8 Dating Rules to Retire
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
January 9, 2010 12:31am CST
.I just read this article on Yahoo. The 8 rules tthe article want to retire are:
1.Waiting For The Guy to call you
2.Lie about your busy weekend schedule so he'll (theoretically) want to go out with you even more.
3.Call after the Obligatory 3 days
4.Cook For your man
5.Let the man (always) pay the bill
6. Put on a show to impress your date
7.Divide t.v. time equally
8. Go out alone on a first date.
I agree with some of these and not with others.I agree waiting for the guy to call is too old fashioned.if you like him , why not call him?I wouldn't lie about being busy or not being busy. If I like a guy I'll do my best to make the time to see him. even if I have to cut a date short to get to work at least we saw each other. a brief date is better than no date at all!This calling after 3 days and not before is just stupid. If the date was fabulous, why wait 3 days. And if the date wasn't that great, after three days the date and you can be forgotten.As for cooking. I don't cook. if the adage " The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is true then I will never win a man's heart. I make reservations for dinner, lol! As for who pays for the date, I like the rule whoever calls , pays. So if I want to go out and I call him, I would pay for that outing.splitting the bill is a great idea too. As for putting on a show, why do this. How can the other person Ever get to know you if you are acting All the time?Divide t.v. time? Life is too short to suffer through a show or sporting event you don't like. people have different tastes That's why having two t.v.s is the best thing. so both of you can see your favorite shows.And the last one makes no sense to me. How can you get to know a person if you are in a group? Silly me I thought a first date was the time to get to know each other.Am I wrong? what do you think about this list?
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@canesfan1964 (544)
• United States
9 Jan 10
I enjoyed reading this! Made me giggle! :) I don't know I think that a person should just be themselves. You know it is right and worth your time if you don't have to think about a list like this. Love is a natural existence and I personally think that people spend way too much time thinking and not feeling.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Jan 10
i am not a good enough actor to be Anyone but myself! I believe any date with the one you love is perfect.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
9 Jan 10
Hi canes fan: I think that you have written the exactly words I would give as an advice to someone that is not sure about what to do to have this "perfect date", to be yourself. There's no magical formula to make a date the perfect date, period. Love is just natural as you said. We just need to follow our hearts when we make this plans. Thanks for your answer canes fan. Hope you are having a nice day. Keep mylotting. Take good care of you.
-Alvaro.
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@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
9 Jan 10
My first thought, honestly, is I am so glad I am married..Put on a show perplexes me..puppet show?, strip show?..I have never been a game player..who I am is who I am, it's too much work to keep up a facade and eventually if they hang out long enough they will know "the real you" anyway..why keep them in suspense, I would think that one could work against you too if you happen to be dating someone that subscribed to the belief..if it seems too good to be true..run.
Equal TV time..I'm with you on that one, there are only so many episodes of pink slips and american chopper that I can handle..seperate tvs with seperate remotes is the only way to live..that and a DVR are the secret to a long and happy marriage.
I do cook but so does he..and why shouldn't he. legally 50% of everything in the kitchen belongs to him. I encourage his right to use it. We all know the stomach isn't the organ they most want us to pay the most attention to anyway.
Go on the first date alone..I'm assuming they mean take just one other person with you right?
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@canesfan1964 (544)
• United States
9 Jan 10
Jewels you and I are just alike. I always love reading your responses! :)
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I always thought that the stomach is the way to my heart.
I'm hungry...
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
9 Jan 10
As a guy, I shouldn't be responding to this. But anyway, here goes...
