Which would you choose -being happy or being peaceful?

Hi vijayanths, how can I be happy without being peaceful? I can be peaceful without being happy. Peace to me is a stage when you dont really desire anything. And sorrows or injustices or other pains do not disturb you. Happiness I think is a stage where there are no sorrows, and pains, and in addition, you may possess or get what you desire! So from my angle, I think happiness is superior or the whole set, and peace is subset. I'd choose happiness. :)

vijayanths to me being happy is being peaceful and b eing peaceful is being happy, two side of the same coin and I cannot believe you would be happy if you were also in great turmoil' so peace goes with happiness. And you cannot be peaceful if you are very unhappy so happiness goes with peace. they belong together not separated at all.

From your discussion, I feel that you are referring to that stage where a person has no problems as one with “peace’ and a person having all his desires fulfilled as being a “happy’ person. Now, I feel that this is very complex to categorize. [As Hatley had pointed out]. Moreover the real definition of the words too, though not particularly interchangeable seems to be linked. ; while peace is defined as ‘serene’ the word’ happy is defined as showing ‘contentment’. Like how you have defined it as a stage without problems, I have another kind of self-definition for this-This is of course barring unforeseen misfortunes, difficulties and circumstances that are beyond our control. Normally, a person is bound to be a bit stressed and unhappy on such occasions .There may be a disruption of external or internal peace of that person. A person who is generally peaceful within oneself makes peace with whatever he /she has , whatever difficulty he /she faces and is thereby happy. But, one thing, Vijayanths! Whenever our happiness is dependent on another person or based on some expectation /fulfillment of sorts, then peace becomes directly dependent on this. As you had said, fighting with spouse and not talking with him/her may make us feel unhappy and keep us like that till the problem is sorted out. This is because we are emotionally attached to the person. We want everything to be harmonious and peaceful. [See once again the terms come together].On the other hand, if a person is not too emotionally attached, then these things do not bother him/her. So, to me, being peaceful without problems would be my priority because I will automatically be happy then.

My view is this, when you are peaceful, it includes the word happy there. For me being peaceful is happiness. Being peaceful is free from problems, free from trouble, free from noise, when people find peace there is happiness inside. Some says that being peaceful means boring, no, me I always long for it. when i find peace i will not let go of it. I hope everyone of us find peace in their life. Peace will be found if we unite of the things that will be good for all of us. Make peace not war. Be responsible and understanding. I still choose peace as I found true happiness there.

Hi Vijayanths! I think both peace and happiness are part of the same recipe where both ingredients are necessary. If either are missing then life is not complete. I also think that both happiness and peace are part of the same spirit and we can enjoy them both at the same time, no matter what is happening externally in our life. They are internal matters of the heart. We can put in our heart what we want to put there. We can let grow in our hearts what we plant there. So, may you enjoy a happy and peaceful life!

I think peace and happiness are interrelated. I mean if you are happy it means you are at peace and if you are at peace then you are happy.

hi vijayanths, I really think that the two go hand in hand. I can' t imagine one without the other. If i'm at peace with myself then I'm without a doubt very happy and content. Likewise if I'm happy and content then I am at peace. You can't have one without the other in my opinion. If you can then I would love to read that response and logic.

Hi vijayanths, For me happiness and peace are one and the same. When I'm at peace, I am happy and when I'm happy I'm at peace. I can't imagine it being any different for me at least, but of couse we are all different. Blessings.

I have to say that I want to have peace in my life. Because if my life is peaceful then I believe that I will be happy with that. I agree with you, you need peace when you have a lot of problems and when you have attained that peace that you want, then you will also achieve the happiness that you want.

hello vijayanths... with me, i found happiness at peace... i remeber when i as younger, our family do have lots of troubles, mom & dad always fighting...no peace at home! and no matter how much i try, i can't be completely happy...although i can feel some happiness with my friends and with other people, but all those happiness are just temporary and i still feel that something is missing and when i am back to our house, alone, i feel that i am not really that happy... not until we finally have peace in our home...mom & dad change for the better, they don't fight anymore, i have peace with my father and my parents have peace with each other...we have peace in relation to our God...and from then on, i finally feel what's real happiness all about... so for me, without peace, peace of mind, i can't be completely happy...

I would rather choose to become peaceful than happy. One cannot be happy if your in a situation where you don't have peace (both inner and outer). But one can be happy if both of these things are in peace. For those people living in war stricken countries, they do not enjoy happiness in their lives as there are always the possibilities of war. The peace would bring happiness for those people who wanted it.

I would choose to be happy. Lately, things have been so tough on my husband and I that it has made me depressed. All I do is sleep and come online. Whenever possible I do not go out. I will go out to the grocery store once a week, but other than that I do not. I am unable to find work and everytime I call the places where I have applications in all I hear is that sorry we are not hiring right now. I wish this economy will get better soon. I am tired of being depressed.

I would choose being happy then peaceful because happiness lasts forever. Nobody can take your joy away from you as long as you think positive!!!

Hello Vijaynths, Actually i think if there is happyness its not neccesery that peace would be there but if peace is there sure happyness is there............. but if u r using term peace as a satisfaction then i m sure both cases it will be same and related to each other....................Regards,

I think of peace and happiness as the same thing. I am happiest when my life is peaceful and I am at peace when I am feeling happy, therefore I believe the two feelings go hand in hand and allow you to feel content, oh oh there goes another feeling you get with being happy and peaceful, content.

I will choose peaceful first and then happiness. Because of the peaceful we will find happiness. It is impossible if we find happiness without peaceful. And I think that is interlocked. Happiness is difficult to obtain if we are not peaceful.

Can I choose to be both? I think no true happiness will come to you if you do not have peace in your heart and mind. One cannot also have peace when one is not happy, so I think these two are closely related. When we chase for happiness we are actually chasing for peace. When there is peace at home, in the workplace, anywhere in our environment, it is very easy to smile and be truly happy. One cannot separate one from the other. They are interrelated.

its all in yours if you don't have major problems you feel happy for that,you don't have any self control there will not make u peaceful to live.

Human being want to get happiness. Main motto of a human being is peace in life.Industry will give happiness in every life but everyone cannot be satisfied with money or luxury. Everyone have to face problems, obstacles. These obstacles can be overcome.

personally i wouldnt take one over the other.. peace is one thing.. but happiness is pretty much everything.. if everything is peaceful.. then you better be damnd that i am happy