Will you date someone, your friends hated?
@AjaySinghBaghel (5506)
India
January 12, 2010 8:46am CST
You are in love and want the whole world to know about it. Dates are personal choices and as friends we sometimes forget that. We have a tendency to look at the people our friends date and that is where problem starts.
We get to date whomever we want, if your friends are just that, they will accept your choices the way that you accept theirs. All relationships have some kind of boundries, not the kind that should never be broken.
Do you agrre its ok if you date someone who is disliked in your close friend circle?
Your thoughts?
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6 responses
@redwarrior82 (480)
• Singapore
12 Jan 10
I think it should be okay, if you like your partner. But don't forget about friends, because they're more important .
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Jan 10
I would date the guy I like but if my friends didn't like him I would keep them separate. In other words I would go out with my friends one night and when with my lover the next night.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
14 Jan 10
For you it should be okay. But for your friends they might feel betrayed. However, the choice here is to risk losing your friends because they don't like the person you are dating and keep their distance when you are with this person. We expect our friends to accept our choices as we would theirs but friends are humans and as humans we react. I have a friend whose husband I hate. I never call her when he's home. I never get together with her if there's a chance he'll come with her. She knows I don't like him, never did, but she is fine with it. However, her husband is not fine with and it's a bit complicated but again I know that if she cuts off from me it isn't because she doesn't like the fact that I dont' like her husband but because she needs to put her husband first.
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
12 Jan 10
Hello AjaysingBaghel,
Yes, I have dated in the past someone who my friends and children did not like.
But you must listen to there concerns because sometimes they see what you cannot see and I learned that the hardway. Love is blind to there bad points or values that will cause conflict over ther years....remember you only see what you want see, hear what you want hear... gut on the other hand is usually never wrong and friends and family concerns are for you and your heart so it will not be broken like mine was....
Have a Great day
Sincerely Unique16
@abhijeetbhagat (67)
• India
13 Jan 10
friends or foe all have their equal importance... Dating with someone is a question of myown self. maybe my friends are not aware of the virtues of person i am dating.
I see nothing wrong.
@washingtonmark (367)
• United States
12 Jan 10
There is actually a good chance your friends will not like your significant other because they take time away from your friends and more times than not people choose the significant other most of the time rather than there friends.
