Do people waste their time on thinking and talking about the people they hate

I think some people do dwell on the people they don't like. They even neglect the people they like or drive them crazy with going on and on about the people they hate. True talent is moving on.

Very well said thought. There was a time period that this one particular person just rubbed me the wrong way. I realized I spend more time harboring ill feelings towards that person than really concentrating on the people that do matter to me. I think everyone 'slips' at one time or another, but it IS important to know who makes a positive in our lives and continue to work keeping that relationship going.

I agree that people can be consumed by hatred and then fail to see the beauty in life. Hate is an emoticon capable of tearing us up inside and it keeps us focussed on everything that is wrong with a certain person, failing to see the good things about the person or about life in general. Taking time out of your shedule to spend with family and friends should be our number one priority, but hatred can drive us crazy and blind, and like I said earlier, consume our whole being.

Oh indeed, I know so many people who waste precious energy thinking and talking about people they have an issue with rather than concentrating on the good people in their lives. If we dislike people for a reason, we should let them be, they're not worth wasting our time on - we can seldom change them so let them lives their lives and let us try to enjoy ours. The more you think about people you dislike, the more bitter and twisted you get so isn't it overall better to try to be happy and content and spend time with and spend time concentrating on those that bring us joy? I'm at an age now where I worry about worries causing me high blood pressure, so I try my best to avoid people that will stress me out and avoid thinking about why they stress me out as much as possible too.

hi bala jeee some time ago i read a quote "hatred is most strong relation than LOVE"" if we believe in it, then pls advise thinking about people we hate is wortwhile or not???

Definitely yes. it seems to be a kind of national sport to spend time disparaging your enemies and thingking up ways and means to discredit and generally wasting your spleen on them. maybe because it is more exciting? and maybe because we always take for granted those things which we have and miss them only when they are gone or it is too late to show and express care and affection. Is that human nature being what it is?

This is so true my friend and I can certainly relate to this, I give a prime example if there are twenty people who are genuinely nice to me at work and there is one, just one person who cannot stand me, then I spend all my time dwelling on the fact that I can't understand why they don't like me and it irritates me, so I think all the time, why don't they like me and I spend precious time worrying about that individual and forgetting about the other 19 that actually DO like me. Hate is such a powerful and strong emotion that it takes over and because it's a negative emotion it tends to have much more of an affect on us, well certainly me. It certainly is an enigma though and so damn true!

Thanks for this wonderful topic.This has actually been on my mind.I would love to share my thoughts.I do not know why people do that.I wonder if they realize that they are wasting precious time doing such worthless things.Life is short I wish people give it a thought.I hate hypocrisy.People talk so sweetly infront of you and talk just the opposite behind your back. I f each one of us put ourselves in the other's shoes I am sure we would not be doing the things we are doing.Time is passing us by.Human adversities makes tolerance more than a virtue.It makes it a requirement for survival.we should learn to focus on enjoying people rather than talking ill of them or we should just ignore something we do not like about them.We are not here to change people and their attitude.Time is like a river. You cannot toch the same water twice, because the flow has passed and will never pass again.Enjoy every moment of life. Our attitude defines life.Life is best for those who want to live it.Life is difficult for those who want to analyze it.Life is worst for those who want to criticize it.Our attitude defines life.Enjoy your life.LOVE is the only thing that can be divided without being diminshed.So just spend time with the people you love.Love and you shall be loved.None of us really knows about the person we decide to hate.We label them wrong and ourselves right and in doing so never realize that we are building a wall of seperation that only grows stronger with time.Unless we walk in the other person's shoes we have no right to judge.We should stop talking and start thinking differently."People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did.But people will never forget how you made them feel".Harsh words break no bones but they do break hearts.Love is strenthened by working through conflicts.It is not until circumstances throws us together that we realize how very much we need one another and how very alike we truly are. I am sorry for this very long response.It was such a heart rending topic which I could not make shorter. Hope it is okay.God Bless you in this New Year and always.

What a fantastic topic !Well, I have also seen people talk about something that they do not like, criticise and it is a sort of a time pass for them.I have seen some people talk like this and go and on about some grievance they have had or the other.THey do not have too many topics to talk about, cannot be self contatined with some activity of their own and so this happens.Essentially such people cannot relate to another dissimilar person's interest; as long as some third parties do this among themselves it won't bother me.If I am one of the participants I would get bored.I also feel it is a big waste of time but I feel that these people are unable to relate to the interest of whom they love and are drunk with their own selves.

Hi Bala! Talking about people whom one hates could be one's favourite pass time. It gives a kind of sadistic pleasure to criticise others. You are very right that instead of talking about those, whom one' does not like, one should take about people who s/he loves. Criticising othes is like a negative appreciation and it means the fellow is top of your mind. I prefer to talk about those, whom I love and like and feel better in this way.

It's actually called 'venting'. It's okay once in a while but when it comes as a habit, then that would be dangerous for any relationship. You see, when we're angry or frustrated but we cannot confront the person that is making us feel this way, we go to the familiar people whom we trust and love in order to voice out our concerns. I don't think we intend to throw our garbage on them, but perhaps we just wanted someone to 'listen' in order that we unload our sad or angry emotions. I do understand the point of your discussion, and it's true that sometimes we are too angry or too emotional with something that we end up talking about it all the time thus the person who's listening to us would be emotionally drained and would feel all the negativity. So, I guess it's good to do that once in a while, but to avoid the negative things from taking over our relationships. Thank you for reminding me of such.

I know people who do waste too much time on that I prefer to focus on the positive If I dont like a person I will just stay away from them there is no point in making yourself miserable

You really have a point there. We should focus on the positive aspects of life in order to live longer. Hatred only shortens our life because I am sure that this will result to all sorts of illnesses.

i think that one of the things people do is spending time hating their enemies and planning to take revenge on them but a wise person once said that a person should never waste thir time on the above as you would simply be causing harm to your own health and spoiling your mood and be very anxious!! so when ever i get the thought about people i don like, i simply skip them in my head cause its just too irritating and nothing good can come out of it too!

Not necessarily. there are extremes on both levels. If one spends all of their free time talking about the people they hate, then they have wasted their lives. However, if they say nothing at all, they may be in denial of something, and the stress that they are feeling may come out in a less productive way.

Sometimes is important to take all the bad feelings out ,so that we can release our anger ,and this way we can move on ,but is best to waste our energy with positive projects than to continue talking about bad people who could care less about us.

Not just on the people but also on the situations too. Too much time is wasted complaining instead of getting on and doing the things we enjoy. Now why is human nature like that? Why do we tend to accentuate the negatives instead of focusing on the positives?

hi balasri yes I guess a lot of p eople must but I don't as there is so much that is good and why waste precious time on hate when you could enjoy the people you like and love. I like to mylot as there is so much good will here and good vibes, I really enjoy responding to discussions that make me think, like yours does. I have known people who spend all day griping about what they dislike and whom they hate, and why do they do it? It sours their disposition and everyone around them. all are scowling and unhappy and for what? It is indeed a waste of time.

Hi Balasri, Yeah friend its a mere wastage of time when we think and talk about negative things of others.And that itself is a negative mark of us ,if we do so. And there are lots of people around us so,who spreads gossips and always talk about negative points of others.That may be cause of some personal grudges or like that. And its a very bad habit.Happy Day.

Having hatred with someone will do no good. You are right, people are wasting their valuable time thinking and talking about people they hate. But sometimes you have to consider that expressing your anger by talking has a positive effect if you take it in a good way. I mean you have to release the anger or you will explode unexpectedly. It depends on the person how he/she handle things like this, he/she should be calm and be able to move on.