Do you guys and gals kiss and tell?
By neelianoscet
@neelianoscet (9615)
Philippines
January 7, 2010 10:43am CST
I have a cousin who are not always good in keeping a secret that every time he is courting a girl and on a date. He end up kissing and he brag it to his mates like a trophy. The same things with my brother he tell it to me with the things between her girlfriend. I think it run in the family genes. In my case, it is not so serious thing as I have my first kiss from non-relatives when I am in grade school a guy accidentally kiss me out of of teasing and I tell it to my sibling immediately. Their is no feeling involves as I am still young way back and it is just a sort of admiration. I think I could not hold a secret as I also like to share the things which happen to my life. Now that I grown mature, I never do, kiss and tell. Could you, kindly share a funny situation when you kiss and tell? What happen there after?
[b]How about you, is their an instances when something happen to you whether it is unexpected or unexpected that you could not control that you kiss and tell?[b]thanks
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18 responses
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Lol..lakota that would be nice to know that, you is not a kiss and tell person as you value your privacy. well, now days many youngster have a habit of kiss and tell. Although, they do not have to tell it they even do it in public display of affection which is inappropriate but seem many are so liberated so they think what matter with the kiss and tell? It is just a kiss and their is nothing wrong with it. Though, not all approve as some stay conservative in their own beliefs which should be respected as well. thanks.
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@bjcyrix (6901)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
I dont have anything to tell actually, and Im not that kind of person.^_^ I am a very private person so I really wont even tell if there's anything that has happened to me, good or bad. Of course I might tell it to my close friends, but that would still be an internal debate whether I would or not. Most of all, I may be brazen at the right times but I am definitely not that bold.
So, sorry to disappoint you this time but I really dont have any story to tell.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
hahaha..why? You should have now..just kidding...
anyway they don't see your faces..lol..
Yup, it is not a nice attitude to disclose personal information especially when it comes to privacy, it is wise to remain it as a secret as long as it is hidden then their is no need to bother...
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@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
wow, you change your avatar too! very nice chipmunk...
well, I know sooner or later you have more stories to tell even here in my lot..you could share it..hehehe..
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
Yup, with different cultures their are many variation as some perceives being kiss and tell as a taboo while other see no wrong with it as it a sign of being liberated away from conservatism. I think it fall under the discretion of the person itself if he/she would allow it as other see it as a form of disrespect when the other partner never gives permission while some admit to telling it when the other partner allow. thanks.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
yup, as a matter of fact some enjoy telling their escapade as it one way they could prove to their mates that they found someone who trust them and do not care if they tell their secrets as long as their is permission. Whereas when the other partner does not tolerate such behavior it is alright not to disclose personal information as a discreet things to do. thanks
@rosey19 (951)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
I think personal happenings must be kept in secret between the two people involved. It's a big embarrassment to the person being gossip that other persons knows what they have done. If that is the case I think the person who spread the happenings is not in love or is not serious with his/her feelings. He/she just playing the other person and if that is the case never expect to have a happy ending or if if it ends happily well, that's good but only rare case happen that they ended into marriage.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
Yup, as the person who involve in such behavior is immature and only out of curiosity that he involves his/her self in a relationship just for fun as matter of adventure spirit. Maybe, because they are still too young and their way of thinking is a bit immature as they are still in the state of exploring other aspects of life away from the seriousness of having a partner. thanks
@bharadwaz (112)
• India
8 Jan 10
hi friend,
i don't know about the other people,in my case i don't want to publish my personal feelings and issues i always keep it in secret most of my friends publish that they like this and other but i don't publish like that.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
Yup, it is really embarrassing to open up personal information to other people unless they are very closer to you as it really depend on the upbringing of the person and the way they view their relationship as something sort of formality or like a childish games which all is done for a matter of enjoyment. When the person involves becomes mature it is then they realize their fault and changes their attitudes for good. thanks.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
8 Jan 10
I do not kiss and tell anything. I am a very private person. I do not like to spread the word about anything. I think alot of things are sacred and better left unsaid also.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Yup, that the proper attitude as being kiss is a private things which not to be flaunt unless the two conceited to public display of affection.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Haven't been kissed Still single and I don't know when will it happen. I have no experience by my friend does it. Whenever her and her date or boyfriend do it, she share it. The first time I heard it, i was confused, did she really have to share it with me and then a day goes by and I do understand her. She just wants to share a very sweet moments she had. Actually not only the kiss she had shared, but the toot and everything else .I just keep her secrets.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
It does not only involve by merely kissing it may also mean that one have disclosed personal information which intended for private uses not to be share with other people. I itself could not exactly count a friend post declaring her/his escapade experiences then just keep the information intact which a bit proper things to do than exposing information without the first on hand knowledge. Better to stay lightly on various issues unless on have the talents and skill which could be quite difficult to expose when two party does not conceit. So the secret is to keep a secret until the time permit it would be ready to be expose.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
8 Jan 10
I will never do that.. haha =D Maybe it's due to my family, culture and that we dun really share things when we were kids.. Thus, till now, our family dun share problems with each other.. haha =D
And even to frenz, i wont kiss and tell too, unless it's a very close fren, whom i feel comfortable with.. haha =D Even so, i wont tell them the whiole story, as some things are not meant to be shared.. haha =D
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Yup, as it is not fine attitude to reveal personal information to other people without any permission. It may seem inappropriate behavior to share confidential happening which should only be share privately by two person involves and disallowing the public for any access to protect the right to privacy.
