Addressing a friend in mylot

Well, it has been a few days so I am sure you have already received all sorts of responses and opinions on this one. It is inappropriate to address anyone informally with whom you do not have an "initimate" relationship with that has developed over some time. It may not seem a big deal to you but if you were to meet someone in person and immediately became familiar with this person you would be seen as having poor manners. The rules and boundaries differ from culture to culture and whether you agree or not you must always be respectful of how a person wishes to be treated. There are any number of reasons why a person would not want to be referred to as "baby; the reason is not important, but the consideration of the person's feelings is.

hello shibham! i think all depends from person to person and how close we are to them or how well we know them... as for me, sometimes i even address my friends here as 'dear', hehe but i just use that to my close friends...and if they also address me that way, i don't really mind, and i guess it also depends on how the word is being used... next time, just stay on the safe side...and do understand that each one of us do have differences...

Different people have different likes and dislikes. Some people are very aware of who they know personally and who is just an online friend and the appropriateness of the way one should address each is different. I know that, in India, it is quite common to address even people you don't know as 'dear'. In England and the US this seems odd and even uncomfortable. In the North of England it is a quite common thing to be addressed as 'loov' (meaning 'love') or 'ducks', even by people who one meets quite casually in the street - shop assistants, bus conductors, anyone you might ask the way from! It's just a friendly greeting but it seems very odd and familiar when you first hear it. 'Baby', in the way you use it, may be something similar but many people would find it offensive simply because it seems too familiar and also because many people do not like to be thought of as 'babies' or 'childish'. It really is best to avoid such terms of endearment until you know that the person is going to understand what you mean. When you think about it, it is really debasing these affectionate terms to use them indiscriminately. If you say "love you, friend", do you REALLY mean it? I would say that you don't always because the person you are talking to may only be someone you know fairly casually and so is not a 'friend' in the way that they use the word.

Well you are dealing with people from a lot of countries and cultures, and possibly what is appropriate for some is not appropriate for others. But usually once you've gotten to know your friends a bit better, you have an idea what's OK and what isn't.

Hi Shibham! It really depends on who you are speaking to as to if it is ok or not. Some people take offense at pet names even though you may not have meant any harm. One of the greatest things about myLot to me is that there is such diversity. There are so many people from different places with different standings that it can really spice things up. I do realize that this also makes it a little tough in knowing the proper way to address each other too. I have made mistakes as well. I think that by just explaining that you didn't mean any harm or disrespect when something is taken wrong is fair enough. Take care.

Hi shibam, i don't think you are not rude--but you just used inappropriate words. there are places where baby or babes or sweeties are just fine to use to friends or to anybody around. but since we are coming from different culture--we need to be sensitive in addressing our friends here. we all know that baby is also used a a term of endearment for lovers so if ever you will come someone baby she will feel uncomfortable. there can be a misinterpretation and can start a gap between you and the friend whom you called baby. so just be careful so that you will not be in trouble. stay cool friend.

That would depend on the level of friendship you have with the person. just to call anyone baby might be offensive, but to call someone baby that you have become friends with and have been talking to for a long time, that would probably not offend them.

Friends we might be in mylot but certainly we need to observe a code of conduct in addressing people on screen and not take for granted that everyone like to be addressed in your pet words. We all come from different cultures and backgrounds and what you think is polite might not apply to some others. so have some reservations to words use to address mylotters so friendship remain strong.

Hi Shibham, You are free to call your friends as you like but I think you should know about your limitation when addressing a friend. In other words, you are the only person to know about the closeness with the particular friend. I don’t think you will get a wrong reaction if you call the same to a close friend. If you ask the question to me, I don’t mind if a new member called me like ‘baby’ but the person should be above 50 years old. I hope you got my point of view.

Hi, shibham. If you really want to address a friend, I would think that the best way would be for you to send him/her a PM. That way, it won't be seen by other members. It can be more private. You can tell them simply how you feel without being harsh or critical. Just respect a person. That is just about what I think. If a member don't like the terms baby... Just refrain from mentioning them. You know that you mean well, but they don't . Don't worry about it just continue to be nice and respectful to others no matter how they may react towards you. Take care.

It was really sad. I think your mind is very soft and touchy. That's why it touched you so deep. But all people are not the same. Only few people are this kind & I'm sure about it. So don't worry about it. Address you friends what ever you want until he/she complain about it. Wish you all the best.

I think it probably depends on the person. I would never call anyone "baby" or "babe" because I dont like being called either myself... and, anyone who is my friend knows that! I probably wouldn't use any term of endearment unless I knew the person well enough to know how they would react - but that's just my personal thing. I dont think you were rude or inappropriate but maybe the person thought you were being a little over-familiar and was uncomfortable with it.

hi shibham mylot is same is real life .. you dont call someone baby at the very initial stage , it takes time , i have lots of freiend including u, i call dear n share my love because we r old friends dear .. we know each other so well .. n know the limits until which extand our love goes .. so dear friend i love u ... cheers

Hi shibham, I think that the wording you used in addressing someone was too familiar, you have to know a person well before becoming familiar with them. I'd agree that it was inappropriate. It takes time to develop online friendships here and know what the boundaries are. Even now I would only be familiar with a few friends and address everyone else by name. There have been a few with very long user names I meet up with a lot who I have asked if they mind me shortening them, as I wouldn't like to offend.

hello chota bhai, Well,there is nothing wrong i guess. Only that,we need to know how much closeness you were having with that mylotter's before writing/addressing so. "baby" love u dear...love u friend...means,you were having close friendship with that person (if accepted by the concern,it becomes wrong,when the concern person ever react) Anyway,don't get upset my dear brother...some people doesn't want being addressed with sweet names in public(ahaha) "Love you dear brother"!!! take care