Do you give away used things to relatives?

Books are really worth even when they are old. I don't think somebody will throw away their old books in the waste bin. We should collect the things which can be used to give to charity organizations. I have a set of six shirts which are very good, but I can't use them because I don't fit into that. I am planning to give them to my sister. I am sure that she will be happy to recieve them.

I really don't oppose to what you are intended to do. Its just that for us, we felt ashamed to ourselves if we give our old belongings to them. We would rather buy new clothes to them as a present rather than giving our used clothes to them. I knew they would accept whatever we will give them (including the old ones) but we never offer it anyway. We just let them know what are our plans and if they wanted it, then we give it 100%.

That is nice about your mother. I have a question for you. Will you take it with the same attitude if your mother-in-law gives the those things to you. I have a friend who always complain that her husband collects all of his parents old stuff. He is happy to do that, but it is difficult for her to take. I don't mind taking some old stuff from my mother if I like them. I will say NO to some of the items which my mother gives, if I don't like them. She doesn't feel bad about that because she thinks that I have all freedom to do that. But, I don't know how the situation will be when my mother is replaced my mother-in-law. According to me, it is good to ask the person if he or she wants something before presenting old things.

I think it depends on how you give stuff to people. I always give things that I don't use anymore to my family and to my other relatives. They don't mind because I ask them first if they want some stuff before giving it to them. I give stuff away because it would be such a waste to just throw them out. It would be better if someone else could use them.

I think your young cousins would have happily accepted your sports equipments. I know the liking of young generation, especially boys in teens, towards sports equipments. I have a cousin who is 16 years old. He made my father buy circket bat and ball for him. His latest demand is to buy a sports cycle. Sports cycle is very expensive. So, his father put that on hold for the time being.

I am happy to share my views on your reponse. I also felt that relatives never or rarely appreciates if we give our old things. They may be in need of the thinking we give away and the thing would be of good use to them, but they will give the impression that they are not poor to recieve that, but they are accepting because we have given them. I don't like that atttitude. So, I prefer to give to some orphanage or poor people. They will appreciate and be thankful for it.

!nocturn.holding my stomach,bending forward,tears in my eyes.....you made me burst into laughter at the end of your post.I mean your embarrassment about the undies.One should not be so mean to hand over such things. It is a good sense of humor you presented here that I happened to enjoy as I am ready to leave mylot for the day.

You made me laugh too. It is good that you can appreciate it if somebody gives you used things. I have the culture that accepting used things is embarssment. So, I wanted to know how this works with other cultures. I don't like to accept any used things even if it is expensive and in a good condition. I don't mind if it is gold, platinu, or any other expensive metal.