how far should you go in telling others about your relationship?
By hlgracey
@hlgracey (68)
Philippines
January 11, 2010 9:23pm CST
Its okay to tell others about your relationship, but it's very important to watch what you say,when you talk about things that would embarrass your partner.you destroy all the loyalty and trust both of you built up, and lose your partner's confident also.
4 responses
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
12 Jan 10
The main things I won't disclose about my husband are
#1: Pen1s size - no matter how big or small, no other woman needs to know about it! haha
#2: Any true fears that he has - If they are true sincere, deep fears that he humbles himself enough to let me in on, that information WILL NOT be passed to anyone else. If he says like "spiders"... then I'll tell someone. :)
#3:If he ever says "Promise not to tell anyone???" Unless its something ridiculous and it makes me laugh when he tells me... but I usually warn him that I'll probably tell somebody down the line cuz its silly
And that about covers it! haha
Anything else is pretty much fair game! If he farts real loud in the car and makes the cd player skip - you better believe I'm telling someone about THAT one! And if he ever competes in a snowmobile race, no matter what he places, I'm gonna brag him up! And if he ever does me wrong, my friends and family will know because i will lean on them.
If there are problems, then you darn well better talk to someone about it! And if you're scared or worried that something bad is going to happen then you better spill your guts!
What kind of things would you be afraid to mention about your significant other?
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Well, the "women" that you speak of that reveal embarassing information about their partner to get a joke or a laugh out of it, are not "women" at all but simply girls. Silly, foolish girls.
If you know and care for your partner in the way that you should, you kind of just come to an unspoken understanding about what is to be revealed about your relationship and what to keep between the two of you.
Say if your partner is bad in bed, or a guys' girlfriend gets a "girly" infection or something of that nature. The "girls" and "boys" will bring it up to embarass the other one and get a good laugh, but they're just jerks anyway. lol
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
I don't think so we can reveal everything about our relationship even to our closest friends. There are some issues that we should only keep between the two of you. There are some things that you don't need to tell to anyone because it might ruin your relationship. Once you intend to reveal some things about your relationship a person must be trustworthy enough to keep it too.
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
yah that's ryt..whatevr u say to your friends we must have a limitations,..there are some certain things that we need to keep it in our own..based on my experience,Even if I had a problem with my husband I keep it to myself,But Lately, I feel more comfortable if i say it to my husband even if it hurts him.I just wanted to be honest with him in evrything that I do.
@ghieptc (2522)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
That's also my point. If there's something about your relationship that you need to work out try to settle it first between the two of you. Once you've tried settling it in just the two of you and it didn't work out good then I think that's the time you need back up..friends! But ofcourse, limit yourself. Whoever fault it was it shouldn't sound like you're just on one side of the boat. Still you need to be open minded that your purpose is how to fix issues between the two of you and not just to brought it up, be sentimental and have someone to take on your side..
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
why there should be limits in telling others about one's relationship? having a relationship is something that one can be proud of, unless there is something illegal or immoral in the relationship such as incest or socially and culturally taboo. setting aside those kind of relationships, one should be open and confident of one's relationships with someone special. the trust and loyalty of each other do not depend on what one says about the relationship. goodluck and stay in the relationship that makes you grow and healthy.
@meng23 (145)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
I agree. You should always watch everything that you will say.Actually everything that happens between you specially those complicated things should be kept in private unless it has permission from your partner. A relationship needs a privacy sometimes in order to avoid conflicts, lost of trust, and to hurt once feelings. So be careful always about the details you will say.
@hlgracey (68)
• Philippines
12 Jan 10
yes that's true..We should respect the privacy of our partners.After all whatever h have, it may be good or bad, we love our partner..so we need to know our limitations in talking about the relationship.In one way or another,He's reputation is also connected in you...So try to patch up things before it gets worst..ryt