Kids after how many years of Marriage?

I dont believe that having kids has anything to do with marriage really. I think that if a couple has been together for awhile and are ready to have a baby that not being married should stop them. How much they know each other on the other hand and how long they have been together should play a role in if they should have a baby or not. Although, I am getting married in the spring and I do not have a baby yet, I think that if i had one now with my fiance it would be okay, married or not.

You are very wise. I was 24 when I got married. I had my first child when I was 30. So we were married for 6 years. We did try and have a baby the year before but lost it, so I was 29 when we first started trying. We wanted to make sure we got to enjoy each other and do some traveling and build up a nice savings and till my husband reached a good point in his carreer then we started trying to have a baby. We both were ready when we started trying. I think 28 is a good age to start working on it.

i agree with your view,actually we hope that we can give good life for kids.when kids come into the world and share good life and education.i find that you are fortunate to mary and enjoy your marriage,but as for me.although i would marry this year,but i have no time to enjoy my marriage for several years now,i should think about kids was coming to my marriage,because i could not young,i should have kids quickly.so i can think about earning money for kids.sometimes i feel confused at my mind and tired for life,i think whether i can give good life for my kids.

For me it's good just do it not only for words because if your wife is easy to bare the baby then your ambition is useless it's better to use the contraceptive.

hi happy new year first, well the issue about having kids depends on your agreemnet with your wife, if you two choose to give birth after five year of marriage, it all depends on what you want, also if you want kids immidiately also relies on you, bur some times you have to plan it with your wife. becuase you know some times the lady might want to have a child as soon as possible, but you two can work it out all you need to do is have a discussion with her and see her responds, definately I think she will agree with you on you decision.

Waiting is a fabulous idea. My husband is certain that he couldn't have been a goood father at 23. This doesn't mean that you can't - everyone is different - but do consider your youth while planning for children. We didn't wait to have kids - we had our first baby in our first year of marriage, and while we're doing the best we can, we both believe we shoould've waited longer. Five years is a good start, some marriage counselors suggest seven to make sure your marriage is over the "honeymoon" stage. Just be sure the initial season of power struggles and secrets is over. Many young couples find themselves fighting over petty things, and it's really about the much bigger picture of "who's in charge?". The idea is to work as a team, but someone is going to have to submit to the other when both of you are convinced the other is wrong and a decision has to be made. You want to have all that figured out long before there are children involved. You need your kids to see their parents as united. Same goes for any secrets in the relationship - if your kids find out, they read it as "the parents don't trust each other" and "it's ok to have secrets". This makes it harder for them to respect you, and at the same time makes it ok for them to hide things from you. That can be very dangerous. When you are sure you love your wife in spite of her flaws, and you two are united as a team, then you'll have a marriage your children will benefit from, no matter how many years it took you to get there.

well it depends on what you want. i have a friend who has been married for 5 years and she is in school studying for her doctorate so obviously she doesnt want to have kids yet. i also have a co-worker who is older and just had her first baby after 2 years of marriage. we had our first after 5 years.

I agree with you! I don't want to have kids until I've married for a few years so I can enjoy my married life! I think waiting at least 4 or 5 years is a good idea. I really enjoy my independence and want to wait quite awhile before having kids! I have pets and that is the perfect amount of responsiblity for me at this point in my life!

Our daughter was born before my husband and I were ever even married. However, if he and I had it to do over again, we would have waited significantly longer before we had children. Now, don't get me wrong, I love my daughter more than I love almost anything else in this world, but I would have like to have had the opportunity to spend time getting to know my husband better than I did before our daughter was born. I think that the ideal time for a couple to wait after they get married before they add children into the mix is two to three years. That way the happy couple has the opportunity to get to know each other very well and I also think that is where people know if they are ready for the next stage in their lives.

having kids after marriage is a no no for me. i still believe that the couple should have time for each other after marriage. enjoy each others company, and get to know each other deeply. I am not saying that kids are hassles in their marriage life, all i am saying is if the couple have kids already, there would be limitations on their lives.

I would usually say from 1-2 years i mean if you got married you must have been with each other for quiet a while now.

Well it depends on you and your partner. Youll need to take into account what she wants and her work and career in particular. There are a lot of responsibilities associated with having kids. Youll need to make sure you have a stable financial situation and good place to live before you have kids. four or five years after marriage is not a bad time to have kids as youll be well settled, but it all depends on you.

HEY SANDEEP, talking about the responsibilities marriage is itself a big responsibility. Forget abot the child, u will also have to take care abot ur to b wife as well. So only marry when u r ready to take those responsibilities.