It is something how this guy was trying to hit at me!

hello cream, I almost had same experience like this 2 yrs ago. I attended one seminar,it was a 5 days seminar,and one guy(happens to be on that seminar too) stalked me. On the first day of our seminar,he befriended me,and,i never doubted his interest. Not until on our last day,when he asked me if he can walked me home. I told him,"thanks, but my service is waiting outside",not knowing that he was following me,and,then suddenly he grabbed my shoulder and tell me...i will call you when u get home. And true to his word,he called me that night,i ask him how did he got my number,(what a foolish question,we had our number at the seminar sheet and attendance). Then,he told me to open his website,i asked "why,and told him i am not interested". Then,he told me..ok fine,just try to open when you have time. Out of curiosity i did,i open his website just to give me a shock...there's hundreds of my pictures(all were stolen shots). I want to cry and cursed him...i leave comments saying..i will sue him if he won't delete my pics. This scare me for months,and we almost end up in court. Thanks he stops when he realized i am not making fuss of suing him. Happy weekend dear

Wow. I would be very scared also. It sounds like you weren't sending any signals, I mean how can you send out the message of "come talk to me, I'm looking" while you are checking your mail? I have not had that many guys try to hit on me, as I have spent my entire adult life (minus a couple of months) married. I used to go to the club occasionally, because frankly they make the best drinks, so I would go with my girlfriends and drink and hold down the table while they danced and talked to guys. There was this one time though that this guy just would not quit asking me to dance, and when I said no he started asking me out on dates. He would say "do you want to go to the movies?" and I would say no and then he would ask me if I wanted to go to dinner with him sometime and on and on. I'm basically a nice person so I didn't want to be mean to him, so I kept grabbing my drink with my left hand and would put my left hand on the table so he could see my ring - but he just kept on. Finally I told him to leave me alone, I wasn't going to go out with him because I was married and I held up my left hand. He got very angry and started cursing at me, it was kind of scary and I was thanking God that I was with a group of friends. And then... (yes, there's more) on the same night, one of my friends and I were riding together, so we walked with the other girls to their car and then started walking across the parking lot to my car. This truck pulled up with two guys in it - very large guys by the way - and they stopped in front of us and started asking us if we wanted to go party with them. We immediately told them that we were in relationships and they said that's OK because it would only be one night if we wanted. One of the guys got out of the truck and started walking towards us, and my friend looked at him and said "you don't understand, WE are in a relationship", and then she put her arm around me, and needless to say that was the first and last time I was kissed by another woman. But the guy got back in the car and left us alone. It was crazy!! While I have to say that I was at a club, and men seem to think that if a woman is not with a man at the club, she is far game I was not trying to "hook up" with anybody, and was not even dressed like I was trying to! Maybe that's what some of them were looking for, a girl who was actually covered, I don't know. But after that night I quit going to clubs completely unless my husband is with me and we are with a group of friends.

I don't know what some guys are thinking. If it happens again, when you tell someone you're married, add that you are 'very happily married, and I mean VERY happily married' For someone to stop to talk and get out of their car, especially at 5am is really odd and it would creep me out, too. Kind of weird, because some guys get a bad attitude if you try to ignore them and start saying nasty things instead. Do you have a cell phone? even one that don't work? If I seen him again out there at 5am, I would do what I needed to do and act like I was talking to someone....if he'd happen to get out of his car again, I would just say out loud (louder than I normally would) "hey, that guy that wanted to get to know me better is out here and I know you said you wanted to get to know him better....(pause).....oh, you're already on your way out?" and then tell the guy that you're hubby is on his way out, he wants to meet him and get to know him better, too. And then I would just turn around and start walking away. Odds are the guys takes off and you don't see him again.

OMG! That is just tooooo creepy! You are one lucky girl that this guy didn't grab you! If you see him again, I'd sure as he-- run the other way! He sounds like a weirdo and very bold at that. You be careful next time you go get your mail and make sure he's not watching for you and I'm not kidding either. Be aware!

I'm glad to hear that you're safe. I would get guys hitting on me ALL the time. One time I was walking in downtown San Diego along Broadway. Broadway is the main drag and a very busy street in the middle of the city of San Diego. Well, I saw this guy actually make a U-turn drive up to where I was, got out and said that he found me very attractive and if I would consider going out with him. I simply ignored him and kept on walking. Let me give you a little tip when guys do this. The best thing you can do is simply ignore them. Do not look at them. Do not stop to acknowledge him. Do not make any comments to him or answer any of his statements. Simply ignore him and walk on. By responding to his questions or statements you open yourself up for more questions from him. He'll keep dogging you as long as you keep responding to him. To even say that you are married is none of his business. That also implies that if you were single you would go out with him. He is nobody to you and he doesn't need to know ANYTHING about you. You don't have to answer to him. Don't worry about hurting his feelings if you simply walk away from him because chances are he is a rapist or a kidnapper, or worse, a killer. Do you think he cares about your feelings? Of course not. You are nobody to him and he should be nobody to you. As you mentioned you've never met him before. If you stop to respond he could grab you and throw you in the car. Guys like that are scum and don't deserve me to stop and acknowledge his presence or even a response from me. Just walk away without even looking at him. Let him know that he is nobody to you. Stay safe, hon. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

If anything like that happens again, I wouldn't humor the man or continue to carry on the conversation. I would simply tell him, I married and I don't even know you and get back in your apartment asap. You are lucky nothing happened to you. And, that instinct of fight or flight is there for a reason. If the guy doesn't want to leave you alone, or wont listen, raise your voice, scream, yell, or do anything else you have to do to get away from him. Women are taken and held hostage against their all the time, and all over the world. You were lucky to not have been one of them.

