Does he still like me...is there hope?
@indiandevil (2410)
Canada
January 6, 2010 3:24pm CST
Well back in August, I broke up with this guy the first few months were very hard niether of us were speaking to the other, hurtful things were said on both parts. It appeared we would never speak again, and then he came to me, telling me his email had been hacked. I helped him try to find out who it was, we became somewhat friends again then he refered me as "his pain in the butt" to my friend suddenly he "hacked" the hacker back, getting his account, and I decided since I was his pain, I would vanish out of his life, he told me no he didnt want that.
shortly after that I w/ced something, he freaked out and when I asked if he was Jealous he denied it.
While joking around, he said I was often green envious of him. When I asked him about he he said I was jealous of girls who didnt exist to him. When I said "and you have never been Jealous, he simplied replied.."no, just confused."
Well in November I decided broke up or not I was sending him an xmas card. We had been broke up the year before at the same time and he thanked me etc, so I thought what the heck.
I found him a card, saying it traveled thousands of miles from my home country to wish him happy holidays, from someone whos been thinking of him. (It was the only one in the store, and I had to dig to find it, almost as if it was there just for this) I decided I would also put a few things in, with the card, a few reminders kinda of our time together. I found a keychain with my country's name and symbol on it, there always was a inside joke between us. "Dam beavers, dam brits" so I got that as well as a drawing out of my yearbook, that I had drawn years before I met him and was connected to how we met. I signed the card wrote him a little letter inclosed that and mailed it late.
I was scared that he wouldn't get it on time...panicking as the 23rd came and still no card.
However early morning for me, on Dec. 24th, I was awoken by multiple messages I knew they were from him as our song, is the sound effect for his IM's.
When I woke up he seemed anxious I asked him what was up...he went on teasing me saying he had this card addressed to him. Describing it to me excitely as he went. He opened it, waited a few minutes most likely reading the letter. he sent a big grin along with "You got me a beaver...and its sticky" (the tape) he then had to go, he was going away. I next heard from him the following saturday after New Years.
He informed me he kept the beaver and had it on him always. Then went off to tinker with his video games. I haven't heard from him since then so far, but that is nothing new with him. There was patches even together I hadn't heard a peep from him.
Though why this year did he make such a big deal about it then last year? Insisting I be up while he opened it, and making such a hugh deal of it.
Could this mean he does still like me and perhaps since last christmas...should I play on it a little and see what happens?
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@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 10
Actually, after a sudden thought.. no i dont think he's still into you. A guy who is very interested in a girl would pretty much try to talk to her every chance he gets. And you guys.. well... you're not talking all that much eh?
Really in my sudden thoughts... chances are he's still got ever so slight small feelings there for you. (Just small ones) whether thats from jealousy that you're with someone else etc or he still loves you.
But if you're not constantly trying to get hold of one another.. then hes either playing cool or he just doesn't want to get back with you.
Being in love with someone and wanting to be with someone are two different things i'm afraid. :/
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@indiandevil (2410)
• Canada
6 Jan 10
We have split a few times actually but there is always a key element.
He has claimed each time he had feelings for me, we live in different places
it was long distance but the arrangement we had was working for the most part.
Though each time he himself would begin making plan to come and visit, he's very shy and would start to get nervous as the time would be approaching, instead of talking to me about it, he'd bottle it in, and avoid me a little bit. He wanted it to pass because he wanted to come here.
However when he'd avoid me, I would start doubting myself feeling something was wrong, we would argue, his nerves would get the best of him and he'd use the arguement as a way out.
He had been planning to come here spring of this year, I don't feel its not that he doesn't care, I just think hes scared.
The night we broke up it was over web cam, and he looked just as hurt as I felt.
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@amandakringle (109)
• United States
8 Jan 10
Hi, I dont think that he really likes, you but rather your attention. But you have to do what you feel is right for you.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
Going over the situation. I think that the guy is insensitive enough for a real relationship commitment. He relate his feelings without being aware how would the person feel like you. The situation is more of a neutral and game kind, for he is not that serious at all. I hope you will misinterpret my opinion.
He leave you always in questions. If he is really true having feelings for you or just no choice but give you such small words where you still have communication to each other.
You see, when a guy is serious with a girl. He will improve himself and give way to your feelings. He even cannot last a day without you at least a communication is good.
He likes you in a way but not in moment where he will be serious with you. Maybe he has many activities he wanted to enjoy more than what you expected.
About the hope? it really depends. Maybe if he will realize how important when you are there with him. Great chance to happen. But, if he will just fool around and flirts mode only. Lesser chance awaits for that.
I guess it good if you also play a little. Be neutral. Do not get involved deeply in love unless he laid all his cards well and had proven to you the reasons why he love you among the rest. That is placing yourself in a situation who is ideal and you can tell directly what is your opinions ahead. See what happens next.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
technical error on my first phrase it must be " I hope you WILL NOT misinterpret my opinion" thanks
