People getting drunk all the time, rather than paying their bills.

hi jugsjugs yes I agree it is so silly to spend all your money on booze then not be able to pay your bills, thats no excuse for sure. reminds me of the fable about the grasshopper and the ant. the ant was busy storing up food f or the cold winter months while the grasshopper did nothing but play all day. so when the cold weather came the grasshopper was so hungry and was out of food, so he came around to ask the ant for food, and the ant replied go get your own, I have nothing to give to a lazy loafer who played instead of storing up your own food. the lesson of course is to pay your bills first before playing or getting drunk as the case may be. me too I would always pay my bills first before going out to play.

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I never go to the bars so I wouldn't know but it's that way with my sister in law. She says she's always broke and yet she smokes like a chimney, travels all over the country to take in a dance and she'd walk on hot coals I'm sure to find a Bingo hall. I consider myself to be a good person but I really don't feel sorry for people like that.

It's just another way to escape your responsibility. I am not a drinker, I am a control freak so it's very hard for me to identify with this. This doesn't make me a better person just different.

hi jugsjugs, I got friends who always drink almost everyday especially near weekends.They would rather have a good time first before thinking about other commitments.Sometimes they asked me to borrow money to settle their debt but since i knew about their drinking habit ,i stop lending any.Would they learn from the mistakes? I don't think so.

It's the same with me. But sometimes people just don't have enough money at all and they spend most of them for drinking or eating more. After that, as you said, they are not happy because don't have enough to pay bills. And the have problems. But don't think if they pay the bills they will not start to talk about not having enough money for drinking and eating :) In my opinion, when you don't have enough money - everything's not good enough. Nobody likes spending 70% or more of his income for bills, isn't it

yup should pay bills before goin gout and make sure the check or what ever passes the bank too before ya do.

I guess its their way of escaping reality. They would drink to their hearts content and think that even for a few hours of drinking they would get to enjoy themselves and forget about all the worries. The thing with this is that when they get home and the drunkenness is gone they are again back to reality. So they would find ways to go back their way of escaping which in their case is drinking. People have different ways to escape, some drink, some play online games, some pick up a hobby. All of them have in common the fact that its only temporary. One cannot really escape reality. However, it's also good to take a break from reality once in a while just to recharge ones outlook. But if escaping is becoming habitual and expensive then I suggest that they find other more practical ways to "escape". Though for others its just a way of life and a hard habit to break.

Yes that is a very good point and I think it is a case of misplaced priorities .These people think these people think it is more important to drink their troubles away rather than pay their bills .Granted though these people may be so stressed that to them drinking is the only way to get out of their miserable lives

There are probably numerous reasons...not all good, or not all bad...I guess I chose to let others live their life, and focus on myself and how I can be a better person, rather than spend my time observing the lives of others. Life is so much easier that way.

Hiya jugs, Afraid there are not any of those kind of Pubs here. Sometimes I wish there was but there are´nt and they are just Bars after all said and done and most of the People I never get to know them as they keep very much to themselves.

Hi Jugjugs, I know so many people in this kind of situation. aside from drinking, they are also into substance use and abused, smoking and gambling. they're just so irresponsible to prioritize things. instead spend their little money for their vices. grrrrrr!

I agree I'd rather pay bills first and then if there is any money left go drinking or whatever. A friend of mine always says she doesn't have any money yet she always goes to bingo or gambling at casinos. She refinanced her house a few times and paid off her credit cards, but she keeps running them back up so she's no further ahead. Her son says he doesn't have any money but he goes drinking all the time, and then gets money from her. His bank account is always overdrawn and then she bails him out. They repossessed his car, and there was nothing she could do about that. I guess he learned bad economy lessons from his mother. Her husband gets upset with her but he doesn't stop her so it's his fault also. She doesn't get a lot of money, but she gets a lot more than me. I would think I was rich if I got half of what she does.

Once they are addicted to drinking nothing becomes more important than this addiction of theirs. Their mind gets affected and so does their conscience. People who love them should work on these issues and get them out of it to the best of their ability. Many a time peer pressure gets them into this habit and once in they cannot get out of it. There are NGOs that can help these people and they should go there with help from their loved ones. I have known wonderful people with kind and generous nature becoming victim of this menace.

Hi, Jugs: I remember my mother ranting about people who drink and party and buy everything they want to enjoy the moment, but, as you say, never have enough to pay their basic bills. Mother used to say "They buy what they want and beg for what they need." She was most upset when children were neglected because of the bad choices the parents made. Funny how things you heard as a child stick with you as an adult.

I totally agree with you Jugs specially if they have Children to It makes me mad that Drink seems to come before everything else in some Peoples Life's

Yeah it is those people that do not know how to prioritize their needs and wants. So as an exchange for choosing to satisfy their wants they tend to forget the needs like the bills that need their attention and money.

Hi jugsjugs, I think they are probably just wallowing self-pity lol. Don't most of us do it from time to time? It is just that they chose a more expensive way. Or maybe they just need to go to the pubs because they are avoiding someone at home. I don't know and it is none of my business really. I guess it is ultimately up to them when they will sober up and decide that perhaps it is better to tackle the problem head on and put their finances in order first.

I know exactly what you mean money is so precious and should be used wisely.Some of our old friends called my husband and I were boring ,we found out we were expecting our son.Then we decided to cut back and save for the baby.So going out stopped although we did have the occasional night out sometimes.We only took a few pound enough for a couple of shandies or soft drinks.We were perfectly happy being like that,but these friends really upset me,by calling us boring and stick in the muds.So we broke up with them.They had four children between them to support and were always out and about ,clubbing and having a good time.Well that was up to them ,how they afforded to have a social life like that I will never know.Some people just do not have the right priorities.As long as they don't expect their sensible friends to bail them out.

well,people who get drunk and who don't pay their bills are peoples who have problems in there home.A bad relationship perhaps.so I think they should look after that problems in there home and that needs to be rectified first after that only people will come to their senses and behave as a good citizen,pay their bills and drink what they can afford.