Did you ever loose something really significant?

Hello Karen, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Yes, the hardest losses are the loss of people we love. But I think, one which takes the longest time to recover from is the loss of self respect, dignity. Sometimes a bitter humiliation totally breaks you and everything seem to fall apart. Dear, I am really impressed by the way you tried to be strong and positive after all that. This is a very strong part of human nature. People stumble, but still regains their balance. Some of them even get stronger each time they stand up. I have high respect for those few. And yes, there is a process of denying ordinary human reactions just by analyzing it with practical point of view. As a matter of fact, problems are not solved at the same mental level you've created it. Thanks so much for such a wonderful response.. God bless you

We always take away valuable lessons from our losses. I agree that the longest recuperation time or rebuilding time occurs after loss of dignity or self-respect, for that is something we do strictly to ourselves. In fact, when I use the head and not the emotions, almost every thing negative I've experienced in life, when traced back to the true origins, was my own doing, either for a choice or decision I made, or for those I did not. It takes away the destructiveness of blaming others or life or God for all our misfortunes. Karen

Hello Karen, I really don't think there is any contradiction between the head and the emotions. They are not actually operated by different organs. When we point to our heart, we actually wanna point to our brains, because every emotion is controlled from that head quarter. The question is though, what to do with those emotions. The simplest answer is that we have to channelize it to the appropriate direction. One who can sense failure can also sense success. One who has a feeling of loss must have a feeling of being overjoyed by achievements. The idea is to stay calm and indifferent both to your positive and negative emotions. This can only be achieved by a true realization that God is behind every small thing that is happening to us and no matter how disgusting the situation we are in we will always be the most beloved children of him, his valuable treasure. He loves all of us equally and will continue doing that forever. He is the one who is truly the nearest, the closest and the most dependable. Thanks for such a nice contribution to the discussion God bless you

Hello, I totally understand your feeling and sentiment for the bracelet. You lost it, but gained so much in return. You've come through a very hard times, and lots of dilemma. But finally you've managed to clear out those ambiguities and reached a positive conclusion. I consider people, who haven't lost anything significant, highly unfortunate people. And I personally think, for every single thing we loose, we get something positive, firm. We change ourselves, expose ourselves to world and adopt it at every loss we incur. Thanks for such a wonderful response. Take care God bless you