As someone with some life experience?

Hi lola, Welcome to mylot! Well, I don't really see young people taking advice unless they ask for it. They have probably just gained some amount of independence from the parents and enjoying their new found freedom. I know when I was a kid, I just could not wait to be out on my own. I did not want to hear all the shoulds and should nots on how to best live my life. I just wanted to live it. In fact, I did not listen to such advices. Sure my life may have been a bit easier and I may now be a bit richer had I listened to some of the stuff but I don't regret for a minute that I didn't listen to them. I learned so much from the so-called mistakes and I've been anything but bored. You know so much because of the mistakes you made not despite them. Would you have learned these things so well had you not experienced them and found them to be mistakes? You will make an impact on lives by the way you live yours. Maybe if you really want to give advice on these things, a job in a high school as a guidance councelor or even just a councellor would be a good thing for you to do. That way the advice you will be giving will have been asked for and probably very appreciated.

There is a reason elders in society are honored with respect. It is that very life experience that gives them that respect. Young people are often stubborn when first starting out because they think they have to do it all on their own. Live life by their rules no matter what. That's all well and good, but youth should still listen to what their elders have to say. Even if they don't heed their advice they at least can learn and pick up wisdom from their elders. Youth will continue to make their own mistakes, and their is not much the rest of us can do about it, but they will learn by failure, often more than by success. But that doesn't mean you should ever stop trying, because you will make a difference in someone's life, and if only one person is changed for the better, than you have achieved something great.

Their famous phrase is 'dont lecture' Youngsters do not like to be told but would prefer to make mistakes and learn the hard way. I dont advise anyone unless they ask me for my advice and then they cannot run away from the advice I give them!

Making them admire you is a useful way to deal with it I think.Do not just tell them what to do or how to do it or whatever.When I was younger, I really want a father who is a role model,not the person who always payed lip services.But it seems my dad does not good at it.It does not matter.He is still my father.And I love him forever.So my suggestion is just to try another way, on their position.

We can't force them to listen to us if they don't want specially the young generation teens.They're very liberated and rebellious that if you keep on reminding them that they are doing it in a wrong way they will just continue doing it.Sometimes they answer back in a very rude manner and make faces at your back.So the better way of teaching them is let them do the things they want and when they're broke they will just come to ask for some advice.That's the time you give them.Lessons are learned in a hard way but it is more effective because they will have basis and it is marked in their mind.

It is unfortunate that time has been changing quite rapidly. So these days the young generation feels that their lives are far more different than the elders. I was like that also. In fact, I still believe in it. But in most serious matters I choose to listen to an elderly person or a friend who has better experience than me. I feel perception works better than advice. You show them the example and they will follow you.

hi there lola, nice to see starting another discussion. i dont want to preach too. even my younger siblings does not listen. let them learn from experience. if they will come to be for advice then i am willing to give whole heart advices but if not then there is nothing i can do with that. you are like my wife that she sees younger friends as her brothers and sisters that she needs to watch and warn all the time. but sometimes people only listen when they fallen already. if someone comes to us for advice then we are going to give, someone needs suggestions then we will give base from what we know

If someone asks, I will give them the benefit of my experience. I will impress upon them that was what worked for me and it may be different for them. There is something to be learned hopefully and I hope I can guide them in the right direction. However, I do not want to make their decisions for them. Only they know what's right for them. I can only offer whatever advice I can.

It is nice to give some words of advice to the younger generation. It can help in decision-making, but I think the best way to give advice is when it is being asked for, so it will be listened and taken well. We also need to learn from our own experiences, mistakes and successful ways. When we can't figure out what to do anymore, that is when the elders' words of wisdom are sought after because our elders have our respects.