe nine, by the time we finalized. We continued to foster children, and ended up adopting two more times. So I had two girls in my twenties, four boys in my thirties, a girl in my forties, and we adopted two boys and a girl in my fifties. I wonder what God still has in store for us??

I believe that age should never matter when you are considering expanding your family and having another child. Never let people tell you that you are too old to have another child, instead just do what makes YOU happy.

I think if you are healthy and are able to take good care of yourself, it would go really well.. Also when you're in your 40's you should be more relaxed and tolerant and raising a child should be more relaxing than when lots younger.. All I know is how much I enjoy babies! I help my daughter a lot with hers.. First grandchild came along when I was 44 and I watched her a lot, especially as they live with us and now there is a second grand daughter and she is a joy too.. And they sleep so very much when first born.. And then when they are awake more and smiling and all, they are lots of fun.. though of course it does help that I don't have charge of them all the time.. I know you were talking mostly about health issues of carrying a child in your forties.. I think if you are healthy and can be pregnant without also having to work particularly hard at making a living and you can be relaxed about housework and all, it would likely go fine.. But if you are one who pushes herself to get all jobs done at all times, you may want to curb that as I would think rest with the feet up would be good, as would walking, but stress and over exertion would not be good.

i think this is much more common than it used to be. i also think that if you are healthy are want to do it (and can afford to), why not?

My aunt who was told she couldn't have children was married to her hubby 17 years an figure they would never have a child well when she was 41 she had my cousin Eric she had no problems with her pregnancy an Eric is going to be 14 this may so I say go for it my uncle has been ill all of his teens an such an Eric has brought about a change in everything in there family an my aunt who they said couldnt get pregnat cause she was 200 pounds over weight is now 120 pounds good luck I am 43 an if I could have one I think I would

I had my first baby just short of my 30th birthday and my 4th just before my 40th birthday. My health has never been great and my pregnancys hard but I wouldn't be with out my kids. A friend of mine had all her kids after 40 years old. She was in an awful accident in her 20s and was told she couldn't have kids as some metal (like shapernal) was inbeded in her body, including her uterus. She married but never thought about kids then a few months after her 40th birthday she found she was pregnant. She has 3 kids about 18 months apart! I think follow your heart, I love kids and would have had more but my youngest spent 4 months in hospital because she was born premature (The doctor said it was nothing to do with my age but an infection I had!!) but I wasn't about to go through that again. Take care.

Hi Koalatbs, It is all upto you and your health. Generally it is believed that after the age of 35 there is some complication with pregnancy. But it really varies from person to person. Some may have hormone problems and I suggest you to consult your Gynecologist as early as possible so that you will get a clear picture. My friend’s elder sister got her second baby at the age of 41 and her delivery was normal one. There is 11 years gap between the first child and the second child. So there is nothing to worry with the age factor. Good luck to you.

I am no expert but I have heard of women having children even into mid to late forties ,it all depends on teh health of the woman.Woman who are half your age ahve not been able to carry a healthy chilso there are no gaurantees .I think it is a gamble and you are still a pretty young gal so I say go for it and pray.Dont think about things which van go wrong ,think about pleasing youf husband and forget about age gaps and jsut do your thing

I have heard of other women in their 40s who have gotten pregnant. Marcia Cross of Desperate Housewives got pregnant in her 40s. My mother had my youngest sister at the age of 42. I know that most people say that it is difficult to conceive and dangerous when you have a baby at a later age. But I guess, science has already improved and it will be taken cared of. Some were given fertility medicines to conceive. As long as both of you wanted very much to have a baby and are committed to take care of the baby, there is really nothing to worry about.

I have heard that it is dangerous, but I have heard that it is possible. I know women of the two kinds: I know a woman that couldn't concieve for a long time and then she concieved in her 40ies and of course she took the risk and kept it and they are both fine know. But I know this other women who concieved accidently at the age of 42 and ofter consulting with the doctors, she made an abortion because of the risk for both her and embrion. So, you know the risks - my advice to you is to think fats, because if you decide to do it, it is better not to waste any time. I wish you good luck

Was wondering what was bothering you by the thought of another little one? The pregnancy, being older raising another one, energy level to keep up? Just curious. Im 44 and we have 8 kids and our youngest is now 3. We didnt have her so I didnt have to go thru the pregnancy but we have had her since birth and legally since she 5 months old.

Hey girl! If he wanted kids all this time, why didn't ya start during your honeymoon or soon after instead of waiting? I'm just a few months older and it would scare me silly if I was to get preggy now..specially when the risks are much higher now for having kids born with defects and such. Kudos to ya for wanting one or several now. This didn't come to my inbox...grumbling... Thank god for the daily digest!

I might not be able to help in this topic at all.. But just on the sideline; wondering..have you ever told our husband that you have mixed feelings about having children with him? How about adoption.. is he alright with that...or does it necessarily has to be his own baby..

hi koalatbs Although there is some risk, I think a lot of my friends did have babies in their forties and their children seem to be fine. I had two children in my earlythirties, one was just fine, and the other child a girl would have been had the doctor did a caesarian when he should have at the first sign] of slow heartbeat. he refused so she was born not breathing, wha is called a black baby meaning no oxygen getting to the brain it took them thirty minutes to get my baby breathing so sure she had brain damage but she would not have had the doctor opened me up and took her when she first showed signs of difficulty in breathing by a slow heart beat.so I think really you have pretty good odds if you are healthy now and keep up your good health that you will have a fine baby and make sure you ob gyn is not adverse to doing a caesarian if it seems necessary so the child is breathing normally.

I am a child of a woman who had a baby after 40. My mom gave birth to me at ripe age of 41. She's 70 now, I am the youngest of 6, and there is a big age gap between all of my simblings but one. They are 54, 52, 48, 46, 36 and then me at 29. When I was younger and in grade school/highschool, sometimes it bothered me to see my mom wasn't the same age as the other parents sitting in the gym watching our class concerts or whatever it may be, but as i've aged, I have come to realize my mom and I have closer bond that what most. She gave me more trust than she did the other kids, as she told me, she'd done it 5 other times and at her age she knew what was gonna go on so there was no point in hiding anything nor trying to pull a quick one on her she'd seen, and heard it all before. So that opened up the communications with us. I am still close to her, even though I live 1300 miles from her. From hearing her talk about having a baby at 42, she said it was harder to go threw the toddler years with me, but everything else was so much easier. I wish you the best of luck and health with your pregnancy if that's what you choose to do.

Having another baby at your age is possible. Do a little research on your family history, make sure that there are no health issues that may show up in your infant. There are alway potential problems with the birth of any child so prepare your self in the event that something is wrong. More than likely you will get yourself all worked up and the baby will come out perfect. One thing you may want to consider before having another child is to discuss it with your son. He is 15 and it will be a big adjustment for him to have a baby around. He does not need to sway your decision but needs to be aware of what the decision is.