Share the Pain / myLot

Philippines

January 11, 2010 8:01am CST

Suppose your bestfriend's mother is diagnosed w/cancer and your friends has fallen apart. What can you say to help her? Or maybe your buddy just got a phone call from his dad that the family business went bankrupt. How can you help him work through it? When someone goes through a time of sorrow or hurt, in some ways we want to help; often we don't know what to say and we don't want to make it worse. When someone you know is hurting deeply, are you available for them? How do you usually respond? Can you share your answers here...

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4 responses

sarahruthbeth22

@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)

• United States

18 Jan 10

All I can do is tell my friend that I'm here if they need me. If they need to talk I want them to feel free to write me.I check in to see how they are doing. That's all I can do.

ghieptc

@ghieptc (2522)

• Philippines

20 Jan 10

Yes, that's great!!Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Maybe you can try to talk to a counselor or a priest.

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wolvarein

@wolvarein (25)

• India

11 Jan 10

i will tell them about something more painful than they are going through then they might feel that there are people who are suffering more than us and so they wont feel that bad

ghieptc

@ghieptc (2522)

• Philippines

16 Jan 10

Don't worry about having the right words fro a friend who is hurting. Your willingness and your time to share his/her pain with sympathetic understanding will help the most.

Yasmin

@jasmeena (846)

• Indonesia

11 Jan 10

Support him or her..my best friend was diagnosed with cancer..she didn`t want to take chemoteraphy as it was so expensive, so she decided to use herbal medicine. Thanks God, now she has recovered and healthy..she is married with 5-year old daughter..A best friend is a friend who is available for help and support, no matter how bad the situation is

ghieptc

@ghieptc (2522)

• Philippines

16 Jan 10

I'm sorry to hear that, I was praying that God will protect you from harm/sick and give you the strength so you could still go on with your lives. Thank you!

skbrence

@skbrence (475)

• Philippines

11 Jan 10

Well, I'm always available to my friends who are in need but still, it depends with the situation. If he/she is suffering from "FINANCIAL PROBLEMS/CONCERNS" I would intentionally be absent. xD Anyways, you could give that friend who suffers advices, encouraging words and some words of wisdom. You could tell/him her that it is not the end of the world.

@ghieptc (2522)

• Philippines

16 Jan 10

That was a good answer, I think your friends might understand when it comes FINANCIALLY. And sometimes it's hard to give money to a friend if we are still dependent to someone.