Playing it real Cool.....

I know that is one of my life lessons! The ability to keep calm when things are stressful is a gift I think! I have often said that it is all about letting go of results and allowing life to flow freely. It sounds like such an easy thing to do but not so easy to put it into practice! We stress and panic because we want to be able to control situations because we sometimes lack the faith that things will always happen with the best outcome for us.

everything has become hard..finding peace, finding good way to earn, finding good partner, in such conditions being cool is really difficult....life is full of stress, and though you from your heart don't want to misbehave or treat your children bad, or fight with your partners, it happens accidentally, we can try to avoid them my listening to music, releasing our stress by whatever means we find suitable, going out with family, having fun for sometime, all these things will help us keep cool, very rare families are there who are happy and having no tension, so just relax...and be as much good as possible...

I agree. A calm disposition, and, or, peaceful faith makes a storm of trouble clear up faster, and makes us better able to deal with things..

You´re right. There´s no use in trying to solve a problem if the mind is not cool, calm and collected. I guess that someone with the same point of view invented the saying: "sleep over it and then..." Meditation like "Raja Yoga" can be very helpful to attain a more serene attitude in my opinion.

I am not sure why we persist in being disturbed, but you are right. When we can keep our cool we do much better. When we reach a point where we can no longer maintain our cool reserve,then it is a time for a change instead of a time to become tormented.

I believe in keeping cool and handling things logically myself. Some people in business have accused me of "not having a sense of urgency" though.

I certainly agree with you. Play it cool is hard yet desirable to a great extent. If only we can train ourselves to be such, I am sure many will be rid of many ill-health problems, subsequently financial problems can be lessen cos lesser burden due to better health and eventually one can enjoy family peace etc.. What a cool world!

You are right, if we can keep our heads and not panic we will be able to handle things better. Getting overwhelmed by problems is common because we lose perspective--all we can see is what is wrong. By the time we remember to step back and look at the whole picture, we've gone through a lot of self-inflicted torment.

Hello my friend sukumar794 Ji, One may follow at least one of the following to remain coll and peaceful under all such conditions described by you :- [b]"SATSANG (a) ”If you can balance /stable your mind, when people around you are in un-balanced , and at the same time blaming you”. (NO-reaction) (b) “If you have belief on yourself, when others have doubt and at the same time, you strongly oppose their belief of their doubt” (c) “If you can wait for Good/Bright days without loosing patience/getting disheartened of waiting”. (d) “Everyone around you is deceiving you , whereas you are not in any way.” (e) “ Every body hates you and you do not, at the same time, you ARE not proud to be ‘good’ and ‘wise’. (f) “ If you Can dream, but do not allow them to overpower you, and you Can ‘think’ but at the same time, do not plunge into dreams of ‘thinking”. (g) “If you can welcome ‘gains’ and ‘defeat’ OR ‘profit’ & ‘loss’ with open hearts and they do not unbalance your mind”. (h) “If you can accept your own words in twisted/mutilated /distorted form, happily by ‘fools’ and they do not involve you in their bad plans”. (i)“ If you Can bear/tolerate the ‘gains’ accomplished by you ‘raise to ashes’ , for which you took whole life to build, and at the same time you can once again order your tired hands to restart making”. (J) “ If you can take one chance to reduce your gains in your life, ‘loose’ or ‘gain’ (like a great gambler) (k)“If you can, after loosing every bit in your life, get ready fresh to obtain the same with total energy from all corners of your body and mind, without uttering a single word even”. (l)“ If you Can compel your heart, mind and limbs, when they are so tired and refuse to accept any thing, except that your ‘belief’ and ‘desire’ to order them that they have to march forward and not falling back”. (m) “ If you can roam in crowds, but do not allow your ‘thoughts’ and ’abilities’ to wander stray, and you live with emperor, but do not neglect common man “. (n) “ If you are unharmed by people loving you and people hating you”. (o)“ If you Can respect everybody within the limits, but at the same time nobody”. (p)“ IF YOU CAN REMEMBER THE UN-EXCUSED MOMENT/SECOND (time) OF YOUR LIFE, AND EXPLAIN THE REASON FOR THE SAME”. Then, the whole world belongs to you only and every thing that exists on this, at the same time you fall under the category of ‘ACTUAL HUMAN BEING ’, which is greatest achievement in the life than any thing else”."[/b] May God bless You and have a great time.