Chivalry - Yay or No Way
@UpsideDownPineapple (643)
United States
January 6, 2010 10:42pm CST
Hi all in MyLot Land, :)
I was thinking about this topic with some friends a long time ago and I thought the concept of modern chivalry was weird. By chivalry I mean men being super considerate and extra courteous to women. Not just opening doors but standing when a lady leaves or returns to the table and bringing the car to the front of the parking lot so she doesn't have to walk. I thought it seem really silly and really old fashioned.
I enjoy doing "girlie" things like cooking and stuff, but I'd rather share the raising of the kids and financial responsibilities 50/50.
But I tend to be old fashion about little romantic things and I've changed my mind about the idea of chivalry - I like it.
So my questions -
Boys: Do you like doing that kind of stuff? Do you mind if a woman expects it from you? Or do you prefer a more "independent" woman?
Girls: Does it annoy you if a guy does those type of things? Does it make you feel like he's only doing it because he wants you to feel "in debt" to him. lol Or will you not except anything less than chivalry?
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4 responses
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
7 Jan 10
I have always enjoyed doing those kind of things for women if they want. And I would get so angry when I heard women say wish they could find a man who likes to do those things because I had a hard time finding that special someone to do those things for. I'm talking almost 20 years. Then, almost 9 years ago I did meet someone. She does me doing those things but she also likes to do things herself. I must admit I don't do iyt as much as I used to when we first met.
@UpsideDownPineapple (643)
• United States
13 Jan 10
I imagine as you get to know the person better it would sort of slow down a little and I don't think that's an issue. I mostly associate chivalry with courting.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
16 Jan 10
That's true, it has slowed down a little. But I still open the garage door every night so she doesn't have to get out of her car, open the garage door then get back in her car to pull in the garage. In the morning when she takes her breakfast upstairs to our room, I'll get up to close the door that goes to our steps so she doesn't have to put her food down. I enjoy doing things like that.
@rosgill (45)
• United States
8 Jan 10
There's nothing wrong with chivalry, in fact, it's showing respect. It's nice to be thought of and treated well by a man and having the door open for you is an act of kindness. All the other shows respect and caring which helps in a relationship or in developing one. Chivalry doesn't show disrespect to a woman or an act of insult to mean she is weak, it's just a nice act of kindness and showing caring to a woman. It may not mean anything to other women, and some guys don't bother. During my marriage my X would get out of the car and go on into the house not even waiting for me. That made me feel disrespected and uncared about. Chivalry is nice in marriages and in dating and if a guy opens the door for you enjoy it.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 Jan 10
NAh, it's not chivalry, nor expected to do it..
It's more like it's our responsibility to pamper gals, in the best possible way we can.. haha =D Be it in actions or even thoughts, we ought to be thinking for them, in whatever we do.. LEt them be surprised, and yet, not letting them take us for granted.. haha =D
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jan 10
hi upsidedownpineapple I am elderly but we have a very sweet
man here ,who is maybe fifty but he does all sorts of very
kind things. Like today we went shopping at Walmart, and I had three rather bulky sacks which I had to carry in my left hand as my right hand was b usy holding onto my quad cane. I was wabbling around as the pavement was uneven, so Jessie came over and s aid, gently, give me those, and I will put them in the van. so I let him as he does that with all of us. we dont ask him for help,he does it because its part of his nature. I am partly handicapped and a bit proud so I do not ask for help easily. I have an artificial shoulder joint in my left shoulder, and a badleg with a brace. so at times I do need help but it does embarrass me. I thank Jessie and he gruffly said no problem. bless his heart is what I think.Sometimes there are people whom I think are Angels in disguise. lol.
@UpsideDownPineapple (643)
• United States
13 Jan 10
That's very nice. It sounds like he is very wonderful. :)
