Why would you want to Marryl?
By maria1081
@maria1081 (1251)
Philippines
January 7, 2010 12:39am CST
A lot of people marry for a wrong reason. Are you going to be one of them? Reasons to marry may include: money, security, lust, companionship and love. These few reasons may vary from one person to person. If you'll marry for a wrong reason better think twice before you decide...
Would you follow the footsteps of Britney spears? Married for one day and divorced the next day. Or adorable couples like brad and jen? Who have been in a relationship my ten fingers can’t count but still end up separated because of infidelity. Or countless cases of killing their wives and children before killing themselves? Marriage is not supposed to be only written in papers, not only spending a lot of money during wedding or throwing an expensive honeymoon getaway to another country.
How is it marriage after then? Would it be happier to think that you marry because you two found each other and commit to love and be in love for the rest of your lives? Just imagine how it felt to spend moments together in a beach watching the sunset with your partner and lovely children or to go home everyday after work to your family spending dinner and quality time. If that’s the case, life is indeed wonderful. Life is too short to be wasted with someone you marry for a wrong reason. Love is never selfish for only one person to benefit. Love is a blessing, so better continue to be a blessing to other people. (",
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11 responses
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
I want to get married so I have someone beside me who I can rely on emotionally. I'm going to get married for love, money is secondary but I think it is for security. Others have many reasons but one thing for sure marriage is not a joke and you should think it carefully before going to get married.
@entrepinoy (709)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
@agv
I agree with you that marriage is not an easy task to do and people who are planning to get married should think the pros and cons of getting married. They should be financially, physically, emotionally and spiritually prepared so that they will have a fruitful marriage.
@Ambitiouslyleiah (591)
• United States
7 Jan 10
I will marry my love in the coming up spring. I am marring him because he is the only person I can see myself with, because if i even imagined him not with me I would not know what to do with myself. Love is why im going to marry. It almost brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it (happy tears)
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
Wow spring is coming closer. Congratulations and best wishes! Cheers!
@copperkitten (3473)
• United States
8 Jan 10
Hi Maria! Heres my opinion on the subject. I personally dont ever want to get married. Now I have a hunny of almost 9 years. We have 2 beautifull children together. We have made a home together. We love eathother dearly. Now heres my issue with marrage. 65% of the time people marry for the wrong reasons. Others marry for the right reason then reality hits. Most end in devorse. All over a party and a piece of paper!! I dont need that paper to say I love my hunny. I call him my husband and he calls me his wife. Things are good for us why ruin it. I love him no matter what dont need a paper to tell me that!
~May The Kisses Of An Angel Cover And Protect You Always~ Copper
@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
I want to marry, cause i love the person, who i want to marry or make a family with, i fill contented if i see and find him by my side no matter what circumstances you see in you marriage life, even if you don't have money, or children at all you love that person selflessly, even he is poor or rich, without love the relationship is easy to broken, and most of the time , the insecurities, will came, you became to compare each other, bout money or anything else, so the key word of marriage is love, joy, peace, contentment, committed to each other.
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
I agree with you that Marriage is a lifetime commitment and we should be contented for having each other.
@monkeylong (3139)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Jan 10
As far as I am concerned, I think , If I want to marry a girl ,maybe I want to have a home of my own. I think I need to have a home which can be full of warm. When I come back home from work ,there will a meal waiting for me. There will also have some comfort waiting for me too. That will be my wife,.So I think the reason I need to marry may be my wife.
@lorelieyap (17)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
For me, I would want to get married because I want to have a family of my own. No human is an island. We all need each other for companionship, friendship, to have a shouder to lean on, to inspire us, to love us and to be with for the rest of our life. Having a family and bearing a child, for me is a neccesity and an obligation to all humanity. It is the reason why human race continue to grow and prosper. It is needed for the continuation of our race. Imagine if suddenly everyone will stop reproducing. What will happen to the human race? That is the reason I value my family a lot. If before it was our parents who took good care of us time will come that it will be our turn to take care of someone and ensure that their will be next human generations who will continue our legacy. That is one of the reasons why I would want to marry. I already have a child and a partner in life and I consider our son as our great contribution to our society.
@entrepinoy (709)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
I would want to marry the girl I love with all my heart and soul so that we can legally be together in one roof and have our own family.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
8 Jan 10
Maria, I come from India, and here, everybody marry whether its through love or arrangement. The way we Indians see marriage is different from the way the west sees it. Marriage is sacred and a bonding for life of two souls who vow to remain partners in both happiness and grief and this is what most of us do. It doesn't mean that there are no Indians who break up after marriage or indulge in illicit relationships or polygamy, but the majority of Indians treat marriage as a bonding for life and treat each other with respect and love.
There are many positives in a marriage; it brings companionship, trust, care, support, and responsibility. The experience of having kids around you is so warming that only a marriage can bring.
@wuyuanhua (114)
• China
7 Jan 10
Yes. Reasons for married include: money ,security, Lust, love etc. If you believe these aren't right for marriing. Please tell me Why we have to marry?
@knkshrt (26)
• India
7 Jan 10
Good reason of marry :
1) Because you are in love.Although love shouldn't be the only reason to marry. it's an important ingredient in the most successful relationship.
2)To make a commitment.you've decided that you have to be together forever,knowing each others faults and failings.
3)It's Part of our culture.The ceremony of marriage is an integral part of our culture or religious beliefs and an essential part of your core value system.
4)To start a family.You've both enjoyed the secure and committed relationship for some time and feel marriage is the best environment in which to bring up children.
5)To Celebrate.Because You want Your family and friends to share with you in your happiness and commitment as a couple.
6)It's the right time.You have a solid and secure relationship and it feels like the logical next step.
@raymondcarreon (29)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
..i will marry just because of love.. it is the most important thing that i consider before i got married.. all of the things mention by the discussion starter will come up if you really love each other.. even money, because for me, i will work hard because i love my family..