Not in a situation like that no and it would have scared me well and truly I would have been on the Look out all the time and scared to go out alone Specially as he did not care that you where married Please be careful Cream

This is really scary. Thank God that I have never been in a situation like that. I am glad that you came out from that situation without any complication happening.

if he was outside your house,i would have definetely called the cops. yea,there's always one. i had some guy ask me if i wanted a ride once-while i was on my bike. i was too stunned to even come up with a reply,it struck me as so stupid.

cream dear, please hear my story and heed my advice!! I'm so serious!! When my husband and I first got married, we lived in an apartment too and one morning, hubby got up early to go to work (military). It was in the summer when it was very hot but at night when the sun went down, it was really nice and cool so I had our bedroom window opened to catch the breeze. The particular morning, I was asleep in bed and hubby had gone to work and all of the sudden, I was awakened by blood curling screams but with my hearing problem, I couldn't tell which direction it was coming from until the woman rounded the corner of my building and she was steady screaming! I ran to the phone and called 911 while a neighbor was trying to see what was her problem. He came back to his apartment and told me what happened. She was in the laundry building washing her clothes and a man came in with a knife and tried to get her out of the building and into her car!! Some how she got away and ran screaming her head off!! By then, the police showed up. This guy went after this girl so early in the morning because it was still dark out and damn near succeeded! So my advice to you is this, NEVER EVER go outside when it's dark and if you do, make sure you have someone with you at all times. And if a car stops to talk to you, use some fake sign language to show you can't hear so maybe he or she will go away. If not then ignore the idiot and run like a bat out of hell because your life may depend on it!!

Gosh that is scary, you need to be careful, what if he did have some kind of weapon and tried to kidnap you or something, that's what I would of been thinking about. Why else would he just stop in the middle of road and get out and start talking to you? I'd ask him if he had a habit of looking for women at 5 o'clock in the morning, telling them he'd like to get to know them better, what a jerk, and to think he was married too. It hasn't happened to me, and it would creep me out if it did, I'd be more careful tho.

What a creep that would have worried me greatly.Just to hit on someone he has never met before sounds weird to me especially that time of the morning.I hope you reported him to the police it is a good job he did not try to get you into his car or try to rape you.I think this man is dangerous the next woman might not be as lucky as you.I do get looked at but I ignore them as like you am perfectly happy with my husband and don't want anyone else.It sounds like you have a weird man in your neibourhood.He can have no respect for woman at all,probably cruising the area looking for a thrill you are much better than that.

Hello my friend cream97 Ji, Well, it is very much sorry state of affair in your area. We Indian Ladies, after our marriages, have something on our head 'Red-color known as sindoor', which is prominentlysgn of marriage, next is our Mangal-Sutra, which is worn by all married ladies. In your case at laest wedding ring sould have satisfied him. It is not case with married, I think, he was trying to lure you with some other things. You must report to your husbamnd, who should bring to notice ofPolice in writing, so that anything appens in future, you are very much safe for your side. Take care. May God bless You and have a great time.

Married or not, this doesn't really sound like genuine interest to me; it sounds a little odd.

Hi Cream That must have been scary for you. Some guys just go too far and do not take no as a answer. I have been in that situation but it was even worst as my partner was standing with me at the time. We had gone into a pub for a drink with my partners sister and boyfriend who had come down to visit us. There was a man there who obviously knew me but I could not work out where I knew him from he must have know me from a long time ago as he only knew that I had my eldest two boys. He said 'Hello' to me and started to grab my arm 'come on come and sit with me' He would not stop no matter how many times I pushed him away. I had even pointed out to him that my partner was with me but he just kept on. At this point my partner's sister grabbed him and pulled my partner away as the look on his face said he was ready to punch him. After this I just walked away and ignored him needless to say we did not stay in that pub and went somewhere else.

guys dont care! its like as soon as you say you are married your value skyrockets because if they can get you then they feel like they are the sh!t! its so annoying because i deal with the same thing all the time because i got married at 17 and been married almost 11 years now and it just never stops.. the fact the guy got out of the car would have made me freak thinking he was gonna kidnap me!

it actually, becomes ordinary to happen. I don't know what's wrong with human society lately. You'd better not talk to them and go inside a convenient store like 7-11 and tell the guard to help you and call your husband to pick you up right away. I know you're really scared but to be optimistic, you can say that God watches over you and take it as a caution to be careful more.

For me there's happened in me that they want interest in you what I'm gonna do is I never entertained in him even if he say your strict because if you entertained it is mean that you get easily to be with in him.