why shouldn't we "hold on too tight"

Philippines
January 8, 2010 7:13pm CST
Some of the relationship never lasts because of getting together every now and then,a relationship is like a rubber band- you come together and you pull back at times. This is natural.There are times when we want to be by ourselves,there are times when our partner just wants to be with us all the time, allowing some distance every once in awhile creates a feeling of longing that makes every moment together more appreciated and more loved.agree?
7 responses
jengrin
@jengrin (944)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
In some instance it's right but in my experience? Distance make our relationship more fragile. Temptations are just around us. You have to be careful.
jengrin
@jengrin (944)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
well yah, but its up to us how we handle that kind of temptations, as long as were not doing something wrong..Trust is all we need.
jengrin
@jengrin (944)
• Philippines
14 Jan 10
100% CORRECT! Trust is very much important.
gowsik
@gowsik (100)
• India
9 Jan 10
Yeah your question is very good many relations are like rubber band them are closer at times and far at times too because its relations
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
11 Jan 10
Relationships- of all kinds, are like sand in your hand.Hold loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But to hold oo tightly, too possessively and the relationship slip away and lost.
raynejasper
@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
..I do agree.. the thing is, if you are married, it won't be good to pull back.. entering into a relationship is the start of becoming comfortable and happy with the presence of your partner.. because in the end, if you ever get married, you will spending most of your time with your partner.. There are different types of personalities.. but most couples I know prefer to be with each other most of the time even if they are not yet married..
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
hmm ya i agree that some couples prefer spending most of the time together but they don't realize it yet that someday they will enter a new chapter of their lives which is the marriage,and they will be more stick together and no chance to back off..so i think if their not yet married they should enjoy first with other people rather than sticking together all the time..
jakie18
@jakie18 (233)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
hello hlgracey!Yes holding on too tight may cause suffocation and boredom in a sense that there will be now way for you to move around and enjoy.You should always take time to be alone and think.You should also think about yourself because sometimes we forget about ourselves because we are very attending to the needs of others.If that person give you such importance he will understand that sometimes you need to be alone.
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
I agree to that,thou we are committed with our partner we should learn to enjoy with others company coz in the end, if your really meant for each other,your going to spend all your lives with the person u love and u will not be given the chance to pull back.We need to enjoy ourselves while we can.
gowsik
@gowsik (100)
• India
9 Jan 10
Yeah your question is very good many relations are like rubber band them are closer at times and far at times too because its relations
hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
10 Jan 10
yes thats true so we need the relationship not to hold tightly in order for us to remain the love that we ever wanted.. so if ur not yet married enjoy life because at the end of the relationship, u gt married and there's no turning back
asliah
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hi, when i have a relationship before with my ex partner i always wanted him to be with me or i wanted me to be with him always because for me time is really important because we would not know if when our relationship ends,so every time i was with him i always treasured it.
gowsik
@gowsik (100)
• India
9 Jan 10
Yeah your question is very good many relations are like rubber band them are closer at times and far at times too because its relations