monster mother-n-law?

hello jerome... i think that's a usual problem when couple live with their parents...but not all the time, coz there's still some parents in law that are good and nice to their in laws... for me, it will be better if a couple lives on their own...so that they can really live as a couple and they will be free to do their own style in home making. coz when we are living with our parents, it can be avoided that sometimes we will be having some misunderstanding and its difficult to be in between of our spouse and our parents... but if a couple agreed on living together with their parents and they do have a good relation with them and their parents didn't cross boundaries in their relationship as husband & wife, then i guess that's just fine... and i think parents should also know their limits when their children are already married...its sad that sometimes, it is the parents who are the cause of the misunderstanding of the couple...

I think its generally a good idea to start your own new family. While your part of a larger whole you need your space. Although some friends of mine live at the same place as their parents. But just because they cant afford the rent of anywhere else. But fortunatly they got their own area which they can keep as a sanctuary and call their own.

Hi, jeromepagz. I have lived with my in-laws for five years once. Then again for four months last year. And I will tell any woman, to NEVER, EVER live with their in-laws! It is hell!

It's absolutely no good idea to live with the husband's parents. If you ask 100 wives, I bet that no more than 10 per cent will give you a positive answer.

Absolyely no. In fact, as per my observation, most marriages plung into trouble because of mothers in law. Often, there are a lot of conflicting issues. For example, genration gaps, belive me this is a pottential source of trouble. Jealousy also plays a part, as mothers sit and see what they dreamt of but never experience . The best advise wiil be to live separately with your wife until atleast five years, then you could live together with the mother or larger family.

question:IS IT ALWAYS A GOOD DECISION NOT TO LOVE WITH YOUR PARENTS WHEN YOU GET MARRIED? for my point of view,i agree..you really need to get your own space,rent a house or have your own after getting married..why?because when you are living either with your parents or n-laws house?you can never learn to live with your own and deal with the truth that you are already married,though it is helpful esp when it comes in budgeting your needs but then its not that healthy being with them all the time.1.you cannot decide for your own 2.you dont know how to budget for your own needs 3. you cannot move on and live as your own family 4.you cannot raise well,and make them feel that you are their parents 5.you cant think for your own safety and future as well etc.we are married for 4 years and living with my parents now,all went well for the some months but there are really times that conflicts happened.but even though we dont live with my in laws but i found out that i have a monster-n-law its a long story but its really not working well esp that they are always asking money and support to my husband considering that they have their jobs...i really get crazy thinking of them,that is why i asked my husband to have our own space for our own family...

For sure living with your in-laws or parents after marriage is not a good idea. I think there are more horror stories concerning this then good. I couldn't see living with my parents or my in-laws. Maybe a month and that would be all I could take. And I truly love my parents and my in-laws but its very hard living with others I think. I can't imagine it if my mother-in-law was a monster. There is no way then that I would spend a day under her roof.

No , its not good to leave them but yes ur wife needs ur support too she may face probs , its better to resolve problems then to run away from them

If one has to start a new family, then it should be the case. They should start it with their own. That means leaving one's parents to live with your hubby in a separate home. Living with parents after marriage will make you more dependent and sometimes make the family weaker. Weaker in the sense that children are more dependent to other members and extended family. Parents will have to suffer some consequences too as what you have mentioned already.