What is wrong about being nice??

There is nothing wrong about being nice, and anybody who would say otherwise needs their head examined. The only problem I can see with being nice is that the a-holes of this world will try and take advantage of your nice nature

I salute you! ^_^ We need more people like you in the world :) I think I can also say that I'm a nice person. I really do not like to think of evil thoughts about somebody. I do not like to gossip and if someone tells me something bad about a person, unconsciously I just brush it off. Because I believe there's something good in everybody and I think that that's more important to look at than to keep looking at one's flaws. No body is perfect so why should we judge others? I know I have my own flaws that's why I don't take other people's imperfections against them :) Stay nice emkomar69! ^__^

Hi Emkomar69, There is no wrong to be nice to people. Trust me, God will bless those nice people, and being a nice person, you will gain more that you offer, and your heart and your soul will be pease than any one else.

Though I also believe that deep down, people are naturally good, every person is a shade of gray depending on the situation. If you think about it, even "nice" is relative, it may even have no meaning whatsoever given the context. What I'm saying is, it's good that you're nice, but you have to be mindful that being nice might not be the best way to go for every situation.

It's good to be nice, but you really have to be carefuly who you open up to! It is extremely unwise to open up to the wrong person. you don't know what someone will do with your information. Building relationships is supposed to be a process, not an event. When you meet a new person, you open up a little bit-share something that isn't so significant and cant come back to bite you. little by little, you either learn to trust the person, or learn that you cant trust the person. So be kind to everyone, but dont bare your soul to everyone.

It's really sad when people get taken advantage of. I've been guilty of it before. :( But be happy to know that you really are making the world a better place, and plenty of people won't take advantage of you, but rather, they will be kind as well to you (and other) because of the kindness you have shown them. Good for you for not letting your bad experiences run you over to team selfishness. :)

Hi emkomar, You are right in not listening to the pessimists regarding the good in people. I, too, have been a sucker and victimized by people I've tried to help. It teaches me something about the person and I make sure not to put myself in such a spot with that particular person again. It does not say anything about the human race as a whole. More times than not the help I give someone whether it be a stranger or a close friend, not only is greatly appreciated but it also makes me feel better inside. On the flip side, I can not tell you how very many times that I've found myself in a situation and people that I don't even know all that well have come running to help out. It is amazing. So continue to be the kind person that you are and you will be doing your part in making at least one little corner of the world a brighter place for yourself and for others. Don't let a few jerks turn you bitter. Can you imagine a world where everyone was afraid to be kind or helpful? I can and it would not be pretty.

emkomar69, As the saying goes: "It takes all kinds (of people) to make the world", I just feel that there is nothing wrong being nice and trying to make this place a nicer place. However, it will be wrong if we do not wise up, be discreet and still remain gullible. I think you need to remember that people get taken advantage of and cheated has all to do with oneself. So, we need to be prudent with our answers and not risk ourselves into some situations where it will not only hurt ourselves but those around us as well. Also, we need to remember to be selfish sometimes where we need to take care of ourselves (including those close to us) first before others. We just should not overly kind and forget if the other party really need our help in the first place. Just be careful and remember to take care of yourself before others always. Have a nice day.

i understand how you feel. I learned that there is such a thing as too nice. Sometimes standing up for ourselves means nipping problems in the bud before they get to a point where things are out of control. You can still be a nice person and maintain your moral principles and lay down the law. Just because youa re nice deosn't mean you can't have boundaries and let other people know what you about. I got to a point where I was up to my eyebrows in b.s. and I just won't take any more. People liking you because you are nice is not as important as liking yourself because you stand up for what you believe. It is not as important to have people think you are always sweet as it is to have people see that you will not be disrespected.

It is not wrong about that if you do nice the Jehovah GOD happy about your doing and that attitude is a king of meek ones that the reason he advice to became good because in the time of his judgment only meek ones have everlasting life.

I used to be nice early in my career. But after being passed over for promotion, you learn to play the rules of the game. I still think I am nice outside work. But I've learned to say no, and not to commit. Last year I belonged to a community group. Because everybody thought I was nice, I ended up doing most of the work for the group. This year, I did not commit to anything. I still work hard for the community group, and volunteer if needed. But now, nobody takes advantage of me. There is nothing wrong with being nice. And I wish everybody would be nice. The world sure could use everybody being nice and helping out.

There is nothing wrong being nice. it is a good attitude can be seen from a person character. Though sometimes, other people tend to go over with their impressions rather than what the true color the person got. They have different interpretations. But given such conditions, where they are able to see the true person far from what they noted. They will realize they are mistaken.

There are too many people looking to take advantage of nice guys, that this world will never be a nice place. I have come across SOOO many people that think when you are being nice to them, that you are soft, or are a push over and easy to use to get what they want. I have found in todays world, being nice just doesnt work anymore. You have to wear a hard shell and let people think you are tough, until you get to know them, then let your true self show or will get taken advantage of every time.

I totally agree with you and I am that way too! Yes sometimes being nice can mean that you get your feeling hurt now and then but in the end, the way I see it is, I really like the person I see in the mirror and that is important to me. I have friends that say the same things your friends did, like I should have known but I do not think that is true. I like the idea of giving everyone a chance to be nice and see what happens. Sometimes, you have to realize that people do not always treat you the same back but that is okay...what goes around, comes around as they say! Hang in there and know in your heart that being a nice person is a very good thing!

emkomar69 hi there is nothing wrong about being nice at all, ' in fact its so wonderful I just wish all people would cotton to the idea, what a peaceful world we would have then. Like you I do not believe for one minute that people are no good. Maybe one or two, but thats all. I agree that we should trust that the person we like likes us and is indeed not out to hurt us. To be distrustful of everyone is to become soured and old well before your time.

the thing wrong from being nice is when people abuse you because you are nice. when they know that you will always say yes on whatever they want you to do for them is whats bad. my wife is a nice person too but sometimes her being nice is plain $tupid for me. for i see people abusing her because she cant say no when they want something or if they ask something. if you are nice make sure you are nice to nice people like you. people can be abusing your being nice to them. be nice to people who knows how to say thank you and give niceness to you in return

I have always been a nice and considerate person, too- I got Honor Roll in school and helped out others when they needed it. But I was often taken advantage of, or tried to be taken advantage of, because of it. ww

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being nice, nothing at all. I try to be nice but sometimes it is difficult, especially when people aren't being nice to me, you know what I mean? My Mum is probably the nicest person on the planet but she is taken advantage of at work because she admits she isn't "assertive enough." I would much rather her workmates would treat her better rather than Mum having to be more assertive, because that's not her. The day after her workmates are bad they treat her better; it's like they are saying "sorry" but why they can't say "sorry" at the time they are being bad I don't know. Carry on being nice, the alternative does not win you many friends.

Sometimes, being nice serves as a double edge sword. It can hurt you eventually. People might take advantage of your being nice. Well, being nice is a good thing but being passive and overly nice cannot help you in any way. Nice guys finish last but it doesn't mean that you are not supposed to be nice. You must be friendly, nice at the same time assertive and frank.

Being nice means you should be wise why?.Because a nice person always attracts people.Keep in mind that those people have different intentions.So be wise if your nice because some people may abuse your being nice.