1. If the girl called after the date, then the more reason to...
2. Huh?! Some guys are a bit dumb, and this would easily confuse us.
3. Not in today's world with email and text, 3 days would just seem forever.
4. Hehehe! I'm hungry.
5. I'm still old fashioned about this, but if we've been dating for a while, I wouldn't mind a free dinner.
6. Huh?! I think this would also confuse us.
7. Yes, we could have game days and late night sportscasts, and the girls can have the rest.
8. Huh?! still confused.
5. I'm still old fashioned about this, but if we've been dating for a while, I wouldn't mind a free dinner.
6. Huh?! I think this would also confuse us.
7. Yes, we could have game days and late night sportscasts, and the girls can have the rest.
8. Huh?! still confused.2 people like this
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Jan 10
First I want to apologize. I thought you were a woman. forgive me? #8 meant instead of a one on one date, you have a group date.i thought this was the most stupid thing . How can you get to know Anyone on a group date? I don't cook but I can order take out? #2 didn't make any sense to me either.Why would I say I'm busy when I am not? Wouldn't a guy just say okay and then go ask someone else? #6 I think means put on a more alluring personality than your own. Like try to be funny when you aren't. What a waste of time1 Sooner or later the guy will see the Real you.As for #5, If i email you and say let's go out, It Is my idea so let me pay. it doesn't make you less of a gentleman. I just think it is my idea so I'd should pay.As for t.v. where else am I suppose to be when hockey is on but in front of the t.v.But when it comes to basketball, I'll be in the other room. I'd rather watch grass grow than a basketball game!
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
9 Jan 10
Hi sarah ruth beth: I think you should make a better list than this made by Yahoo. In general i think that this is just a list of clichés. There's no magic steps to make a date a good day and what I can say is that, the most important thing is that both parts feel comfortable eachother and this happened when you just be yourself. Thanks for sharing with us your opinion about this article. Hope you are having a nice day. Keep mylotting. Take good care of you.
-Alvaro.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Jan 10
Thanks. I hope you are having a good day. I think there shouldn't be any dating rules.The two on the date should make all the rules. My only rule is that my date Doesn't bring flowers. I hate that.
@randylovesdar (4932)
• United States
9 Jan 10
I saw this article also and had a great laugh. When my husband and I were dating we always took turns paying. He was working part-time and I was in college full-time and worked part-time. I felt that it was a burden to always have him pay. We went out to dinner every Sunday night (sometimes we would invite his mom, she was a widow and I hated to see her home alone). I cooked dinner for him every Saturday. If we took his mom out with us on Sunday we went out by ourselves on Friday night.
I love having two television sets. My husband loves to channel surf and most of the time I end up missing most of my show. He watches in the bedroom and I watch in the Living Room.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Jan 10
Fantastic. It is good that you two have two t.v.s
@ankit08 (25)
• India
9 Jan 10
these rules are quit outdated in my opinion....
1.Is it neccesary that boy must call first ?????
2.Lie is not a good thing in any rrelation !!!!!!!
3. may be it may cause some clashes btw people
4. thats a good one
5.Its not be done always may be one can share
6 7 8 are nice......
so in my opinion 50-50 rules are correct.......
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
9 Jan 10
I don't believe in any of those dating rules. they put the guy in a domineering position, seeing up to be "the head of the woman," and they put the woman in a submissive position. I don't need some guy to be my head, I have my own head. My husband has been in traditional marriages before and didn't like them. He married me because I'm an individual, and I married him because he would never try and dominate me. We are equals.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
10 Jan 10
My view of marriage is still very , very old fashioned.The husband Is the head. That's why I see marriage as a trap for both parties. You two made me see the rule is there are no rules. I will still see a husband as the head if I am married to him but I will never marry. That way my love and I can be free to be together because we want to , not because the state says it is okay. I believe there shouldn't be any dating rules . Two people should make the rules for themselves.
@allknowing (136393)
• India
10 Jan 10
Hard and fast rules!!!
Let everything come spontaneously - to each his/her own. Getting to know each other is a natural process and if anyone is fibbing or being unnatural he/she will have dug their grave already. So folks my advice to all those who are on the verge of looking for their mate - be natural.
Let everything come spontaneously - to each his/her own. Getting to know each other is a natural process and if anyone is fibbing or being unnatural he/she will have dug their grave already. So folks my advice to all those who are on the verge of looking for their mate - be natural. 1 person likes this
@Loverica19 (43)
• Philippines
9 Jan 10
i agree with what you said in your list.... It doesn't matter who comes first, if it's the guy or u... as long as u like what you are doing and you are not harassing people that's fine...
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