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@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
8 Jan 10
hi neeli,
your new avatar is cute and lovely,where you have got the avatar ,let me know i will also select some from the list,regarding your first kiss it is really thrilling,but regarding i does not remember,but i select one or two close friends and informed what happed with my girl friend,have a nice day
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
hi yugasini,
you just have to pm me. well, back to the topic. Kissing I think everyone experience be it from a relatives or from non-relatives as it is an endearment factors which everyone of another have their own story to tell. Well, it is really up to the person or to partner to keep it as a secret or to tell it with their closer friends as you mention both feel excited and hilarious with their first encounter and it is also good to keep it in private as for the reasons only the two do it should need to remain within the two partner too hold. thanks.
@jacksong (130)
•
8 Jan 10
Hi neelianoscet,
It is interesting, I think it depends on the personality of the person.
Like some people want to express to everyone that they are rich or he has earned so much money: ) other like to say I am always poor.
For the kiss, I think it is a little personal, I don't like to share with others, except for my cloest friends.
Like you said, maybe it run in the family genes. My god, genes again, genes decide so much things of us. God!
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
hi jacksong, That right and it is very annoying when your partner gossip what happen between you with their friends as it only mean your partner have no respect or do not trust you enough that it no longer become private. So far thus who often kiss and tell do it to let other people know he score with her girl with a kiss which they boast to their buddies. thanks
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Yup, i too feel the same things and that is way it is only proper to keep a kiss secret as when one flaunt it it only mean the person is not so serious about it. Although, their are cases when the two party even approve it as they proudly proclaim for all their friends to know as one way to shares the latest happening on their relationship as some friends also do the same things. thanks
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@fantasticbabe (981)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
lol..i could not keep a secret too when i am not serious with my date and i know or the fact that he is lying too. sometimes, i do keep a secret when i love the guy but still could not keep it with my best friend as she also tell to me her secret.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
well, that a different story for sure when you are dating to a guy and you never take him seriously it all back to like playing games and not really into serious relationship. And that is why the way you feel it though it may hurt literally if you are so serious then your guy kiss and tell and so the same things would happen if the situation is reverse. Though, it is still fine to put a line between being romantically serious to being fling as one could not stand to have a long lasting relationship when both partner feel being cheated or mistrust exist it lead to break up as well. thanks.
@DenverLC (1143)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Kissing is usually done intimately and in a private place, therefor it should not also be sold out to the whole market just to gain what? additional amazement for lots of lips collection? I am annoyed to people who tell detailed stories about their personal kissing experiences or more than that, It shows a weak personality full of boastful purpose. It is also unfair for the other party. Be professional lover always, that should be the rule.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
8 Jan 10
Yup, that very true what happen in secret should remain in secret never to disclose any personal information is one way of respecting the other person privacy, unless he/she permit you to flaunt the escapades which happen between the two person involves.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
7 Jan 10
Well I have been with the same man for 24 years so I am sure that everyone already knows I kiss him. LOL. Well if I think back to when I was still dating my friends and I pretty much would always tell each other if we kissed someone or anything like that. We all always knew when we had a date and of course we would always call each other to find out what happened the next day.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
lol..of course as he is your husband. Well, I could disagree more as when boys are so excited when they kiss a girl ans so is when girls are with their peers they also tell the same things with the thing they do with the guy. As it could not be avoided as some are asking repetitively and even if you like to keep it as a secret you are being pressure to open up as other friends also do the same things.
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
i don't remember any instance that i do kiss & tell...
i am someone who likes to keep things like that in private...for me its something that should be kept between me and my partner.
but sometimes, we can't avoid that we do talk about things like these specially when friends (all married women) get together...but even if some of my friends do reveal somethings about them which makes us all laugh, i remain silent about mine and i don't really share those private and intimate moments that i have...
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
16 Jan 10
Well, for me , there are things or events in our lives that is worth sharing but there are those that are too personal that is worth keeping because its too precious, or the other way around, meaning they can cause damage to a person once known by other people. There are also individuals who are by nature could not keep a secret. These usually results to problems especially if the things he divulged are things that can cause damage to other people morally.So i think we should know how to screen information.
@Genericbe (1376)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
No, I do not tell secrets that was entrusted to me by the person. It is the same way I do not want others doing things I do not like. I do treasure secrets and confidential. It is my way of showing respect to the person who trusted me.
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
7 Jan 10
I do agree with you and that the right things to do. As a sign of trust and affection the romantic affairs which happen between two person involve in a relationship should only remain between the two with no mean to brag it with other people as it is a secret and it is quite embarrassing to tell it to other people intentionally when the other person refuse to give the permission to make it known. thanks.
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