How to get on well with my father?

hello langjipingzong! i am sorry to hear that you have such relation with your father. you remind me of myself when i was on my teenage years till my early 20's. i also have bad relation with my father, even when i am still younger. i am always closer to mom since she's someone who's always there with me. my father is someone that i don't really like back then and i even came to the point of asking why he become my father...i don't like him for what he's doing and the way he treats mom before. he have some bad habits and his peers are people i don't like as well for most of them are bad influence to him... there's also times when my father & i don't talk to each other, as if each one of us was not existing...sometimes i just talk to him when he ask something, i will just say few words...and sometimes i feel better when he's not at home... but despite all these, i never give up. i never lose hope that one day he may change for the better...what i do is i pray. yeah, i always pray and in my prayers i am asking God to help me and my family to have better life and better relationship... and i am so happy that my prayers were heard...and my father, he started to show some positive changes specially when i get married, he becomes a better person, leave all his bad habits behind, he finally have better relation to my mom & to me & to my brother, and with that, i love him more and realized that i do have a better father than anyone else... i think in your case, i suggest you to pray for it, and try to control your temper and try to be nicer to him..i guess you should make the first move in order for you to have better relationship....we should let our parents feel how much we care and love them...life is so uncertain, we can really never know what will happen tomorrow...so before its too late, show your love & affection to him and do something to improve your relationship with him... its only you and him can solve this problem between you... good luck & wish yoou all the best...God bless!

Since i am with mother,i don't know what to say or to give suggestions ........What i think is you should give him some time and do let him say what ever he like ........you just listen from one ear and throw from other ear .....so you don't have quarrel. Don't answer back ,naturally he will stop.

hi langjhipingzong first why do you and your dad quarrel? I hated my dad because he molested me. but most girls love their dads and there has to be a point of friction between you. if you can figure out what causes the problem maybe you can control your part of the conversation so you may have a chance of getting along with your dad much better. good luck, hope things change for both of you.sorry I cannot be of more help. I stayed away from my dad, and was never in the same room alone with after the one molestation. not ever. I still dislike the man and hes been gone many years. for one thing do control your temper , count to one hundred if necessary.

Is this just some adolescence stage you are going through.. and carried it on until today? honestly, I think you should consider your father's feelings and let him into your life, talk to him,and allow him to be a father to you/.