Doesn't even bother to call his son on his birthday!

I have not faced this situation but yo are so angry because apart from childsupport etc he is seriously disrespecting your son.In later life - like his teens - this may result in him feeling abandoned by is father.Which he is. Is it possible to use some law enforcement to make him pay child support.?Go after the ba***rd and tell him that you hope that when your son is grown he will find him and beat the hell out of hm for disrespecting you both. I get so angry as I see it out here all of the time. So angry and it is the women who are suffering not the men who get another girl so easily.

my son is 7 and his father has spent most his time in jail he has nothing to with him. he seems to have no time to spend with him. but he can be 3 blocks away and cant seem to call or come see him or ask...........

How did your son take it? I'm sorry I didn't see this post sooner. You know mylot doesn't send me your posts and a few other's posts as well. It's been six days, has he contacted you since then? I just cannot fathom a parent who does nothing for their child. No money, no emotional support, no visits...your son is so blessed to have you.

that is just terrible. I think if a guy does that to his kid he should lose his rights to the child. He obviously doesn't care about him if he can't bother to call him on his birthday and holidays. how often does he see him? I don't blame you for being mad. I feel bad for your son.

For the sake of your sanity and the emotional health of your child, drop this sperm donor from the picture and keep him out. I agree, the way he neglects his child is terribly wrong but you (and others) continue to give him center stage on special days when he doesn't deserve to be anywhere near the theatre. Does passing along second hand best wishes help your son? Does allowing this man's absence help to cheer you on holidays? Cut the cord....live you life as if he did not exist at all. Don't let him mar yet another happy day.

my ex husband is the same,he only wanted the kids when we were together,as soon as we split he didn't want them,that was 11 years ago,in the 11 years since we split he's only bought 1 of his kids(i have 2 with him)a birthday present,no xmas presents or easter eggs,no phone calls unless his girlfriend at the time didn't mind him having kids,then he'd take them out for the odd day,untill they split then he didn't want to know them again,,the kids don't want to know him now,he tried to contact them after he got married,but they told him where to go

I feel you on this one totally. My two oldest daughters have the same dad and he can be the most ignorant man when it comes to his kids. As a mother there is not much that we can really do but try to make it up to our children through the love of us. It is to bad that alot of men can't appreciate what they have the way that we do. My daughters father also would never call or even care half the time he is however getting a bit better now over the years but our oldest is 8 now and our youngest together is 5. My baby who is almost two now is very lucky to have her father he is an amazing dad and she is his whole world. It is just too bad that every father can't be more like him.

My dad wasn't exactly a deadbeat father as he at least paid child support on time and I did get some presents, at least in the beginning anyway, but strangely enough after my sister moved out of our mom's a few years later when she was 17 (I was 15) the phone calls stop coming from him. So after that point whenever we'd talk on the phone I was the one that would have to make the first move and call him. To this day it is the same way. Go figure! LOL No exactly a vent, but thought I'd share it anyway. Happy mylotting!

That's pretty sad. My son's father has nothing to do with him either, but I'm greatful for that. I knew they'd never have a relationship from the beginning though. My son's father was already married when my son was concieved, and he lives in a different state. He was aware of my pregnancy, and after his failed attempts to convince me to put the child up for adoption, he did say he'd make an attempt to let my son know about him. It was my only request because I grew up without knowing so much as my father's name. Unfortunately all he ever did was try to convince me my life would be better without having a child, so I ended up being the one to tell him not to bother anymore. The last I spoke to him was around the time I finally went after him for child support, when my son was 5. He called a few times and sent birthday cards and such, but we moved shortly there after and he could no longer reach us. Like I said, I'm greatful. Not having his father in the picture has just made my life easier. My husband doesn't have to try to compete with another man, he stepped up and assumed the Daddy role the minute we found out the twins were on the way, and nobody has ever looked back. My other kids don't have to try to understand why their older brother has a different dad than them. It's just all around more peaceful.

I am so sorry to hear that. I know that it must be upsetting , but I think you shouldn't have to expect that something great would come from him. I mean, I have a busy parents as well, and they have never be at home when I was younger, but they were always there when I was in special days, birthday celebration, graduation, etc. I hope you can deal with this situation and try to explain to your son that he shouldn't have expected his father because his father would never come anyway.

What a jerk. It's such a shame that your ex is only thinking of himself. Take comfort in knowing that your son will grow to understand and it will be him that your ex has to face with his no good excuses. What then? Take care.

It only means that he doesnt love and care for your child. If he is a responsible father, he wont forget the special days that your son celebrates. I dont know if both of you are separated. I feel pity on your son because i understand the feeling of being neglected. I hope you could find a man who can stand as a father to your child.

That is so sad! to think that parents should be more affectionate to their kids! He is not supporting his son financially worst that simple greetings he can't do! I am a mother and very forgetful at times but I don't think I would ever forget to greet my son on his birthday or in any other special occasions... I don't mind if I forget to greet my friends or other relatives but with my child.. that is something else. I just can't imagine how his son feels about it.

that is not good, i am a mother of four, then tho my boys are not with me i try to always call and wish them a happy birthday or anything else.well he should call and wish his son a happy birthday i know that my youngest son is always happy when i call him,even if it is just to say hi and see how he is doing in school and things.my baby lives in washington st. but i still try to saty in touch a mother and or father should always talk with there kids and keep them close.sorry that this is not happening with you.

i can't say that his father doesn't love him because i don't know. but my husband is the same with his parents. they don't call him on his birthday and somewhat vise versa. thats just how he was raised not to put too much greif into those type of holidays. it's just a suggestion on what may be the reason. as for the not paying...well...a lot of people are doing that. if he can't give money, then time. but as long it doesn't cause the child harm. i hope things go well for your son and i hope he had a happy birthday!

Hurting him will only make you end up in jail and your kid will end up with him, and I guess you don't want that to happen. You can't force him to have feelings for his son, if he didn't want him you just can't make him love him. Or maybe that's how it was raised, he may love him but doesn't know how to show his affection towards him. He will realize later what mistake he made when his son won't even visit him when he's old and rusty