Maturity (rant)

Wicked, you are young. I understand you have great ideals and you really think you KNOW your world, maybe better than most of us here at the Lot, we all did at your age. Becoming a parent didn't make you an adult. Turning 18 didn't make you an adult. Being an adult means you are completely self sufficient in housing, clothing, feeding, transporting, medical & dental and (day) caring for you and yours. No parents helping out, no anyone covering your rent or car insurance, no welfare check, but a PAY CHECK that is consistent. You have all that? If so Then your an adult, congratulations. Theres no prize, just bills that gotta get paid. I saw the conversation here you were called immature, and darling, you WERE being immature, your just to young to see where you made mistakes. When going into a conversation, be like tree, bend with the wind, not against it. But if flaming is all you got.... It gets better in time, stick with it, kiddo, you'll be fine. happy lotting!

Silly as it sounds but maturity is a word used to describe an adult who already is matured emotionally and intellectually. But people sometimes don't act as one because they often times forget they are already adult and sometimes act much worst than the younger person. I think most of us here still has a child lurking deep inside us. And that child in us sometimes refuse to grow up. That is why sometimes we don't act our true matured age. Maturity can be attained if we just strive hard to reach it. With out maturity everything else in this world is only full of childs play.

Hi, wickedlove. Sometimes it can be this way, especially if the person is acting immature as the other person is. I don't know why others do this but that is how they are. They think that the person that they are fighting with is immature. But in reality it is them that is being immature with the way they are responding. They need to just take a good and long hard look at themselves before they decide to call someone immature, when they are immature too.

yes... i may even be one of them. not exactly, but for the past few days, i have been behaving in such a way, that would later make me realise that it was childish... just today for example, i was being stubborn and nonsensical, just wanting some attention, and had a fight with this friend. later, about 10 mins later, i realised that i had behaved very immaturely. i should not expect people to give me attention, just because i am free to take it. they might be busy, have other things on their mind, etc... i have since apologised to my friend, and things are on their way back to normal. but this had worried me a little. i used to think myself a mature person, but lately, i have begun to doubt it... i wish this is just a phrase that i may be going through, and that things would be normal again very soon...

For me, maturity is that stage in your life where u tend to be more logical, more considerate and more patient. But getting older doesn't exempts us for being imperfect human beings,does it? People lose their temper regardless of their age and gender.And sometimes even if we think we are mature, there are times when we really can't handle a situation and we just misbehave even if we are fully aware that we are misbehaving. I speak for myself, altough i can say that i have cooled down a lot with age. Hope ur havin a great week!!!

inside our head,that is growing mentally, that is maturity. we can't use the word (maturity) for negative respond. we must think positively, if we can't do that, we are not MATURE

my ex used to do this. calling someone else immature was the biggest insult he could think of,sort of implying more that someone's stupid. the amusing thing was he said it while throwing a hissy fit..it was hard to keep from laughing sometimes. it definitely is used as a putdown sometimes,but as you said,better to walk away.even if only to stop hearing it.

I don't think calling someone immature makes you immature or mature. It just means that, in your opinion, they are less mature then you are. That could very well mean that you are immature but the other person is more immature then you. It could also mean that you are very mature and are just stating a fact about the other persons actions being immature.

This is a hard question...Maturity can be a hard thing to decifer in some people. While they may act mature to one, and not the other. Sometimes people like to put others down by calling them immature and sometimes they are right. I had a friend in HS who thought she was so much more mature than everyone else..she was always telling everyone that...I don't think she was at all mature..she'd never hear anyone else's point of view but her own, and then call you immature for not agreeing with her. I think it's all in the situation. The mature way to act...walk away, talk it out, it's all situational. by the way..This is a great controversial question :)

I looked at your question not because it said "maturity" but because it said "rant". Rants are usually entertaining. Calling someone "immature" in the course of a disagreement is the same as the type of classifying used in modern political discussion. Look at how many times some statement or proposal is condemned in an oral or written discussion by using the terms "liberal" or "socialist". These kinds of tags are intended to produce an emotional response rather than a rational one. Often the use of such terminology will escalate a discussion rather than de-fuse it. People throw tags back and forth and everybody gets mad and nothing is resolved. I would not say that calling somebody "immature" is a sign of immaturity in the speaker. I would say it is not useful in resolving any issue.

Yes it has become a generic insult to call someone 'immature' or to say 'Oh, grow up', and yes you are right to say that often it is those using silly childish arguments who resort to such tactics. if they had a good argument, they wouldn't need to . Also it is a pretty general truth that people hate in others what they secrectly hat in themselves. Maybe those people who use this as an insult secrectly fear that they haven't quite grown up yet. I also believe that we are all growing and maturing all the time.